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| Being unique? |
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| Anonymous |
| 10/23/03 at 22:33:25 |
| assalamu alaikum I need some serious advice please. This has been bothering me for years. I know part of the answer but, its just not working out. Well, i'm the only practising person in my household. Alhamdu washukru lillah for the guidance He ta'ala blessed me with. But, how do I explain this, its like everyone's still asleep, and I woke up, I want to wake them up too but I'm afraid if I do, I'll get them all mad at me (kinda like anti-da'wa). From the bottom of my heart, I do not want to be singled out as the 'religious person' of my family, I want us all to be real 'ibaad of Allah ta'ala. I know patience is important. When I first got into practising, I had the 'enjoin what is good, forbid what is evil in-your-face attitude (I was still in my teenage years then)and that wasn't too successful. It got attention and brought about some awareness, but not much change. So, I decided, try your best by setting an example. But, now I feel like everyone is relieved I've stopped talking about Islam. (yeah, unless i'm talking with my mom, I usually get yelled at for mentionning even my own thoughts about things in an Islamic mindset) Please make dua for me, my family and the ummah. Please, I need some advice. |
| Re: Being unique? |
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| Nomi |
| 10/24/03 at 01:05:32 |
| [slm] anon [i](i dont really like to address ppl as "anons", why dont you sign up ?) [/i] We had this discussion a while back that might be helpful to you [url=http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=madrasa;action=display;num=1064980236][color=Blue]Discussion Link [/color][/url] Hope this helps remember me in your duas [slm] Your brother. |
| 10/24/03 at 01:06:41 |
| Nomi |
| Re: Being unique? |
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| lucid9 |
| 10/25/03 at 04:06:41 |
| [slm] dear anon there are lots of people around just like you. islam sometimes thrives in strange places, and it is not so uncommon to find a very relgious person in a very unreligious family. here is some advice: (1) don't be too preachy or bossy. if you do everybody will think you are a fanatic and you'll then turn them off from islam. and it is better to be silent then be a turn off. (2) having said that, mention islamic things every now and then. mention some hadith or ayaat, etc. but do it in a nice way. you might think that it passes through one ear and out the other. but believe me, some part remains, and people remember it. (3) be kind and nice to everybody in your family. religious counseling backed up by beautiful behaviour carries a lot more weight than mere religious preaching (4) don't expect too much too soon. remember that many of prophet's relatives delayed becoming muslim for 20 years. and his beloved uncle Abu Talib never publicly declared his faith. religion sometimes take a long time to take root and thrive in a person's heart. your job is simply to make the soil a bit fertile, and water the growing buds when they begin to grow. (5) only Allah guides, and not you yourself. you can do everything you possibly can think of and do it in vain since in the end -- it is allah who guides not you. so don't despair and place your trust in Allah. But insha Allah if you are patient and really love your family everything will work out in the long run. And there are a lot people in much worse situations. For example, there are many muslims who's parents aren't muslim or only one is. And despite their efforts their parent(s) shy away from islam all together. Alhumdulillah as a "born" muslim you don't have to deal with that. best wishes, and may Allah give us all patience... [slm] |
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