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| M.F. |
| 10/24/03 at 07:11:59 |
| Assalamu alaikum, It's been a while! Motherhood has kind of swallowed me up. It's the hardest thing that I've ever had to do in my life, and it's only been five months :) I don't have any more time for myself really, which is why I haven't come to the board for a very long time. Or I come on once in a while, read the main headlines (Mabrook se7en on your engagement and ghetto hijabi on your marriage, that's all I've retained at the moment). I haven't had a complete night's sleep in over 5 months, my baby wakes up every 2 hours. The books lied about everything. They don't sleep through the night at 3 months, they don't eat only every 3 hours, they don't fall asleep in their cribs alone, they don't get over colic at 3 months, 3 months is not too early for teething (4 teeth already folks!) you CAN spoil them before 4 or 5 months, they DON'T stop biting when nursing when you yell at them (my baby smiles up at me thinking I'm joking when I yelp at his biting), it takes a LOT more than 500 extra calories to breastfeed, you WON'T be back to your old self --- ever again probably, breastfeeding DOES ruin what's left of your breasts after pregnancy, you and your husband WON'T be able to make time for each other and even if you could, you're both too darn tired to even look at each other. They didn't lie about your hair falling out, about your weight not going back down to your normal unless you seriously exercise (like you'll ever have the time or energy again), about stretch marks NEVER going away. On the bright side, my arms have gotten super strong from lugging all 18 pounds or so of him for 3 or four hours a day. And that's where I've been, in case you wondered :) I miss people! :) love y'all mariam |
| 10/24/03 at 07:14:33 |
| M.F. |
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| Maliha |
| 10/24/03 at 07:33:24 |
| [slm] :o :o :o Great MF! and here I was actually considering to have me own li'l one... sigh...you have just added to me list of excuses many more :P Nice seeing you though:) I pray Allah eases your affairs and gives you the time to connect and be yourself once more:) and who says you need to be ya self anywho..motherhood adds tons of inner dimensions that make you more beautiful than ever :-* May Abdullah (right?) grow up to be a Walad Salih, who will make your soul smile in amazement and gratitude for all the nights you did stay awake and the strong powerful arms you embraced him with :) Take care sis:) and Ramadhan Mubarak ;) thinking twice bout dem babies :-) [wlm] |
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| tq |
| 10/24/03 at 08:15:06 |
| Assalamo elikuim Glad to know you are doing "fine" Sister :). Inshallah things will improve and Inshallah your son will be able to sleep all through the night :) First ones are always difficuilt , you are not used to waking up in the night or rather not sleeping all through the night :) , your schedule is messed up or rather there is no schedule :) But things will Inshallah improve, there will be a schedule in near future :) - so hang in there. Best wishes Wasalam tq |
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| theOriginal |
| 10/25/03 at 09:25:24 |
| [slm] MashaAllah.... As long as the cute factor makes up for the rest of it. :) And we miss you too, em eff :) You are in my duaas. Wasalaam. |
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| Fozia |
| 10/25/03 at 10:54:19 |
| [slm] Your baby should start sleeping through once you begin weaning Inshallah. Or you could do what I did, have the crib pulled up to the bed with the side down so when he wakes you can take him into bed with you and feed him and put him back without completely waking, if he bites how about expressing your milk and bottled feeding him instead???, Fatima thinks it's hysterical to bite down to see my reaction too. Regarding your figure try wearing really good supportive garments.....day and night::) apparently it's the only way to retain your figure, you'll definitely loose the weight though. I have completely although my stomach still depressingly holds far to much a semblance of a deflated balloon for my liking, albeit less than it did a few months back :o. For stretch marks have you tried bio-oil I don't know if you get it in the States but it really works:), however you do have to find the time to massage it into your stomach morning and night:P. Other than that enjoy your baby:-*, before you know it he won't be a baby anymore. Wasalaam |
| 10/25/03 at 10:55:48 |
| Fozia |
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| Caraj |
| 10/25/03 at 18:13:10 |
| M.F. I see you are on the board this minute yipeeeee :-/I am waving at you can you see me waving at you ;) Hi there, I see you have been so busy. Please know we always wonder how you and your baby are doing. Thank you for letting us know you are still out here. |
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| Halima |
| 10/26/03 at 04:57:03 |
| [slm] Sis M.F.! Glad to hear from you. Yes, it hard at the begginning but you will eventually realize that it is worth it all. You are in our prayers. [wlm] Halima |
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| gift |
| 10/27/03 at 05:20:35 |
| [slm] M.F Mubrook on the birth of your little one. :-* INshallah Allah 'azza wa jal will make him worth all of that effort - and Inshallah some day he'll remember everything you did for him. [wlm] |
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| Kathy |
| 10/27/03 at 08:41:14 |
| [wlm] Been missing you too! Can't wait for the stories/ humor! |
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| Barr |
| 11/04/03 at 05:54:22 |
| [wlm] warahmatullah wabarakaatuh... Hey... I missed you too. Been wondering how its been... and err... U nearly got me scared abt babies ;) Take care and Ramadan Mubarak :) P.S. Ghetto Hijabi.. Mabrook for your coming marriage! Alhamdulillah :) I can just imagine the things going on your head now ;) |
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| Shahida |
| 11/04/03 at 06:26:31 |
| [slm] and [] M.F!! We have all missed you!!! I think about you often, and hope that You and Abdullah are doing great! Not that I can understand what you are going through, but I am making Duaa that things get easier for you inshaAllah! Whatever you go through, Allah is there to reward you inshaAllah. Pop in again soon ok? And dont feel bad for your post, this is something I think most women can relate to, whether or not we have babies yet. We need to know *all* about it, inshaAllah, otherwise we would get caught thinking it is the easiest thing in the world, and have the shock of our lives when it turns out to be ven harder than we expected! :o Thanks for your post, and glad you're still out there, inshaAllah. Praying that things get easy for you-salam Your sis Shahida :-) |
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