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| What's a girl to do when her heart is broken..... |
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| Sunnah_ |
| 11/16/03 at 18:07:09 |
| Salam Hey guys just need to let some stuff out. I know before I was talking about wedding dress's and this great muslim guy I was getting to know and thought would lead to marriage for sure.....I guess I jumped the gun in my own mind. I honestly thought this one felt so different from others that I have spoken too......I really felt that he was the one and everything fit just perfect together. Everything was great, our last conversation went so well......then he stopped calling me. It's been 2 weeks. This is so strange. I knew he felt the same as me.....What's going on? I feel so sick to my stomach, I can't stand the thought of losing him. I know Allah has our futures planned out, but I always seem to have bad luck with guys. Why do u think he would have stopped calling? Guys...wouldn't you at least make that phone call and express that your not interested anymore or if there was someone else in the picture? I didn't think he was the kind of person to leave me sitting in the dark wondering what happened. I honestly have no clue. Anyways, thanks for listening everyone. Plus if there are any brother's out there on the hunt.......you know where to look me up, hahahaha sis Sunnah_ |
| Re: What's a girl to do when her heart is broken.. |
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| Nurayn |
| 11/16/03 at 18:57:49 |
| [slm] I know it's hard advice to take, but don't worry too much about it. You could be worrying for nothing and everything could turn out just the way you wanted it to. And if not, then don't forget that Allah tests people with things they don't like but there's good in it for them. Try to calm you heart down and rely on Allah to give you what's best for you. And if this guy is really so great and you two connected so well, there's a good chance you will end up together. I know how you feel and so my heart goes out to you and will pray for you :-* [wlm] :-) |
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| Sunnah_ |
| 11/16/03 at 21:46:05 |
| Salam Nurayn. Thanks for replying. Yes, that is what I am hoping for....things to work out the way I always thought it would. He is a great guy and wallah we connected perfectly! Nothing was wrong. I am really hoping (not that I want anything bad to happen with him) that he's got a lot going on right now or there is a really good reason, because we talked everyday at least twice a day. I just hope that he is not giving me the shaft and that this is his way of doing it is not calling. I still have this strong feeling that we are ment to be with eachother, but it's killing me not knowing what's going through is head. I guess all I can do is make Dua'a Sis Sunnah_ |
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| timbuktu |
| 11/17/03 at 09:46:40 |
| [slm] i all circumstances, ask Allah (swt), & rely on him. raed the Quran to bring calm to you. |
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| yumna |
| 11/17/03 at 16:33:37 |
| [slm]hey sis if he didn't call u should have tried an ...well maybe Allah forbid somthin happened 2 him... u should find out.....an plz do stay relaxed and keep a cool head :-* |
| Re: What's a girl to do when her heart is broken.. |
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| Maliha |
| 11/17/03 at 18:20:19 |
| [slm] My dearest sis Sunnah, sigh...indeed Allah tests all of us with different calamities of varying degrees, and the victory goes *always* to the ones who practise patience and turn to Allah in distress and happiness. Sometimes things happen and they are camouflaged so well, that we fail to see their long term benefit or long term harm...That's why Allah warns us about liking something that could be harmful to us or disliking something that could be beneficial to us. Did you pray Istikhara on this encounter? Perhaps you did and if you didn't please do so, again and again, and let your heart rest in the warm spaces of Tawakkul...that render our wills completely baseless and fleeting with the tantalizing promises of Jannah, our eternal blissful abode. Know that it could be soo many reasons that he hasn't called...we could spend a long time going thru' the possibilities. But have you found out if he is at least okay? maybe not sick? suffering? etc. I think you should at least enquire from a third party if you are too shy to call him, to just see if he is okay. Once you ascertain his well being, then just firm your resolve to spend these last slipping moments of Ramadhan to drag your whole being onto the doorstep of Allah's Mercy and beg, plead, weep to taste the truest meaning of submission and the bittersweetest sip of heart strengthening Imaan to drown out your hearts cries into joyful songs of Praises and Glorification. My sis, know that your provisions (including your husband to be and even friends) have been written for you before you were even born! Why worry about this issue now, when the Most Merciful, Most Gracious, the Knower of All the Unseen Secrets, your Rabb, Sustainer has already allocated for you a handsome Mujaahid, who is waiting just for the right time to come sweep you off your feet? Why not spend these sacred moments preparing yourself, adorning your heart, to meet the other half of your trembling soul, so that together you will stand before Allah beaming with the brightness of the full moon when she gazes upon her sun. time is fleeting and who knows some of us may not wake to see tommorow's sunny rays...please pray and focus on the essentials of your own soul, and let Allah take care of the peripherial matters of our existence...Also remember my dear sis, Allah only tests those whom He loves the most...He is calling you out of the millions of struggling souls..He is calling you to join His elite ranks..who could turn down such a beautiful invitation? It may seem hard now but it will pass like many other things, and if he is not meant to be, don't cry baby your naseeb will come and you will look back at this, as one of those funny ironic twists of life.... {{{{{huggggsssss}}}}}} your sis in struggle :-) [wlm] |
| 11/17/03 at 18:22:02 |
| Maliha |
| Re: What's a girl to do when her heart is broken.. |
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| Sunnah_ |
| 11/18/03 at 17:25:53 |
| Salam guys. Thanks for replying. I have tried to call him a few times and left him a few messages. No, I haven't prayed ishtikaraa....I don't know why I havent! Inshallah I will today. I do feel a little more relaxed now from your words. Thank you once again.........inshallah khair. I will keep you guys posted Sis Sunnah_ [] |
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