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I need serious help!!!
amkamb
11/18/03 at 21:45:48
Looking for an answer: Assalaamu alaykum. I am a mother of two children. One is a year and half, the other is 3 months. Ever since I had my children, I have been unable to do my night prayers, fast, read the Qur'an, study hadiths and read books on Islam. I love to learn and memorise the Qur'an. But for the past year or so, it has been extremely hard for me to do all the things I just mentioned. It makes me feel miserable. My duties as a housewife, mother, wife are overwhelming and leaves me little time to study or read the Qur'an. I can't say I regret having children nor can I say I dislike taking care of them. But it is robbing me of a lot of reward I would have otherwise gained if I hadn't any children.   Is it better for us therefore not to have children? Please help. I need some answers. - Aminah

Re: I need serious help!!!
timbuktu
11/18/03 at 22:12:31
[slm] you see, the Quran & Hadith is not just for reading & memorising. This is deen:- to live your life according to Allah's commands, with submission to HIS will. & the merits you are gaining for bringing up two children, as muslims! & your duties as housewife, surely get you more hasanaat. insha`Allah, you will have time & strength to learn & practice, not much later in life.
11/18/03 at 22:16:00
timbuktu

Re: I need serious help!!!
amkamb
11/18/03 at 22:41:05
Are there any hadiths that prove that women get more hasanahs looking after their children and family?  Please, if you know about these hadiths, I want to know them. Aminah

Re: I need serious help!!!
Caraj
11/19/03 at 00:26:03
Doesn't the Quran say something about jannah being at a mothers something or other? Feet? Forgive me for not quoting this properly. What about getting the Quran and Islamic books on audio cassette? Between critters, chores, household, my business (I both manufacture and distribute which is like 2 full time jobs) by the end of the evening when I start to read I fall asleep and feel I am missing out on much. I now get audio cassettes (books on tape) as you can listne while to do chores, while driving and such. Think of creative ways to memorize Quran verses. Maybe write them down and put them on the counter while cooking, read the Quran to the children. I hear even if they don't understand what you are reading, reading helps them develope their vocabulary. The doctor just told my son reading, taalking to and singing to his 2 month old was very important at this age (only 2 months old) as they begin to start their vocal skills, making noises and trying to utter sounds. Write a verse or two down and put them in places to read when doing other things. Might even help the children when they are older to remember them too cause they heard and seen Mommy doing it   :) Another idea   :-[   ask hubby to give you some alone time while he has  his baby/daddy time for 15 or 20 minutes a night while you go in the bedroom or another room for private time with you and the Quran.
11/19/03 at 00:32:41
Caraj

Re: I need serious help!!!
amkamb
11/19/03 at 00:44:09
Hey, those are great ideas! :-*

Re: I need serious help!!!
timbuktu
11/19/03 at 02:19:48
[quote author=azizah link=board=madrasa;num=1069209948;start=0#3 date=11/19/03 at 00:26:03]Doesn't the Quran say something about jannah being at a mothers something or other? Feet?[/quote] it is a Hadith, & "jannah is at the mother's Feet" is correct. The other ideas are wonderful. I have difficulty in reading, & have decided on this audio cassettes & CD's to listen. also you can do azkaar, while doing your chores. anywhere, any time, except in the washroom: ------ Subhanallah, wal-Hamdolillah, wa la ilaha illallah, wAllahuAkbar, wa lahawla wa la quwwata illa billah astagfirullah ------ all bring hasanah i have asked elsewhere for ahadith supporting hasanahs for doing one's duties. perhaps one of the learned brothers or sisters will help in this.
11/19/03 at 04:21:31
timbuktu

Re: I need serious help!!!
jannah
11/19/03 at 02:28:26
[slm] [code] Umm Salamah Asma' bint Yazid bin Sakan Al-Ansariyah (ra) on one occasion appeared before the prophet [saw] as a representative to plead for the cause of women. She addressed him very respectfully and said, "Today I have come into your presence to plead the case for women. Allah sent you as His Prophet for all mankind - men and women. We women also have had the privilege and honour of swearing allegiance to Allah and you. We also follow your teachings and your Sunnah (ways). We women live within our houses and fulfill our duties. We are absorbed in looking after our husbands and fulfilling their needs. We see to the upbringing of our children and to the daily function of the household. Men, however have more opportunies for earning rewards from Allah because they can do things which we, as women, cannot do. Men attend the congregational prayers in the mosques and special Friday prayers. They participate in the special prayers for the dead; they also have the privilege of taking part in the Jihad. When they go for Jihad we are left at home to protect their property and look after the family. Are we not also equally deserving of reward from Allah?" The Prophet [saw] was very moved and impressed by her eloquently presented and rational plea. He turned around to his companions and asked them if they had ever heard anyone else express a better question regarding religion. Simultaneously they all answered that she was truly excellent. The Prophet [saw] then turned around to the lady and answered her. 'Please go and tell the ladies whom you represent that by doing your duty by your husbands in a pleasant manner, keeping in mind what will make them happy, and following them faithfully, you will please greatly Allah and He will give you the same rewards as have been promised to men.' She was so happy on hearing this good news that she rose from the meeting, reciting the words - La ilaha illallah, Allahu-Akbar. She rushed to give her friends the good news she had just received from Allah's Messenger [saw]. [/code] Just read that the other day in a book called 'Great women of Islam'.. how nice.. even women who have to sacrifice for their families will get the same reward as those who are doing other things. Btw women are allowed to go to the congregational prayers & fri prayers and prayers for the dead and go to help those fighting in jihad... but you get the point :)
11/19/03 at 02:29:07
jannah

Re: I need serious help!!!
AbdulJalil
11/19/03 at 07:35:09
Assalamu Alaikum this is an old posting, it has information on raising children and rewards. http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=madrasa;action=display;num=1052117734

Re: I need serious help!!!
AbdulJalil
11/19/03 at 07:38:31
Assalamu Alaikum here is a way for you  to earn lots of hasanat : from Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com) you can print it. Question: In our offices and workplaces we can hardly find time to do acts of worship and righteous deeds. What can we do in the short time that we can find in our day? How can we make use of it? Answer: Praise be to Allaah. Time is of the essence, it is too precious to be wasted or neglected. The wise person is the one who pays attention to his time and does not treat it as a vessel to be filled with cheap things and vain talk. Instead, he limits it to worthy efforts and righteous deeds that please Allaah and benefit other people. Every minute of a person's life carries the potential to raise his own status and to make his people happier, little by little. If you are keen to attain the highest position, and bring the most happiness to your people, then forget about relaxing and keep away from empty amusement. In one minute you can do a lot of good and earn much reward. In just one minute, by giving in charity, studying, memorizing, or striving to do good deeds, you can make sure that this minute of your life is not wasted. One minute may be recorded in your book of good deeds if you know how to make the most of it and take care of it: Strive to make the most of each minute If you forget it, you forget the most important thing, the truth. There follows a list of things that can be done in one minute, by the permission of Allaah: 1. 1. In one minute you can recite Soorat al-Faatihah 3 times, reciting rapidly and silently. Some scholars said that the reward for reading al-Faatihah is more than 600 hasanahs, so if you read it 3 times you will, by the permission of Allaah, gain more than 1800 hasanahs – all of that in one minute. 2. In one minute you can recite Soorat al-Ikhlaas (Qul Huwa Allaahu Ahad) 20 times, reciting rapidly and silently. Reciting it once is equivalent to one-third of the Qur'aan. If you read it 20 times it is equivalent to reading the Qur'aan 7 times. If you read it 20 times in one minute each day, you will have read it 600 times in one month, and 7200 times in one year, which will be equal in reward to reading the Qur'aan 2400 times. 3. You can read one page of the Book of Allaah in one minute. 4. You can memorize a short aayah of the Book of Allaah in one minute. 5. In one minute you can say Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah wahdahu laa shareeka lah, lahu'l-mulk wa lahu'l-hamd wa huwa `ala kulli shay'in qadeer (There is no god except Allaah alone with no partner; to Him be dominion and praise, and He is Able to do all things) – 20 times. The reward for saying this is like freeing 8 slaves for the sake of Allaah from among the sons of Ismaa'eel. 6. In one minute you can say Subhaan Allaahi wa bi hamdihi (Glory and praise be to Allaah) 100 times. Whoever says that in one day will be forgiven for his sins even if they are like the foam of the sea. 7. In one minute you can say Subhaan Allaahi wa bi hamdihi Subhaan Allaah il-`Azeem (Glory and praise be to Allaah, glory be to Allaah the Almighty) 50 times. These are two phrases which are light on the lips, heavy in the balance and beloved to the Most Merciful, as was narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim. 8. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "When I say `Subhaan Allaah, wa'l-hamdu Lillah, wa laa ilaah ill-Allaah, wa Allaahu akbar (Glory be to Allaah, praise be to Allaah, there is no god except Allaah, and Allaah is Most Great)', this is more beloved to me than all that the sun rises upon." (Narrated by Muslim). In one minute, you can say all of these words more than 18 times. These words are the most beloved words to Allaah, the best of words, and they weigh heavily in the balance of good deeds, as was narrated in the saheeh ahaadeeth. 9. In one minute you can say, Laa hawla wa laa quwwata illa Billaah (there is no strength and no power except with Allaah) more than 40 times. This is one of the treasures of Paradise, as was narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim. They are a means of putting up with difficulties and of aiming to achieve great things. 10. In one minute you can say Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah approximately 50 times. This is the greatest word, for it is the word of Tawheed, the good word, the word that stands firm. If these are the last words of a person, he will enter Paradise, and there are other reports which indicate how great these words are. 11. In one minute you can say Subhaan Allaah wa bi hamdih, `adada khalqihi, wa ridaa nafsihi, wazinata `arshihi, wa midaada kalimaatihi (Glory and praise be to Allaah, as much as the number of His creation, as much as pleases Him, as much as the weight of His Throne and as much as the ink of His words) more than 15 times. This words bring many more times the reward for other forms of tasbeeh and dhikr, as was reported in saheeh ahaadeeth from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). 12. In one minute you can seek the forgiveness of Allaah more than 100 times by saying "Astaghfir-Allaah (I seek the forgiveness of Allaah). The virtues of seeking forgiveness are no secret, for it is the means of attaining forgiveness and entering Paradise, and it is the means of being granted a good life, increasing one's strength, warding off disasters, making things easier, bringing rain and increasing one's wealth and children. 13. You can say a few brief and concise words in one minute, and Allaah may bring about some good through them that you could never imagine. 14. In one minute you can send blessings on the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) 50 times by saying Sall- Allaahu `alayhi wa sallam (May Allaah bless him and grant him peace). In return Allaah will send blessings upon you 500 hundred times because one blessing brings ten like it. 15. In one minute you can motivate your heart to give thanks to Allaah, to love Him, to fear Him, to put hope in Him, to long for Him, and thus travel through the stages of `uboodiyyah (total enslavement to Allaah). You could do this when you are lying on your bed or walking in the street. 16. In one minute you can read more than two pages of a useful book that is easy to understand. 17. In one minute you can uphold the ties of kinship by calling a relative on the phone. 18. You can raise your hands and recite any du'aa' you wish from the books of du'aa', in one minute. 19. You can say salaams to and shake hands with a number of people in one minute. 20. You can forbid an evil action in one minute. 21. You can enjoin something good in one minute. 22. You can offer sincere advice to a brother in one minute. 23. You can console someone who is depressed in one minute. 24. You can remove something harmful from the road in one minute. 25. Making the most of one minute motivates you to make the most of other periods that would otherwise be wasted. Al-Shaafa'i (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: When people go to sleep, I let my tears flow, and I recite a verse of the most eloquent poetry Is it not a waste that nights go by and I do not increase in knowledge, yet this time is counted as part of my life? Finally, the more sincere you are towards Allaah and the more aware you are of Him, the greater will be your reward and the more your hasanaat will increase. Note that most of these actions will not cost you anything; they do not require tahaarah (purity) and they will not tire you out or take much effort. On the contrary, you can do them whilst you are walking, or in your car, or lying down, or standing, or sitting, or waiting for somebody. These actions are also among the greatest means of attaining happiness, expanding the chest (i.e., bringing relief and joy) and removing stress and anxiety. May Allaah help us and you to do that which He loves and which pleases Him. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.

Re: I need serious help!!!
timbuktu
11/19/03 at 10:21:50
[quote author=amkamb link=board=madrasa;num=1069209948;start=0#0 date=11/18/03 at 21:45:48] ........ I have been unable to do my night prayers, fast, ........ [/quote] does this mean you are unable to say `isha prayers. That cannot be excused. If you meant `isha, you must try harder, howevr late it becomes. i think other points have been covered fairly well.
11/19/03 at 21:48:08
timbuktu

Re: I need serious help!!!
amkamb
11/19/03 at 14:32:42
La ila ha il Allah! Muhammadar Rasul Allah! Thank you so much!  Thank you so much for all these great tips and wonderful suggestions.  I feel a whole lot better, especially after reading "jannah's" answer.   No, I wouldn't even dream of missing my obligatory prayers....I do all of them........all the 5 obligatory prayers, even if kids are screaming, crying and yelling in the background!   I'm sure there are many women out there with similar concerns, and I would like to post some of these answers I've got in my newsletters.   I invite all of you to subscribe to them.  But before you do so, please read those already published: http://www.islamcorner.com/im1.html I am indeed overjoyed to find answers to my questions here.  I would recommend this place to all  my readers, insha'allah.   :-* May Allah bless Madinat al Muslimeen!

Re: I need serious help!!!
muslimah853
11/19/03 at 15:44:56
[slm] What you are going through is natural, and the others are absolutely correct about the immense rewards for raising children. However. As a mother of three small kids, I know how difficult it can be on you if you are not replenishing yourself.  As a mother and wife you are required to give alot of yourself, and while there is immense reward in it, you absolutely must find at least a little quality time to nourish your soul.  It is not good for you, nor for your children if you begin to feel depressed, miserable, and/or spiritually empty. Work with your husband or other family members or friends to arrange some time for you to devote to yourself.  Some time in which you can relax and unwind, do dhikr or read Qur'an without other distractions, or whatever else it is you like to do.   No matter how rewarding the job/activity, or how much you enjoy it, every single person needs a little time/space for themselves, even mothers (maybe especially mothers).  You can't give your children Islam if yours begins to suffer.   May Allah make it easy for you.   :)

Re: I need serious help!!!
amkamb
11/19/03 at 18:57:41
Thank you sister for your kind advice.  I agree with you wholeheartedly.   :) I really need to get some quality time for MYSELF.  At least half an hour in a day!  Time to read the Qur'an, recite it, study hadiths and also offer extra prayers.  Quality time for spiritual upliftment.  You are so right. Insha'allah, my husband will co-operate.  ;)
11/21/03 at 19:05:40
amkamb

Re: I need serious help!!!
islamic_warrior
11/28/03 at 05:26:15
Bismillah Al-Rahman Al-Raheem Assalamu Alaykom Wa Rahmatu Allahu Wa Barakato Mashallah, every body had done an excellent job at answering your questions sister.  See, when Muslims are united, how wonderful their ideas are.  Sure, each single person posted a great idea or two, but the fact is that when everybody's opinions were combined, that really did the trick.  I hope we can see that more often in today's society. So, my advice to you is that since Islam is a complete way of life, not only the recitation of the Qur'aan, prayer, thiker, etc., you must invove it in your life practices.  For example, your whole family (you, your husband and your children could gather together and recite the Qur'aan or you can do a group prayer together.  It's ok if the kids are too young, they can just sit and listen to the Quraan or imitate you in prayer.)  But that way, Mashallah sister, you will receive 3 times the good deeds, for yourself completing your duties, for performing religious practices, and for getting your children involved in such practices.  So basically, incorporate Islam in any and every way possible everyday. Assalamu Alaykom Wa Rahmatu Allahu Wa Barakato Sister Ab

more answers from islam-qa.com - I
timbuktu
11/29/03 at 11:51:40
[slm] Raising and educating children is one of the duties required of parents. Allaah has enjoined that in the Qur’aan, and the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also enjoined that. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allaah, but do that which they are commanded” [al-Tahreem 66:6] Imam al-Tabari said, commenting on this verse: Here Allaah is saying: O you who believe in Allaah and His Messenger, “Ward off yourselves” teach one another that which will protect those who do it from the Fire and ward it off from them, if it is done in obedience to Allaah and they do it in obedience to Allaah. The phrase “and your families against a Fire” means, and teach your families to do acts of obedience to Allaah so that they may protect themselves from the Fire. Tafseer al-Tabari, 18/165 Al-Qurtubi said: Muqaatil said: This is a duty that he owes to himself, his children, his family and his male and female slaves. Ilkiya said: We have to teach our children and families religious commitment and goodness, and what they cannot do without of etiquette. This is what Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And enjoin As‑Salaat (the prayer) on your family, and be patient in offering them [i.e. the Salaat (prayers)]” [Ta-Ha 20:132] And Allaah said to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) (interpretation of the meaning): “And warn your tribe (O Muhammad) of near kindred” [al-Shu’ara’ 26:214] And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “And teach them (children) to pray when they are seven years old.” Tafseer al-Qurtubi, 18/196 The Muslim – any Muslim – is a daa’iyah who calls people to Allaah, so the first people whom he calls should be his children and family who are close to him. When Allaah commanded His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to call people, He said (interpretation of the meaning): “And warn your tribe (O Muhammad) of near kindred” [al-Shu’ara’ 26:214] because they are the first people to whom he should do good and show mercy. The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) gave the parents the responsibility of raising the children and made that obligatory upon them. It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ruler is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s household and is responsible for her flock. A servant is the shepherd of his master’s wealth and is responsible for his flock.” He said: and I think he said, “A man is the shepherd of his father’s wealth and is responsible for his flock. Each of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 583; Muslim, 1829. Part of your duty is to bring them up from a young age to love Allaah and His Messenger and to love the teachings of Islam. You should tell them that Allaah has a Paradise and a Hell; that His Hell is hot and its fuel is men and stones. The following story contains an important lesson. Ibn al-Jawzi said: There was a king who had a lot of wealth, and he had a daughter and no other children. He loved her very much, and he used to let her enjoy all kinds of entertainment. This went on for a long time. Beside the king there lived a devoted worshipper, and whilst he was reciting one night, he raised his voice saying, “O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones “ [al-Tahreem 66:6 – interpretation of the meaning]. The girl heard his recitation and said to her servants, “Stop!” But they did not stop. The worshipper started to repeat the verse, and the girl kept telling them to stop, but they did not stop. She put her hands to her collar and tore her garment, and they went to her father and told him the story. He went to her and said, “My dear, what happened to you tonight? What made you weep?” and he hugged her. She said, “I ask you by Allaah, O my father, to tell me, does have Allaah have a Fire the fuel of which is men and stones?” He said, “Yes.” She asked him, “Why did you not tell me? By Allaah I will not eat any good food or sleep on any soft bed until I know whether my abode is in Paradise or Hell.” Safwat al-Safwah, 4/437-438 You have to keep them away from the places of immorality and misguidance; do not leave them to grow up with evil things from the television etc, then after that expect them to be righteous, for whoever sows thorns cannot harvest grapes. That should be done when they are young, so that it will be easy for them when they grow up, and they will get used to it, and it will be easy for you to tell them what to do and what not to do, and it will be easy for them to obey you. It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Teach your children to pray when they are seven years old, and smack them if they do not do so when they are ten, and separate them in their beds.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 495; classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5868 But the educator must be merciful, forbearing, easy-going and approachable, not foul-mouthed or unkempt, arguing in a manner that is better, far removed from insulting, rebuking and beating, unless the child is one of those who willfully disobey and rejects his father’s commands and neglects his duties and does haraam things; in that case it is better to use stern measures with him, without causing him harm. Al-Minaawi said: For a father to discipline his child when he reaches the age of discernment [??] means that he should raise him with the characteristics of the righteous believers and protect him from mixing with evildoers; he should teach him the Qur’aan and good manners and the language of the Arabs, let him hear the Sunnah and the sayings of the Salaf and teach him the religious rulings that he cannot do without. He should warn him then smack him if he does not pray etc. That will be better for him than giving a saa’ in charity, because if he teaches him properly, his actions will be among his ongoing charity, whereas the reward for a saa’ of charity is limited, but that will last as long as the child lives. Discipline is the nourishment of the soul, and training it for the Hereafter. “O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell)…” [al-Tahreem 66:6 – interpretation of the meaning] Protecting yourself and your family from it means reminding them of Hell. Discipline includes preaching, warning, threatening, smacking, detaining, giving and being kind. Disciplining one who is good and noble is different from disciplining one who is difficult and ignoble. Fayd al-Qadeer, 5/257 Smacking is a means of correcting the child; it is not something that it wanted in and of itself, rather it is resorted to if the child is stubborn and disobedient. There is a system of punishment in Islam, and there are many punishments in Islam, such as the hadd punishments for adultery, theft, slander, etc. All of these are prescribed in order to set the people straight and put a stop to their evil. Concerning such matters the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) advised parents to deter their children from doing wrong. It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Hang your whip where the members of the household can see it, for that will discipline them.” Narrated by al-Tabaraani, 10/248; its isnaad was classed as hasan by al-Haythami in Majma’ al-Zawaa’id, 8/106 Al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4022, it is hasan. So raising children should be a balance between encouragement and warning. The most important element of all is making the environment in which the children live a good one, by providing the means whereby they may be guided; this means that their educators should be religiously committed, including their parents. One of the ways in which a parent may be successful in raising his children is to use a cassette player to play tapes of teachings, Qur’aan recitation, khutbahs and lessons of scholars, for there are many available. With regard to the books that you asked about, which you can refer to with regard to raising children, we recommend the following: Tarbiyat al-Atfaal fi Rihaab al-Islam by Muhammad Haamid al-Naasir and Khawlah ‘Abd al-Qaadir Darweesh Kayfa yurabbi al-Muslim waladahu by Muhammad Sa’eed al-Mawlawi Tarbiyat al-Abna’ fi’l-Islam by Muhammad Jameel Zayno Kayfa nurabbi Atfaalana by Mahmoud Mahdi al-Istanbuli Mas’ooliyat al-Abb al-Muslim fi Tarbiyat al-Walad by ‘Adnaan Ba Haarith And Allaah knows best. Islam Q&A www.islam-qa.com
12/08/03 at 08:32:42
timbuktu

more answers from islam-qa.com - II
timbuktu
11/29/03 at 11:53:19
Question : What does Islam teach about the family and the roles of men , women and Children¿ Answer : Praise be to Allaah. Before we find out about the role of Islam in organizing and protecting the family, we should first find out what the situation of the family was before Islam, and what it is in the west in modern times. Before Islam, the family was based on mistreatment and oppression. All affairs were controlled only by men or in other words, the males, and women and girls were oppressed and humiliated. An example of that is that if a man died and left behind a wife, his son by another wife had the right to marry her and control her life, or to prevent her from getting married. Men were the only ones who could inherit; women and children had no share. They viewed women, whether they were mothers, daughters or sisters, as a source of shame, because they could be taken as prisoners, thus bringing shame upon the family. Hence a man would bury his infant daughter alive, as is referred to in the Qur’aan, where Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And when the news of (the birth of) a female (child) is brought to any of them, his face becomes dark, and he is filled with inward grief! He hides himself from the people because of the evil of that whereof he has been informed. Shall he keep her with dishonour or bury her in the earth? Certainly, evil is their decision” [al-Nahl 16:58] The family in the broader sense, i.e., the tribe, was based on supporting one another in all things, even in wrongdoing. When Islam came, it did away with all that and established justice, giving each person his or her rights, even nursing infants, and even the miscarried foetus who was to be respected and prayed for (i.e., given a proper funeral). When you examine the family in the west today you will find that families are disintegrating and the parents cannot control their children, whether intellectually or morally. The son has the right to go wherever he wants and do whatever he wants; the daughter has the right to sit with whoever she wants and sleep with whoever she wants, all in the name of freedom and rights. And what is the result? Broken families, children born outside marriage, (elderly) mothers and fathers who are not looked after. As some wise men have said, if you want to know the true nature of these people, go to the prisons and the hospitals and seniors’ homes, for children do not remember their parents except on holidays and special occasions. The point is that among non-Muslims the institution of family is destroyed. When Islam came it paid a great deal of attention to the establishment of strong families and protecting them from things that could harm them, and preserving family ties whilst giving each member of the family an important role in life. Islam honoured women, whether as mothers, daughters or sisters. It honoured women as mothers. It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: A man came to the Messenger of Allaah SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, “O Messenger of Allaah, who among people is most deserving of my good company?” He said, “Your mother.” He asked, “Then who?” He said, “Your mother.” He asked, “Then who?” He said, “Your mother.” He asked, “Then who?” He said, “Then your father.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5626; Muslim, 2548) Islam honours women as daughters. It was narrated from Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever has three daughters or three sisters, or two daughters or two sisters, and takes good care of them and fears Allaah with regard to them, will enter Paradise.” (Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan in his Saheeh, 2/190) And Islam honours women as wives. It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best of you are those who are best to their wives, and I am the best of you to my wives.” (Narrated and classed as hasan by al-Tirmidhi, 3895). Islam gave women their rights of inheritance and other rights. It gave women rights like those of men in many spheres. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Women are the twin halves of men.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood in his Sunan, 236, from the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood, 216). Islam encourages men to treat their wives well, and gives women the freedom to choose their husbands; it gives women much of the responsibility for raising the children. Islam gives fathers and mothers a great deal of responsibility for raising their children. It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say, “Each of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The man is the shepherd of his family and he is responsible for his flock. The woman is the shepherd of her husband’s household and is responsible for her flock. The servant is a shepherd of his master’s wealth and is responsible for his flock.” He said, I heard this from the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 853; Muslim, 1829) Islam paid a great deal attention to implanting the principle of respect for fathers and mothers, taking care of them and obeying their commands until death. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour” [al-Isra’ 17:23] Islam protects the honour, chastity, purity and lineage of the family, so it encourages marriage and forbids free mixing of men and women. Islam gives each family member an important role to play. So fathers and mothers take care of the children and give them an Islamic upbringing; children are to listen and obey, and respect the rights of fathers and mothers, on a basis of love and respect. Even our enemies have borne witness to the strength of family ties among the Muslims. And Allaah knows best. Islam Q&A www.islam-qa.com
12/08/03 at 08:34:20
timbuktu

Re: I need serious help!!!
amkamb
12/07/03 at 13:52:02
[slm] Thank you brother :timbuktu: for taking the trouble to provide this much needed information.  Jazak Allah Khair! I hope many women will benefit by reading the splendid answers everyone has given with regard to the problem I had stated.   This is Islam.  This is unity.  This is the brotherhood.  This is what is meant by liking for others what you like for yourself.  Alhamdullilah! I have several other questions to ask.......and I hope some of you will help in answering them. What I have to say is with regard to Death.  I am afraid of Death.  I am afraid of what is going to happen to me after I die.  I am particularly worried about that hadith where the Rasul (saws) said that most of the people in hell would be women.  I know that women get a lot of reward for looking after their family, young ones and pleasing their husbands.......but does all that really help to keep women away from the Fire? The next question is how we women can give in charity (sadaqah) when we stay at home and don't work.  The prophet (saws) told the women to given in charity more since he had seen that most of the dwellers of hell fire were women. Please help provide an answer!

bRe: I need serious help!!!
islamic_warrior
12/07/03 at 22:06:43
Bismillah Al-Rahman Al-Raheem Assalamu Alaykom Wa Rahmatu Allahu wa Barakato Dear sister, A believing Muslim must not be afraid of death.  In the Qur'aan it mentions that a true Muslim wishes for death and a person who commits sinful actions longs for this Haya-Dunya.  Remember that the Akhira is better for the true Muslim than this Dunya.   Advice so that you will not be afraid of death (Inshallah) -Read more Qur'aan -Increase sayings of remembrance for the Creator, Allah (swt) -Pray Qiyam El-Layl (Nightly Prayers) -visit this site http://groups.msn.com/IslamForLife By performing these actions, you will feel closer to Allah (swt).  And that way, you will be more eager to visit the Akhira in order to get closer to Allah (swt). As for your second question, regarding paying charity, if you make no income, then you are excused from paying money.  But, here are a few suggestions: -charity does not  only mean giving money, so why don't you make a dinner and give it to the mosque or to a poor family. But if you want to give money, -You could perform Islamic activities that would raise money.  For example, an Islamic Halaqa every Friday where you could charge people, $0.50 each. Make this event just for teenaged females.  I know it's not a lot of money, but think about it.  You will be educating teenagers about Islam and making money to donate for charity at the same time.  Imagine if you had 10 girls come every friday, you could give $5.00 to the mosque each week. Inshallah that helped you out, email me if you or any other sisters have Islamic questions. attzi@hotmail.com Assalamu Alaykom wa Rahmatu Allahu wa barakato Sister AB

Re: I need serious help!!!
timbuktu
12/08/03 at 09:10:02
[slm] 1. were you afraid when you came to the US for a different life? 2. were you afraid when you embraced Islam? death is but a door, from one room to another, except that it opens one way, back to where we have finally to go. When you are a muslim, & trust in Allah's Mercy, &/or are afraid of HIS punishment, the eternal home is Jannah, insha`Allah. in your grave will open a window from Jannah, if you die a mumin, otherwise the reverse. The actual Hadith, I hope, someone will relate here. so we have to work we die as muslims. Since time of death is unknown, we must strive to live as muslims. don't worry. insha`Allah your eemaan & 3mal will take you to Firdaws-e-a3alaa. 3. are you afraid of the pain one experiences when dying? A`isha (ra) said: i was very afraid of death, but when i witnessed the death of the prophet [saw], my fear of death evaporated. 4. are you afraid what will happen to your children when you are dead? don't be afraid of this. Allah is the Sustainer, not us. 5. as for Sadaqahs: you have been given some good advice: give, even if it is only a date (khujoor). share your meals. Share what Allah has given you. do you know, smiling at your spouse, being pleasant, satisfying your spouse, taking care of your children, are also sadaqahs. & zikr (i have given in my earlier posts), is also sadaqah. we muslims are so blessed. for daleel & Hadeeth, i ask our brothers & sisters here to help out again, please. I just remember the gist of things, not the details or references.
12/08/03 at 09:35:07
timbuktu

Re: I need serious help!!!
amkamb
12/08/03 at 22:48:58
[slm], Thank you all for your replies.  However, no one has really answered my question.  Let me repeat.  The prophet (saws) said that most of the people in hell fire would be women.  It is this hadith that makes me fear death.  I do not consider myself good enough, and I fear I shall be flung into the Fire!   By the way, is it not a good thing to be afraid of what is going to happen to you after you die?  It keeps us humble, doesn't it?  I mean, what good is it is you tell yourself that you are going to go to Paradise?  To think in that way would be wrong indeed!   A muslim cannot afford to be complacent! We are supposed to be constantly in fear about the Day of Judgement.  It is this that keeps us on the Right Track!  Take that away, and Satan will cause us to go astray! But please do correct me if I am wrong!

Re: I need serious help!!!
timbuktu
12/08/03 at 23:25:21
[slm] you are right, but ....... eemaan lies between fear_n_hope that is also a Hadith plus, the eye which has cried for fear of Allah, will not know hell-fire cry a little, when everyone is asleep & i wish brother Arshad or someone else would provide the AHadeeth here.
12/08/03 at 23:28:55
timbuktu

Re: I need serious help!!!
amkamb
12/08/03 at 23:34:56
[slm], Would someone be so kind as to refer me to some hadiths about Allah's mercy to those who believe and those who have hope?  What about verses from al-Qur'an?  That would console me, insha'allah.

Re: I need serious help!!!
timbuktu
12/10/03 at 08:08:58
[slm] Here's an answer to a question a person had about having weak faith.. Although the question is diff from yours, the answer might be of some assistance to what you're looking for. http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=e...22877&dgn=4 Question : I have been a religious person for several years, but for a few months I have been feeling that my mind and heart are devoid of faith and will power. This matter is tormenting me and I said to myself that perhaps this is a touch from the Shaytaan or something like that, and it will go away when Ramadaan comes. But it has not gone away and I find it very difficult to pray qiyaam al-layl. I have tried to read more Qur’aan despite this waswaas and the distress it is causing me. My situation has started to affect me socially, at work, in the family and in my religion. Now I am living in torment because of this and I cannot find the faith which I feel has been taken away from me. I feel that I will have a bad end and that my faith will never return to me and that a seal has been placed over my heart. When I go to the mosque to pray, which I have not stopped doing, I feel that I am not like the other worshippers and I envy them for their faith. I also feel put off by religion and often I cannot listen to the Qur’aan or hadeeth, or listen to tapes, except with great difficulty. This is tormenting me because I do not want this, and I want to be like I was, a believer who loves the religion because it is the truth, but I feel that I cannot control my mind or my feelings. I have started to think about my sins which I believe are the cause of this, and I have started to remember many sins which I had forgotten, as if they are appearing before me one after the other. Until now I am living with this torment, misery and distress. I do not know what has happened to me and what the solution and the remedy is. Will my faith come back to me or is this a bad end and a punishment from Allaah? Finally, please do not forget to make du’aa’ for me. Answer : Praise be to Allaah. My brother, have great hope in Allaah, and do not let the Shaytaan cause you to despair of the vast mercy of Allaah which He has guaranteed for His believing slaves. What you are telling yourself about this being a sign that you will die following something other than that which Allaah wants is only insinuating whispers (waswaas) from the Shaytaan and his deviant ideas by means of which he wants to tempt the slaves of Allaah and lead them away from their religion. So he comes to a righteous slave and whispers to him that his good deeds are of no avail, or that he is doing them not for the sake of Allaah but to show off to people, so that they will think he is good. All of these are the usual ways with which the Shaytaan tries to trick the slaves of Allaah, especially those who show signs of being righteous – of whom I think that you are one, although I do not praise anyone before Allah – to hinder their efforts. We seek refuge with Allaah from him. You need to increase your hope and trust in Allaah Who forgives all sins, and who accepts the slave who seeks His protection and refuge, for He is the Most Merciful, the Oft-Forgiving and the Most Loving. You should increase your good deeds, such as reading Qur’aan, giving charity, remembering Allaah (dhikr), upholding the ties of kinship, etc. The weakness which you feel also happens to others, for it is something natural. How many people were examples followed by others and had a great deal of drive and ambition, then they lost their drive and ambition for a long time, then it came back to them by the grace of Allaah. Remember the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “Everybody has his time of energy, and every time of energy is followed by a time of lethargy. But if a person tries to follow a moderate path, then I have hope for him, but if he becomes one who is pointed out (in the street), then do not think anything of him.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2453; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 1995). What is meant by “Everybody has his time of energy” is eagerness for a thing, energy and the desire to do good. What is meant by “every time of energy is followed by a time of lethargy” is tiredness, weakness and lack of movement. “But if a person tries to follow a moderate path” means that the one who has energy does his deeds in moderation and avoids going to extremes when he is feeling energetic and avoids being negligent when he is feeling lethargic. “Then I have hope for him” means, I have hope that he will be successful, for he can continue following a middle course, and the most beloved deeds to Allaah are those which are continuous. “but if he becomes one who is pointed out (in the street)” means, if he strives hard and goes to extremes in doing good deeds so that he will become famous for his worship and asceticism, and he becomes famous and people point him out to one another, “then do not think anything of him” means, do not think that he is one of the righteous, because he is showing off. He did not say, “do not have hope for him,” as an indication that he has already fallen, and he will not be able to make up for what he has missed out on. [From Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi] Think about this hadeeth, and relate it to your own situation and the situation of others: you will see a clear similarity. This hadeeth clearly states that man goes through a stage of incomparable eagerness and great focus and ambition, then suddenly he becomes weak and loses that focus and eagerness and ambition. When he reaches this stage, he must strive even harder to do obligatory duties and avoid haraam things. If he does that, then there is the hope that he will succeed and progress, but if he falls into haraam things and stops doing obligatory things, he will be lost and doomed. So you must turn to Allaah a great deal, seek His forgiveness and ask Him to make you steadfast until death. I also advise you to keep away from haraam things. May Allaah forgive your sins and make things easier for you. Islam Q&A www.islam-qa.com
12/10/03 at 08:10:11
timbuktu

Re: I need serious help!!!
timbuktu
12/10/03 at 08:11:13
[slm] http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=e...=1392&dgn=4 Praise be to Allaah. Allaah has many names, all of which are indicative of His Greatness, Perfection and Majesty, may He be glorified and exalted. He has told us some of these Names in His Book and through the Sunnah of His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him); He also has other Names which are known only to Him, as is indicated in the hadeeth of 'Abdullah ibn Mas'ood (may Allaah be pleased with him), who said: "The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: 'There is nobody who is afflicted with distress or grief and who says: "Allaahumma inni 'abduka wa ibn 'abdika wa ibn amatika, naasiyati bi yadika maadin fiyya hukmuka 'adlun fiyya qadaa'uka, as'aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw 'allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw asta'tharta bihi fi 'ilmi al-ghaybi 'indaka an taj'al al-Qur'aana rabee'a qalbi wa noor sadri wa jilaa'a huzni wa dhihaaba hammi (O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your maidservant, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is ever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every name belonging to You which You have named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the Unseen with You, that You make the Qur'aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety," - but Allaah will take away his distress and grief, and replace it with ease.' He was asked, 'O Messenger of Allaah, should we not learn it?' He said, 'Of course, whoever hears it should learn it.'" (Reported by Imaam Ahmad; this is a saheeh hadeeth). The Names of Allaah mentioned in the Qur'aan and Sunnah number over one hundred, as several scholars have agreed (see Al-Qawaa'id al-Muthlaa fi Sifaat Allaahi wa Asmaa'ihi by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih ibn 'Uthaymeen). Among these are ninety-nine names which, if one learns them and acts in accordance with them, will bring a great reward, as is indicated in the hadeeth narrated by Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him), in which the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Allaah has ninety-nine names, one hundred less one; whoever learns them will enter Paradise." (Reported by al-Bukhaari, al-Fath, no. 2736) The learning referred to in the hadeeth includes the following: Memorizing them. Understanding their meanings. Acting upon them: so if a person learns that Allaah is al-Ahad (the One and Only), he will not associate anything else with Him; if he learns that He is al-Razzaaq (the Provider), he will not seek provision from anyone else; if he learns that He is al-Raheem (the Most Merciful), he will not despair of His Mercy, and so on. Calling upon Allaah by these Names, as He says (interpretation of the meaning): "And (all) the Most Beautiful Names belong to Allaah, so call on Him by them…" [al-A'raaf 7:180] - so one might say "Yaa Rahmaan arhamni (O Most Merciful, have mercy on me)," "Yaa Ghafoor ighfir li (O All-Forgiving, forgive me)," "Yaa Tawwaab, tubb 'alayya (O Accepter of Repentance, turn towards me in forgiveness)," and so on. If you pay attention to the endings of many aayaat, you will find many of the names of Allah mentioned there. And Allaah knows best. Islam Q&A Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid www.islam-qa.com

Re: I need serious help!!!
timbuktu
12/10/03 at 08:12:45
[slm] Surah A'alimraan (#3) 129. To Allah belongeth all that is in the heavens and on earth. He forgiveth whom He pleaseth and punisheth whom He pleaseth; but Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. 130. O ye who believe! Devour not usury, doubled and multiplied; but fear Allah. that ye may (really) prosper. 131. Fear the Fire, which is repaired for those who reject Faith: 132. And obey Allah and the Messenger. that ye may obtain mercy. 133. Be quick in the race for forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Garden whose width is that (of the whole) of the heavens and of the earth, prepared for the righteous,- 134. Those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity, or in adversity; who restrain anger, and pardon (all) men;- for Allah loves those who do good;- 135. And those who, having done something to be ashamed of, or wronged their own souls, earnestly bring Allah to mind, and ask for forgiveness for their sins,- and who can forgive sins except Allah.- and are never obstinate in persisting knowingly in (the wrong) they have done. 136. For such the reward is forgiveness from their Lord, and Gardens with rivers flowing underneath,- an eternal dwelling: How excellent a recompense for those who work (and strive)! 137. Many were the Ways of Life that have passed away before you: travel through the earth, and see what was the end of those who rejected Truth. 138. Here is a plain statement to men, a guidance and instruction to those who fear Allah. 139. So lose not heart, nor fall into despair: For ye must gain mastery if ye are true in Faith. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Surah An'nour (#24): 18. And Allah makes the Signs plain to you: for Allah is full of knowledge and wisdom. 19. Those who love (to see) scandal published broadcast among the Believers, will have a grievous Penalty in this life and in the Hereafter: Allah knows, and ye know not. 20. Were it not for the grace and mercy of Allah on you, and that Allah is full of kindness and mercy, (ye would be ruined indeed). 21. O ye who believe! follow not Satan's footsteps: if any will follow the footsteps of Satan, he will (but) command what is shameful and wrong: and were it not for the grace and mercy of Allah on you, not one of you would ever have been pure: but Allah doth purify whom He pleases: and Allah is One Who hears and knows (all things). 22. Let not those among you who are endued with grace and amplitude of means resolve by oath against helping their kinsmen, those in want, and those who have left their homes in Allah.s cause: let them forgive and overlook, do you not wish that Allah should forgive you? For Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Surah At'taghaabun (#64) 8. Believe, therefore, in Allah and His Messenger, and in the Light which we have sent down. And Allah is well acquainted with all that ye do. 9. The Day that He assembles you (all) for a Day of Assembly,- that will be a Day of mutual loss and gain (among you), and those who believe in Allah and work righteousness,- He will remove from them their ills, and He will admit them to Gardens beneath which Rivers flow, to dwell therein for ever: that will be the Supreme Achievement. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ please read surah ar'rahmaan. It's a surah which shows how much Allah has done, all His miracles, and it really just makes you think to yourself, "subhan Allah."
12/10/03 at 08:30:40
timbuktu

Re: I need serious help!!!
amkamb
12/10/03 at 19:09:15
[slm], Thank you brother for your kind replies!  They have been very helpful indeed!  Ma'shallah! Alhamdulillah!  Wallahu akbar! Oh those names of Allah!  Those names never fail to make me weep.  I cry when I hear them......they are all so beautiful.  It is my dream to memorize all of Allah's 99 names.  Insha'allah, Allah will give me the time to do it.   But I want to know if there are any more hadiths about Allah's 99 names.  It is a topic that I greatly love.

Re: I need serious help!!!
amkamb
01/15/04 at 04:43:09
Ah, I see that there aren't many hadiths about Allah's 99 names.  I have a book of the 99 names, and the author says if you recite this name or that, you will get this benefit or that benefit.  I was wondering on what authority he says all this?  Evidently I haven't come across any hadiths that support what he says.   For example, he says, "AR-RAFI..........Any person who says this Ism 100 times in the middle of the 14th night of every lunar month, Allah waill grant him self-sufficiency and independence of the entire creation- Ijsha'allah." Should I believe this person?

Re: I need serious help!!!
timbuktu
01/15/04 at 05:39:39
[slm] sister there is a book in Urdu called "asmaul-Husna" by "Qazi Muhammad Suleiman Salman Mansoorpuri". i had the book at home, but most of my books are presently out of sight, and likely to remain so for for a while. anyway if my memory serves me right, this book had a few (very few) Ahadeeth on the names, and Qazi Sahib was not one who went for bid3a. if and when i find the book, i will see if i can translate the relevant portion. The author's more famous work is his book on Seerah called "Rehmatul-lil-3alameen". secondly: we are asked to make dua by calling upon Allah (saw) by HIS beautiful names. not just reciting names like ar-RAFI or ya RAFI many times, but by actually asking something after the call. you see, the prophet [saw] made the following dua three times when in prostration ya Haiyyu ya Qayyum, be-rehmatika astagheeth i think it was before the battle of Badr (?) about the effect of reciting a name a given number of times for a given effect, this is indeed not supported by any Sahih Hadith. Some pious people or sufis tried many techniques, and jotted down what they had encountered or observed. i do not think we need to follow such examples, because we have enough in Sahih AHadeeth to meet our needs. hope this helped
01/17/04 at 19:22:34
timbuktu

Re: I need serious help!!!
amkamb
01/17/04 at 16:47:24
Thank you Brother for your prompt reply.  I indeed appreciate all the answers you have given to my queries.   I agree with you.  But I was thinking about that little book that I have.  There must be many other people who bought that book.  Don't you think they may follow the advice given in that book.....advice which is not supported by any hadiths?

Re: I need serious help!!!
timbuktu
01/17/04 at 19:36:16
[slm] [quote author=amkamb link=board=madrasa;num=1069209948;start=20#28 date=01/17/04 at 16:47:24] ....... I was thinking about that little book that I have.  There must be many other people who bought that book.  Don't you think they may follow the advice given in that book.....advice which is not supported by any hadiths?  [/quote] indeed it is true that many of us follow paths not supported by Sahih Hadith. All have rationalised this one way or the other. You understand the true path, try to stick to it, and seek Allah's guidance and help. Initially when i wanted to return to the true path, i had a great problem, because most of the books and literature available was of the bid3a type, but after a very long time, when Dr Farhat Hashmi started her al-Huda for girls, al-Huda also opened a bookshop nearby where i started getting this literature. So the problem is that there is too much of the wrong type of literature around, and not nough outlets for the correct one. one point of warning: many people who go in for making sure that their sources are correct, end up with hearts that are hard and unaccomodative of others. They lose the hikmah that the Quran and Hadith have asked us to use. They get into fine details at the very outset, whereas the requirement is the kalima, the five pillars, and an ease in practice so people do not turn away from Islam. It is the only faith acceptable to Allah and practical as well. so do not lose the practicability and ease when calling people to the right path.
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