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| jaihoon |
| 12/29/03 at 04:33:21 |
| Cell phones exposing more cheating spouses (DPA) 29 December 2003 SINGAPORE - No longer does a suspicious wife in Singapore rely on lipstick on her husband’s collar or perfume to suspect an affair. Nearly nine out of every 10 cases of extramarital affairs are exposed through cellular telephone habits, private investigators and lawyers told the newspaper Streats on Monday. Clients cite suspicious SMS messages and mobile phone calls their spouses receive as reasons for wanting them investigated. Vince Mok, who has handled 40 such cases this year, told of a client who noticed her husband would go to the balcony when he received certain calls. “Late one night, while he was asleep, she checked the call register on his cell phone,” Mok was quoted as saying. The wife hired him to follow her husband. “True enough, he was fooling behind her back”, he said. Other firms said nearly all of their cases of infidelity involved tell-tale signs on cellular phones. Wives who cheat on their husband, roughly one in 10 cases, also rely on their portable phones, they said. While SMS messages are admissible as evidence in a divorce suit, lawyers said they only prove a liaison exists, but do not prove adultery. “Judges here are relatively cautious and often want collaborative evidence such as entries in a hotel register or testimony by a private investigator that the spouse had spent time alone with a partner in a room,” a lawyer said. |
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| BroHanif |
| 12/29/03 at 05:38:49 |
| [quote]“Judges here are relatively cautious and often want collaborative evidence such as entries in a hotel register or testimony by a private investigator that the spouse had spent time alone with a partner in a room,” a lawyer said. [/quote] Hey wouldn't we need four people here or could the investigator use Video Media messaging to highlight such activities to his clients cell phone, that way he/she gets to see it in Realtime??? Salaams Hanif |
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| lala |
| 12/29/03 at 09:52:37 |
| [slm] I"m not sure about your question Bro Hanif..but on another note: what if on your spouses phone bill there are reaccurrances of one number over and over again..and its NOt yours..or anyone you know .Then you call this number to find out its a womans.. What to do? what should a spouse do? Does this count as being nosey and sneaky? Should you mention that you looked at the bill? should one even draw any conclusions?? Especially if the time spent on those calls is more than the time spent talking to you... sigh.... ??? -lala |
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| BroHanif |
| 12/29/03 at 10:01:10 |
| Salaams, My question was simply with all this modern technology around, would you still need four people to count as witnesses say if you caught someone conducting adultery? I mean with 3G phones you can be in one part of the UK and your recipient in the other and you can see each others faces/backgrounds. Now if a video phone was placed strategically at the place where the hot crime is taking place, whats the Islamic ruling on that? [quote]what if on your spouses phone bill there are reaccurrances of one number over and over again..and its NOt yours..or anyone you know .Then you call this number to find out its a womans.. [/quote] Hmm I'd rather not jump to any hasty decisions, it may be ok it might not be. You could always get a sniffer installed on the lan lines and see where it goes... :). A sniffer is techonlogy that allows one to anonymously transmit data without anyone really finding out. And yes there are sniffers for phones. S/He may be talking to the smaritans for advice about his sex life problems. Gosh I love techonlogy Salaams Hanif |
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| faisalsb |
| 12/31/03 at 14:44:02 |
| [slm] Just wondering isn't SUSPICION and SPYING on each other haram in Islam? |
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| se7en |
| 01/01/04 at 10:58:47 |
as salaamu alaykum, lala.. I think the person should confront their husband directly and ask them for an honest explanation.. would save a sister from a lot of heart ache and unanswered questions. wasalaam |
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| mujaahid4ever |
| 01/01/04 at 11:40:13 |
| Assalaamu-alaikum I was just curious, are there any studies into a link between improved technology and a rise in extra-marital affairs, for example with all this new technology, communicating with a mistress/secret girlfriend/boyfriend, would become far easier. So would this ease of communication mean more people would go out and cheat? wasalaam |
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| jannah |
| 01/01/04 at 19:09:25 |
| [wlm] interesting questions... i think for one thing if a person's going to cheat they don't need pagers and cell phones to do it.. and no doubt men (and women) have been cheating through the ages without need of technology.. however i do think that modernity makes it more convenient -- more frequent business trips far from home, anonymous hotels, easier communication easily hidden... also there have been articles on the rise of people cheating 'via the internet' ie... meeting someone in a chat room or online, forming a strong online relationship which then leads to real life cheating perhaps the only antidote is to have a very strong communicative relationship where disatisfaction with something comes up quicker and thus be addressed before it leads to something else. and of course one would hope belief in the ethical morals of islam would deter people. btw yes we should avoid suspicion and spying, but when the evidence is there, are you as a spouse going to blissfully ignore it? even more complicated should we as a spouse use the same islamic law lithmus (ie four separate witnesses who have seen the "act" with their own eyes) in considering whether or not our spouse cheated? about using video & technology etc in islamic law very interesting.. i wonder if it would be considered as "one witness".. at the same time having 4 witnesses see the act is a huge burden of proof which in its wisdom deters alot of false allegations. remember the story of the pakistani widow with two daughters who were accused of running a bordello in their house and how the townspeople burned them and then found out it was a relative who visited them...there's a reason why there are laws eh.. |
| 01/01/04 at 19:23:00 |
| jannah |
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