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For the Love of the Prophet S.A.W.
Halima
01/02/04 at 03:59:15
Let me start by saying that I hope what I say here does not offend anybody and if it does, I apologize in advance.  And it falls in the category of banned subjects, then the moderators can simply remove it.

On December 13, 2003 we held prayers sessions in my house to mark the 40th day since the death of my beloved Aunt.  This entails recitation of the Holy Qur'an by Sheikhs, Duas for the departed and Qasidas too.  So, there were two sessions, the one by Sheikhs during the day (lunch) and another by ladies only, during the evening from 4:00 p.m.  Normally, a goat is slaughtered but this day, I decided to buy the meat from the slaughter house so that all we had to do is just cook for the Sheikhs.  For the ladies we cooked something called "ambulo" which is a mixture of beans and maize eaten with sesame oil and sugar (I don't like it).  

These are elderly ladies who perform duas as well as sing Qasidas in praise of the Prophet (SAW). Some of the Qasida were: Ya Nabii Salaam Alaika; Muhamma Ya Rasulullah; Allahu Masali Waswalli Alla Saidina Muhammad, etc.  At the mention of The Prophet's (SAW) name in each Qasida, one lady broke down and cried her heart out.  Another one was overcome by emotion she nearly passed out.  At the end of these all, around 8:00 p.m. the who was crying had puffy eyes.  

I am always moved by the mention of the Prophet's name [saw] but I was amazed by the love these ladies had for the Prophet  [saw]  Allahu Akbar.  

Halima
Re: For the Love of the Prophet S.A.W.
Islaamic
01/02/04 at 06:25:17
[slm] wa Rahmat Allahi wa Barakaatuh yaa uhkta.

My dearest sister, I hope that all is well with you inshaa Allah, and may Allahu Subhanahu wa Ta'Ala Grant you and your family patience and may Allah Azz wa Jall Forgive your beloved aunt and Have Mercy on  her and may she rest in a spacious grave with the scent of Jannah.

Inna Lillahi wa inna Ilayhi Raji'un.

Dear sister, I wish to inshaa Allah enjoin something if you would kindly allow me. I wish to say that this concept of gathering for reading Qur'aan, du'aa and sacrificing/preparing food on the 40th day after one's death has nothing to do with Islaam, and was never practiced by the Messenger of Allah  [saw] or the Sahaabah (Rady Allahu anhum). This is an innovation in the Religion, and Rasul-Allah  [saw] said that any innovation is to be rejected and innovation is deviance. He  [saw] also said that any innovation added in our matter (i.e Islaam), then it will be rejected. This custom of 40 days is something which was started by the Pharaohs before Islaam and some Muslims began adopting it after the death of Rasul  [saw] to the point where many people do perform it today without basis, however my dear sister - it is bid'ah and has no sanction, no evidence and no authority except that it came from the Pharaohs.

My sister, the Qur'aan is for the living and will not benefit the deceased. It is up to us to take benefit from the Qur'aan while we are alive. If we truly wish the best for our deceased then we should make lots of du'aa on any or everyday, and give charity on behalf of them, or sacrifice an animal for them. If they taught us any good knowledge, then we should practice this as inshaa Allah they will be Rewarded by Allah even after death for our practicing their teachings.

I wished to share this with you inshaa Allah sister, and may Allah Azz wa Jall Make it easy for you and your family, and may He Guide us to the Right Path.

[wlm]
Re: For the Love of the Prophet S.A.W.
timbuktu
01/02/04 at 06:51:13
[slm]

sister Halima, sorry to hear of your loss. inna lillahi wa inna ilehi rajeoon

may Allah (swt) make it easy for all of you to bear the loss, & grant your aunt the highest awards
01/02/04 at 12:56:52
timbuktu
[saw]Re: For the Love of the Prophet S.A.W.
ouch
01/02/04 at 07:21:57
[slm]

Sorry to hear about your loss sis Halima, may Allaah swt give you the patience to deal with it  inshaAllaah. I remember reading in one of your earlier posts that you were v.close to the deceased may Allaah hv mercy on her...

sis I'm a doctor and I know that the human mind has many ways of coping with grief...some ppl just block it off and suffer from serious psychosomatic disorders as a result of not acknowledging the pain...others give in to it and suffer a great deal sometimes even going to the extent of blaspheming Allaah and questioning his qadr.

There are v. few ppl who can actually deal with their grief with dignity.

Subhanallah our Prophet  [saw] was one such person.

He faced the debilitating losses of all his closest family members one by one: his father before he was born, his mother when he was merely 6. his grandfather, his infant sons after his marriage, his uncle and his wife-- both at a time when he needed them the most and lastly his adult daughters and his last born son. Besides, at various junctures he lost close companions and pillars of the faith...his uncle Hamza, his ambassador to Madina Mus'ab bin Umair, his cousin Ja'far, his adopted son Zaid...the list goes on and on.......

But the Qur'an calls him "the best example for all mankind" precisely because of the manner in which he dealt with all this pain. Even in the worst of times when he held his dying infant son in his lap, he said: The eyes shed tears and the heart grieves, but we do not say except that which pleases our Lord. Subhanallah!!

One would think that the best way to show one's love for the Prophet would be to follow his way...he was sent by Allaah swt to teach us everything big and small...that naturally includes celebrating and grieving...and truly, this ceremony was not his way...
Do we dare think we hv devised a better way to show our love for the deceased and the prophet, when neither he nor his companions showed their love in this manner??

Just some food for thought.....from what I've read of your posts over time I know you are mashaAllaah a thinking person and don't do things just "because"...

:-)
01/02/04 at 07:23:53
ouch
Re: For the Love of the Prophet S.A.W.
BroHanif
01/02/04 at 10:24:02
Salaams,

Sorry to hear  about your loss sis, may Allah make it easy on you and your family.

[quote]I am always moved by the mention of the Prophet's name  but I was amazed by the love these ladies had for the Prophet    Allahu Akbar.
Hmm interesting, some of the guys I know practice this session like a circle and again when he Prophets name is mentioned a lot of tears and crying is occured. I don't see much wrong with that.  In life you only cry for things you really love.
Don't know much about slaughtering the goat and stuff after 40 days when someone passes away, as I think we should remember our deceased ones everyday.

Salaams

Hanif
01/02/04 at 10:25:29
BroHanif


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