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| Stephanie |
| 01/03/04 at 04:37:18 |
| [slm] I have recently converted to Islam and still have a lot to learn about this beautiful religion. Recently, a friend of mine told me that in Islam if a woman has a daughter from a previous marriage and then remarries, that when the daughter reaches puberty she has to move from the house as she is not allowed to live with the step father. This has really been bothering me as this doesn't seem good for the daughter. I have searched the web and have not found any conclusive info about this. I do know that a man cannot marry his step daughter as long as his marriage was consumated with her mother. Does anyone have any conclusive information on this? [wlm] :-) P.S. I have changed my user ID from Stephanie for the sake of privacy as I have told several people about this board. Shhh ;) |
| 01/03/04 at 04:39:11 |
| Stephanie |
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| se7en |
| 01/04/04 at 06:32:47 |
| as salaamu alaykum, hmm.. that doesn't seem right to me at all. there's a verse in the Qur'an that clearly states that it is prohibited to marry your step-dad, so he then becomes a [i]mahram[/i] to you -- that means you can basically treat him just as you treat your father. Here is an excerpt from an article entitled "Family Life in Islam" by Khurshid Ahmad: [color=black] The structure of the family is three fold. The first and the closest consists of the husband, the wife, their children, their parents who live with them [..] The next group, the central fold of the family, consists of a number of close relatives, whether they live together or not, who have special claims upon each other, who move freely inside the family, with whom marriage is forbidden and between whom there is no hijab (veil). These are the people who also have prior claim on the wealth and resources of a person, in life as well as in death (as beneficiaries, known as in matter of inheritance 'sharers', the first line of inheritors). The crucial thing in this respect is that they are regarded as Mahram, those with whom marriage is prohibited. This constitutes the real core of the family, sharing each other's joys, sorrow, hopes and fears. This relationship emerges from consanguinity, affinity and foster-nursing. Relations based on consanguinity include (a) father, mother, grandfather, grandmother and other direct ascendants; (b) direct descendants that is, sons, daughters, grandsons, grand-daughters etc; (c) relations of the second degree (such as brothers, sisters and their descendants). (d) father's or mother's sisters (not their daughter or other descendants). Those based on affinity include (i) mother-in-law, father-in-law, grandmother-in-law, grand-father-in-law; (ii) wife's daughters, husband's sons or their grand or great grand daughters or sons respectively; (iii) son's wife, son's son's wife, daughter's husband, and (iv) step-mothers (step-father). With some exceptions the same relations are forbidden through fosternursing. (al-ridaah). This is the real extended family and the nucleus of relationships. All those relations who are outside this fold constitute the outer periphery of the family. They, too, have their own rights and obligations, as is borne out by the fact that a number of them have been included in the second and third lines of inheritors.. [/color] I hope this is helpful :) salaam :) |
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| onemuslimgirl |
| 01/04/04 at 10:09:45 |
| asalam alakum, i have heard something similar to that but not sure. I know that if it is a son, he is to stay with the mother until a certain age, than he is asked who he would rather be with, father or mother. I dont know if this is true for a daughter also or not. Now if the mother remarries, I think it might be different. I will try to ask for you inshAllah. |
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| olive_tree |
| 01/04/04 at 18:01:04 |
| [slm] I have also been thinking of a question on a similar line for which I could not find an answer: ??? Does a woman have to be in hijab in front of a step-nephew - i.e. the step-son of her brother? My brother has two step children due to come of age soon Insha'Allah. One is a girl and one is a boy. Would I have to wear hijab in front of the boy and will the girl have to wear hijab in front of my other brothers? Thanks in advance for any replies, InshaAllah Wasalam :-) |
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