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| All Sisters, please read and pass on |
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| Caraj |
| 01/21/04 at 16:59:59 |
| I am not at all trying to be mean or cruel or any such thing but after 2 years of reading such posts my heart is sad cause I know what it is like to be sad and depressed and unhappy and in a bad marriage so my heart wants to share my experience with other woman so they do not have to pay the price I have. As a mother I also know sometimes a person won't listen and has to learn for themselves. But hear me out. And if your heart feels this is valuable information pass it on to every sister you know ok? Here goes. MARRIAGE is suppose to be for life right??? YES HUSBAND is suppose to be life partner and best friend and confidant right??? YES WHO LIVES WITH HUSBAND??? Parents NO Wife YES MARRIAGE is for life, till death and maybe beyong right??? SOOOOOOOOOOOOO Consider marriage from here on out a LIFE SENTENCE like if you were going to prison STOP laughing, I am serious, and stop shaking your heads, this is a realistic way to think so in your heart and mind when you consider marriage you'll look at it in a realisitic way ok NOWWWWWWWWW What kind of "LIFE SENTENCE" do you want??? LIFE = forever, day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year DECADE AFTER DECADE. I understand wanting to please your parents and I an in no way endorsing disrespect. One can respectfully disagree with a person. Your guest list DOES NOT HAVE TO LIVE AND SLEEP WITH THIS MAN Your parents DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE AND SLEEP WITH THIS MAN 9 out of 10 times if it does not feel right IT IS NOT RIGHT Please listen to me, I have been there. One time I got married and the very morning I felt it was not the right thing to do but everything was set. I wanted to back out even at the courthouse. I did not It was the wrong thing It ended in divorce and my children suffered most not only did they lose their dad now they lost a step dad, which wasn;t a big loss anyway DO YOU ALL THINK I post things out of my head for the heck of it???????????????????????? NOOOOOOOOOOO what I say I have lived. Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee I really do care. My heart is heavy with a burden to help those who wish for advice WHAT KIND OF LIFE SENTENCE DO YOU WANT??? ??? ??? (shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, I am now exhusted the above is written with love yet with great emotion) added later: I am not proud of my past. I have been sick for 9 days and I have chores and work and a household and a business and hubby is gone. I am not running my mouth for the heck of it. (Cara says this jumpimg up and down like a crazed woman) I CARE I CARE I CARE (now that my temper tantrum is over) This is not dress up dolls this is real life What kind of 'life sentence' do you want. Bro's take note, a good thing to ask your sisters and cousins and aunties. |
| 01/21/04 at 17:51:30 |
| Caraj |
| Re: All Sisters, please read and pass on |
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| Caraj |
| 01/21/04 at 19:03:47 |
| Oh and just in case I haven't ticked enough of you off ;D As I was outside doing chores more things I wish to say came to mind ::) A wife is to be a mate, a help mate, a companion, a friend, a life's partner and such. It is not her job to try to change him that is between Allah and his heart. It was his parents job to mold him into the fine young man he should be and if they didn't get the job right by now chances are till the Almighty puts it on his heart to change is ain't gonna happen. (Just ask my daughter-in-law) :o I mean if he does something that annoys you it is one thing to ask him to stop it and explain why it effects you but leave the major overhauls to the Almighty. If a prospective husband is not what you are looking for in a husband 'NOW' I am sorry to be the one to tell you this :( but chances he will be AFTER marriage is slim to none. (ohhhhh such emotion here ::) ) So that is all I wanted to add. (azizah ponders to herself :-[ huh will I need to practice what I preach on Sat when hubby gets home ??? :P ) hmmm hmmmm hmmmm can you tell me how to get .......how to get to jannnah.org Maria signing off |
| 01/21/04 at 19:14:09 |
| Caraj |
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