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| Is reason for wanting to be 2nd wife ok? |
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| Anonymous |
| 02/10/04 at 20:50:12 |
| I've been thinking a lot about being a 2nd wife and the idea is very much appealing to me for many reasons. I was wondering if these reasons are good reasons in others eyes. I'm so use to being by myself I really enjoy my privacy and time alone. But as any normal and healthy woman I have both phys and emotional needs. If I were a 2nd wife I don't have to be a fulltime wife. I don't have to have someone around 24/7 I can't have children and if the man were to have children by his first wife that would be great. If the 1st wife were not jealous I would not mind being an auntie type. My personality is the type to want to help and cook and also do things for family and children, I don't get to do this much now. Does anyone have friends or relatives in this type situation and can you tell me how it is going. Are wife #1 and #2 kept seperate or do they get along. How are children dealt with. |
| Re: Is reason for wanting to be 2nd wife ok? |
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| al-ajnabia |
| 02/10/04 at 21:07:41 |
| [slm] Its my understanding that wives live sepreate in Islam, not like the mormons who all live togeather. Its something I've thougth about too. One of my reasons is that I am so intelectual, sometimes I think a man might need someone more ordinary to hang out with sometimes and I'm getting used to my own company too, though I wouldnt reject being an only wife either. At times I get anoyed when people take up different causes and such but dont fight for plural marriage in the US. Something i also think about that you might want to consider. If his exisiting wife is "in the community" and you are kind of marginalized already, well, it could give people something to talk about as if they dont have enough already. Also in my case, I am pretty sure I can still have children, and that could make leagal issues tricky. I could insist that my children be considerd the chldren of marriage in the muslim community but I'd be a serious bad girl outside of it. Chances are that this thread will get moved to Akhwat Cafe. S |
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