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| Mom or dad? Who do you favour? |
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| lucid9 |
| 02/16/04 at 14:00:07 |
| [slm] Okay, turns out that tons and tons of muslims love their moms a lot more than their dads. This turned out be really shocking to me until i went to my mom's house and saw how she favoured her mom a zillion times more than her dad, and soon found out that the same happens in the vast majority of families. It seems dads are like totally aloof. My Gramps used to have his own plate, glass, and eat alone etc. His kids used to address him formally, while they adressed granny informally. Now as for my parents -- i love them equally. We have a really funny household -- one in which dad doesn't get the usual deferential fatherly respect. I suppose this is because he is pretty soft and because everybody thinks he is domestically hopeless (mom runs everything, dad pays for everything), and because he is too well respected outside of the home and so i suppose we parody all this respect by kind of making fun of him a lot. (is not as bad as it sounds). I don't know why i'm telling you this, i suppose i'm curious to know how other families work, and i'm wondering whether the dads in other families are really that aloof. Can it be?? Can things be really so depressing? Also, do any of you get embarressed about telling your parents "i love you, etc?" Now that i've achieved the tiniest bit of maturity (although my friends doubt this) i find it really embarressing to say such things to my parents. Do you? Anyhow, i'm rambling.... |
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| ltcorpest2 |
| 02/16/04 at 19:32:08 |
| wow, choosing between the 2. very very difficult. Both my parents have passed away. My mom was the greatest mom anyone could ever have. Bringing up a household of just boys was so difficult especially since our house was where all our friends liked to be (probably because we had such great parents). My dad was a foreigner so he was always working 2 jobs. He was a great dad also and did everything for us and gave so much of his time to his work and in his spare time to us. I really can't pick although boys do like their moms the best. |
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| Abu_Hamza |
| 02/16/04 at 20:30:41 |
| I always thought that was the most unfair question to ask! Wassalam .. |
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| theOriginal |
| 02/16/04 at 21:05:08 |
| [slm] I have a different relationship with both of them...seriously I don't favor either, although I am closer to my mom, and I am definitely "daddy's little girl" in whose eyes I could do no wrong, even when I do more than wrong. My mom yells at me more, but that's because my dad doesn't yell, ever. He's only yelled at me once, and that was enough to straighten me out. he's the most gentle, polite person I know. But I think my mother knows me better than my dad does. (How could she not, she calls me ALL the time...that's not a joke.) My dad's not aloof...he hasn't been around, but for different reasons altogether...and he's definitely not aloof. Anyway, this question is terrible. Wasalaam. |
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| humble_muslim |
| 02/17/04 at 07:13:30 |
| AA Well I look at this from a parent's perspective. I never asked my kids this question, but I'm pretty certain they'd hate to answer it. They show a LOT of love to both me and their mother (mashallah). Our relationship to our kids is similar to JustOne's to her parents. I'm pretty soft with both my kids, and try to avoid getting angry at them. Sometimes I can see the downside of this and think maybe I should be firmer, and once in a while I am. And I'm NEVER aloof. I've always tried to be a friend to my kids as well as a parent. OK, time to get them up for school... |
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