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| Ways to Develop Patience |
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| amkamb |
| 02/17/04 at 13:09:40 |
| [slm], Allah subhanu'wa ta'ala is As-Sabur. And He loves those who are patient. I think I am really am lacking in this precious attribute. I lose my temper so quickly. Help! I really really really need all the help I can get to learn how to be patient. I think it needs practice. Please, if any one of you can teach me how to overcome my impatience, I shall be so grateful. Jazak Allah Khair! |
| Re: Ways to Develop Patience |
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| sal |
| 02/17/04 at 15:29:18 |
| [slm]Well try to challenge the things that drive you out of control if you mean you cant stand when you are annoyed.In this case look at the person who is the other part of your trouble.IT could be one of the following 1-Some body important such as family close freind etc. If so ? then compare the extent of love this person has for you with the little msitakes he /she is making to make you upset .if the love he/she has for you is more So why not to take the matter as a matter of venting some angre or sorrow and thus you are the place he/she can throw this on .your pateince is then a help to this person under this circumstance .Its a good jobe if you interprate it this way . 2 Some one you hate or hates you If the person has this identity ,then you should be attentive that any thing that upsets you means happy inccident for him/her ,and so it might be intended plan to tease you . The pateince you need in this case is a smart way of making such a dark hearted attempt of teasing fail so is a just a matter of self defence ,other wise losing temper means losing the battle with evil 3 Some body you dont know well He is not aware of what is going on with you after the meeting is over because all that he/she cares for is the financial or what ever the deal between you was .so why to burn your self for some one who is sleeping calm and relaxed after he has annoyed you . I think he/she is not worth . isnt it ? 4- Failing in getting some thing expected or wished Think of death after the very mument any dream has became true . that if you die the minute next to any happy inccident means pateince to agree if the opposit happens then you wont be sad .This kind of moral preparation gives you strenght of living with the pateince itself before searching for the pateince after the cause. This kind of pateince is like a tool against depression or bad mood so use it may ALLAH HELP US ALL AGAINST EVIL [wlm] |
| Re: Ways to Develop Patience |
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| paula |
| 02/17/04 at 17:26:30 |
| [slm] [center]Ali (RADI ALLAHU ANHU) said, "Verily Sabr is to Eeman what the head is to the body. When the head is cut off, the body falls. (He then raised his voice) Verily there is no Eeman for he who has no Sabr (patience)." ~Quoted from within ‘Sabr or Shukr – The Worry Stops Here’ By Muhammad Al-Shareef~ http://almaghrib.org/khutbah/khutbah/returntoallah/sabrshukr.html[/center] Masha’ Allah … one of my favorite Khutbah’s on the topic of Sabr/Shukr [hr] [quote]Sister amkamb:I really really really need all the help I can get to learn how to be patient.[/quote] I believe many of us feel this way Sister… I know this is one topic I am forever grateful for the one who expressed the simple word “Sabr” @ the very moment I needed to hear it ... Subhan Allah... (though we could all probably benefit from the reminder often) … [quote]Brother Salem: may ALLAH HELP US ALL AGAINST EVIL [/quote] - Ameen Jazaki Allahu Khairan Sis [wlm] |
| 02/17/04 at 18:42:02 |
| paula |
| Re: Ways to Develop Patience |
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| SisNur |
| 02/17/04 at 22:05:47 |
| [slm] this topic just made me wonder... why is that some people gets worked up & impatient easily with their family members BUT not with people out of their household? They can be so nice and patience to others but not to their wife/husband/children/or even parents? ??? Why is this so? Curious me :-) Salaams |
| 02/17/04 at 22:07:29 |
| SisNur |
| Re: Ways to Develop Patience |
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| al-ajnabia |
| 02/17/04 at 22:57:30 |
| [slm] I think when people are sure that they can eventually get away from something or someone it is easier to be patient. But still do we have to be patient of everything? Isnt a type of patience to calm down analyze the situation and if the analyisi turns up that it is time to change the behavior of somone else to just go ahead and be persisitant about it. I mean there is only so much of the world each person is control of, and thats pretty much only oneself, Im loosing my train of thought, but when you have done as much self tweaking as you can for the moment is it not ok to tweak someone else a little. doesnt that take patience? For a lot of people, myself among them, it is about the easiest thing to do to blame oneself for not being patient enough when something is objectionable. Has anyone ever gotten real mad and hauled off and changed something for the better? I've seen it happen. Can it be considered a from of patience to put up with being mad and uncomfortable for a while? I've found that I'm not as harmful a person when I am angry and showing it than I used to think I was before I ever let myslef show anger ever. Its the worrying about being angry that can sometimes make anger worse. Well, I dont know if that helps, Salaam, |
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