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Relationships are selfish??
WhatDFish
02/20/04 at 20:22:20
"RELATIONSHIPS ARE SELFISH"

assalaamu`alaikum my dear brothers and sisters

what do you think of the line above? do you agree or disagree with this notion? if you do, give me your reasons and likewise if you dont, tell me why . . . . . cheers then.

jazaakumuLlahu khayr

wa assalaam

`Uthmaan
02/20/04 at 20:24:28
WhatDFish
Re: Relationships are selfish??
lucid9
02/25/04 at 12:53:27
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i thought the whole point was it is supposed to be unselfish.

with mom and dad:  you are supposed to be totally unselfish...of course when you are a kid...you don't know any better.

with siblings:  you're always supposed to be doing stuff for them, and expecting little if anything in return

with other folks:  remember the hadith of the prophet:  A man came to the Prophet [saw], and said: "O Messenger of Allah, direct me to an act which, if I do it, [will cause] Allah to love me and people to love me." He said: "Renounce the world and Allah will love you, and renounce what people possess and people will love you."

meaning: in your dealing with other folks, never expect anything from them or in return for your favours -- i.e. be unselfish.

of course that's not how most folks act.  but then again, most folks have lots to fear on the day of judgement, no?

pS: i think you really meant boy-girl relationship -- but that falls in the "other folks" category, doesn't it?
Re: Relationships are selfish??
Kathy
02/26/04 at 10:07:59
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:-[I thought I would take the "selfish" position of this discussion.

I have many friendships which are selfish. ::)

:-*Friends who make me feel good, when life is like sandpaper.

:-)My dawah partner, Mary, is someone i would say i have a selfish relationship with. She is fun and has the qualities i soooo lack in dealing with people. I use her to be my 'better half' all the time.

;-)A Bro on this board, no name, he would get embarrassed, I am selfish with... I don't want him to help anyone but our Dawah center.

:-) :-) :-) ;-) ;-) ;-)Then there are the friends who are such good Muslims, that you want them around you all the time... and not with others!, but with me me me! :P

I am very selfish with my hubby. Even tho I joke all the time that he can take a second wife... let him try.... :-) ;-) hey...what happened to the beard smily?

;)So inside, i am selfish and want my friends for me....but i know, my momma taught me, I have to share.... but it doesn't mean I like it!! :o


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