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| husband's anger and avoidance of wife |
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| Angelic |
| 02/23/04 at 18:02:40 |
| Assalamu alaykum I was wondering if anyone can help me. I do not wish to tell personal details but currently my husband and I are in seperate countries. I am a new revert who is struggling at the moment and dh became angry about an issue which for me is not justified. dh has not contacted me for almost a week now. Normally I ring him, he never rings me so this time I decided not to ring and he does not seem to even care to contact me. Is there a ruling about how long someone should stay angry for? I've tried to remain patient but it seems patience is also a way to avoidance. ??? I would appreciate any advice. Angelic |
| Re: husband's anger and avoidance of wife |
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| onemuslimgirl |
| 02/23/04 at 18:40:42 |
| asalaam alakum, Sr. I am not quiet sure what to tell you as I am not married and would not know how to react in those situations. also, without knowing all the details its hard to know. And I am not asking for them, just stating that it makes it harder to assess the situation. Islamically, a person can not stay angry at another Muslim for more than 3 days. I don't know what to tell you though...inshAllah may Allah do what is best for you. w'salam |
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| jaihoon |
| 02/24/04 at 12:38:42 |
| [slm] sis As a newly signed-up bro, i have only advice for u This life is so short. It is hardly sufficient to show enough love for ur dear ones. Don't waste ur time with anger for ur loved one. It may please one's ego, but they are moments that will cause regret- here and hereafter. bro Jaihoon |
| Re: husband's anger and avoidance of wife |
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| Angelic |
| 02/24/04 at 17:54:47 |
| hello Bro Jaihoon I understand what you are saying but it would've helped if dh cared enough to ring me. If it is said that one should not avoid another brother for more than 3 days, does "brother" include "sister" also? Angelic |
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| timbuktu |
| 02/25/04 at 01:24:20 |
| [slm][quote author=Angelic link=board=madrasa;num=1077577361;start=0#4 date=02/24/04 at 17:54:47]hello Bro Jaihoon I understand what you are saying but it would've helped if dh cared enough to ring me. If it is said that one should not avoid another brother for more than 3 days, does "brother" include "sister" also? Angelic[/quote] :) of course, it includes sisters and wives and husbands and if your husband is being so stupid like i used to be :), you try to behave like my wife and make the first move. Don't let pride get in the way. You will be earning more hasanaat for making the move first. and in this world too, insha`Allah your husband will be eating out the palm of your hand :) |
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