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| Where's the Washing Machine??? |
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| bedou |
| 03/04/04 at 23:31:45 |
| Where's the Washing Machine? by Talal Sarwani There's a very interesting worldwide phenomena taking place among the Muslim youth of today. Everyone's favorite bit of Sunnah has become the advice of the Prophet(SA'AS) to get married aysap. Alhamdulillah, the wisdom of that advice is nothing short of Divine, but the abuse of that advice is causing much trouble in the Ummah today. That trouble has manifested itself into the most hated of what is Halal: Talaq (Divorce). Kids are getting married right and left, lost in some romanticized version of what married life seems to be about, and the second they find themselves stuck in a mud of responsiblity, it's time to flip out the cell phone and SMS your significant other: I divorce you I divorce you I divorce you Indeed, it is a time of cowards. So I set out to investigate what was causing this desperate desire for the Great Hookup. What did I find? Were the beards really growin and the brows left un-threaded? Were the kufis being worn and the hijabs being tightened? Was the thawb and the 'abaya truly being donned? Was the scent of 'oud aromafying the surroundings? Read on, brothers and sisters, read on for the truth.... The number one danger towards the one who is single, is to be around those who have newly become doubles. It's been refferred to in the past as The Fever. The Fever is not just the feeling that one needs to get hitched, it's the malady that causes such feelings simply from having attended the hitching ceremonies of all-too-many people in an all-too-short amount of time. For proof of the existence of this syndrome, please go up to any brother (Though I claim to know their perspective as well, out of respect, I shall take the fifth as far as sisters are concerned) during the summer, especially during this Summer of a Thousand Weddings. You'll hear the usual talk of empty hearts needing companionship, of guys swooning over she who looked back and if you're around one after someone else's wedding, a feeling of slight dejection rather than complete happiness for his just betrothed brother and sister. The Fever is a powerful thing, taking over the life of he or she who is stung by it, causing him or her to find themselves raising their hands to Allah every night, asking for either the filling of their empty hearts or at the very least a respite from their feelings. So, brothas and sistas, if you find yourself in this most unwanted predicament, the prescription is as follows: Step 1: Lower your gaze Step 2: Pray for the feeling to go away Step 3: Lower your gaze Step 4: Don't talk to others about your predicament (you'll realize they're in the same hole, and then the both of you will wallow in each others misery) Step 5: Lower your gaze Rinse. Spit. Repeat. InshaAllah The Fever should soon subside and all will be back to normal. HOWEVER, say the ol' heart sparks at the just barely-sighted-glance of a certain someone, then be sure to follow the following steps. Now, keep in mind this is the ONLY accpetable follow-up to that "cue the chorus" moment. Consider this your final warning not to join certain committees of certain organizations, "accidentally" finding certain someones sitting there. BONUS: Step 6: ISTIKHARA TIME!!!!!!!! Possible Step 7 for Brothers: Be a Man. Call her parents. Possible Step 7 for Sisters: Just sit there all coy and shy (I keed, I keed). This prescription is signed and endorsed by Shayk (of the Polaroid Picture kind) Ishq ibn Al-Hubbatani, so you better believe it works. There is however a lot more that contributes to the I Think I Love You, Marry Me syndrome plaguing the Ummah today. The majority of these causes rests in the realm of what a brother once said: "Blame it on the Deen". The Romantic Islam As a preface to what follows, let me say that this topic includes far more than I can write about in this space, so I'm not gonna cover anything... I mean everything. There's literally an incredible amount of things that fall into The Romantic Islam, but I'll just touch upon these two of varyingextremes, to give you just a taste of what I mean. continued at [url=http://www.hidayaonline.com/archives/000033.html]Hidaya[/url] http://www.hidayaonline.com/archives/000033.html |
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| se7en |
| 03/05/04 at 02:06:30 |
| as salaamu alaykum, hahaha... oh my goodness this had me ROLLIN.. masha'allah.. hidaya online is awesome :) wasalaamu alaykum |
| 03/05/04 at 02:11:53 |
| se7en |
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| theOriginal |
| 03/05/04 at 02:30:18 |
| [slm] LOL... love step 4. and what is incredibly funny is how true this is. We were just discussing the "summer of a thousand weddings" syndrome. lol...mos def pass-onnable. Wasalaam. |
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| faith |
| 03/05/04 at 07:33:56 |
| [slm] ;D dat brother is 8) he hits his points home in an excellent way. btw, does anyone know the reference to the "full" hadeeth of [quote] When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half. [/quote] coz thats the 1st time I heard of it - in full. peace, :-) |
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| humble_muslim |
| 03/05/04 at 11:39:05 |
| AA Sorry folks, I disagree with the brother. Every day a brother remains unmarried is another day where he has the potential to do more sin. Not to go into the potential psyhciatric problems. It's only in the last 40 years or so that marrying late has become common even in the west. Marrying in the late teens/early 20's was common prior to that. Of course, the "sexual revolution" of the 60's changed that. Why marry when you can "get it" in other ways? But this of course does not apply to muslims, so they are left with the one halal way : to get married. If there is a large divorce problem, I'd say that means we need the older generation to maybe be giving more advice to the younger generation. Maybe that mean I need to get, um, involved... |
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| Barr |
| 03/05/04 at 19:25:00 |
| [slm] warahmatullah :D.. that was good, mashaAllah. And yes, I think Muslims do romanticise abt marriage than getting a cut at the real deal. Its not just about marrying young that may lead to problems as Br Talal mentioned... but its more abt the maturity and preparation that many think they have. [quote]Every day a brother remains unmarried is another day where he has the potential to do more sin. [/quote] And with added responsibilities and amanah when married, what makes a brother think he would not incur more sins? I'm not against marriage ... really :) P.S. Faith, the hadith is recorded by At-Tabarani (in al-Awsat). You may also wish to check under At-Tirmidzi. Allahua'lam |
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