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| Emerald |
| 03/18/04 at 23:12:53 |
| As-salaam aleikum, :-[ Ya Allah...I've got so many things that tick me off. Just makes me wanna say ugh! Like this, and it may be silly-- but still. Say you're working at your job that doesn't have many Muslims. Then this Muslim, like yourself, who looks sooooo Muslim and even has a name like Muhammad or Khadija (just examples) walk by you. Just like that. As if you're not even Muslim. No 'Salam aleikum' no nuthin'. Now even though it's not fard but still, aren't we supposed to be like family in a way? Aren't we in a way supposed to acknowledge and be happy of the presence of another Muslim in a field of work that doesn't have much of them? Maybe it's just me, but if it were up to me, I'd say Salam Aleikum brother/sister at the top of my lungs to make the world see our unity and that there is Islam out there in their faces. I wouldn't deny it or hide from it or be ashamed of it! I don't know, it seems like little things like this are why we don't have a huge say in anything in this world today! Thank you for letting me vent, wasalaam aleikum ppl. :-[ :) |
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| theOriginal |
| 03/20/04 at 16:43:35 |
| [slm] Yeah..kind of like those sisters who don't make eye contact on purpose, because they don't want to say salaam. But anyway, what is ticking me off right now is when people ask you to do something unreasonable, and they take your reluctance to mean "yes"... Man I need to learn how to say no. Someone help me! Wasalaam. |
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| al-ajnabia |
| 03/20/04 at 17:22:43 |
| [slm] Whenever somone says "asalamu alaykum' to me I know right away that they are only visiting town, because absolutley nobody here is in that habit. I try to say it but even when I say it I get ignoored so I just say 'salaam' and am really startled when someone actually says anything back so I end up re salaming them. But some people passing through use the full formal thing a ma bob, and not hearing it very often I have no idea what to do so I tend to just say OK and nod or something. ::) But I might be one of those sisters who avoids making eyecontact though, because it doesnt seem to do any good to say salaam to anyone and I tend to have my mp3 on with lectures or quran recitation and if I pause it it goes back to the beginig and when most encounters are "salam" "yea wahtever stranger" it doesnt seem worth it sometimes. |
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| Nomi |
| 03/20/04 at 19:40:22 |
| [slm] [quote author=JustOne link=board=bebzi;num=1079669574;start=0#1 date=03/20/04 at 16:43:35] Man I need to learn how to say no. Someone help me! [/quote] My problem exactly. My last two bikes got raptured coz i allowed anyone and virtually everyone around me take them when needed. My ammi wasn't able to teach me to say no, its still the same!! As for what ticks me off.... In simple words "when i get treated like dirt"... i think there are people out there who need just a simple kind word to make them do "anything".. and i sometimes think that i'm one of them... Allahu Alim .. Just a note for people around me and on virtual space. [slm] |
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| se7en |
| 03/24/04 at 15:34:31 |
| as salaamu alaykum, -- people who designate themselves your wedding planner "So.. you're going to have a cake right? How can you NOT have a cake!?" -- people who invite themselves to the wedding Random Person: "Wow, masha'Allah I hear you are getting married! Congratulations" Me: (no idea who they are) yeahhhhh alhamdulillah.. thanks.. RP: So am I invited? Me: ... (no idea what to say).. umm.. well. I....... I... was that my Mom? I think she's calling me *runs away* -- people who ask questions that are none of their business "So.. how much *are* you asking for mahr?" "So your fiance.. is he hot?" -- aunties who share WAY TOO MUCH information "beti, you are getting married soon, lets talk about womenly things.." me: *runs away* -- people who talk before they think :P "Wait.. who's getting married? YOU? No way.. you're kidding, right?" "You're moving to TEXAS?! *look of pity*" "Does he speak English?" "You're marrying a BIO CHEMIST?! *look of pity*" (ha ha, just kidding) etc ::) |
| 03/24/04 at 23:21:11 |
| se7en |
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| Trustworthy |
| 03/24/04 at 17:14:25 |
| [slm] se7en? you're moving to TEXAS?! Eh?! Just kidding. Hmmm...lots of things tick me off. I get irritated easily now a days. Like the other day, I asked this bakery to put some roses on a cheesecake for a cousin who had just lost her twins in a miscarraige and she said they would do it. So I make the order and two days after to come pick it up, they said they couldn't do it. OOOHHH....I was MAD!!! But I calmly explained to them that I was there two days ago and specifically asked one of their bakers if they could do it and she said yes, they could do whatever the customer wants as long as it's ahead of time. They told me that they just don't put roses on cheesecake. They can put a banner and write something, but no roses. why? It's just not done. Is it hard to do? We just don't put roses on cheesecake. Why? Someone sued you for putting wrong roses on their cheesecake...you're not making sense at all. And I specifically asked if it could be done. HAD SHE SAID NO, THEN I WOULDN'T BE ARGUING ABOUT IT WITH YOU WASTING MY TIME WHEN I COULD'VE GONE SOMEWHERE ELSE! YOU GUYS SUCK!!! I looked around for the gal I spoke to, but she was no where to be found. I mean how hard is it to put roses on a cheesecake?! SHEEEESSS! So yeah, I'd say more but I think this is quite enough for now. Ugly is is Ugly does. Ma-assalama...... |
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| theOriginal |
| 03/24/04 at 22:42:53 |
| [slm] Since we're venting: My upstairs neighbors drill holes in their floors at random times during the night. So the other day I got up, and sprinted one flight of stairs to demand an explanation, since I was freaked out that maybe it's some Jinn presence or something. This dude opens the door...no shirt on, which I thought was utterly disrespectful, but anyway, he decided to get dressed somewhere in the midst of our conversation, and he goes that it's not HIS apartment making the noise, it's the people above him...so we both climbed another flight of stairs... Well, turns out the people in 1203 have been doing some mad drilling everywhere. It's so weird how I can hear it two floors down. And it's MAJORLY loud. It must be REALLY loud in 1103. Oh and i never thought i'd say this...but i broke a nail. Like really...BROKE a nail. It's painful. Great! Thanks for listening. Wasalaam. |
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| sohuman |
| 03/25/04 at 21:22:54 |
| [quote author=Emerald link=board=bebzi;num=1079669574;start=0#0 date=03/18/04 at 23:12:53] Maybe it's just me, but if it were up to me, I'd say Salam Aleikum brother/sister at the top of my lungs to make the world see our unity and that there is Islam out there in their faces.[/quote] I was just wondering sist.emerald why you didn't say salaamaleikum to those muslims who walked by you? The one who greets first demonstrates more taqwa. So I never wait for nobody to greet me first. Also another thing. I don't think it is obligatory for a man to greet a woman or vice versa. I wouldn't feel ticked off if a muslim man did not greet me. You see I wouldn't greet him either esp. if he a total stranger. And by the way I do think it is obligatory duty on muslims to greet each other. |
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| Emerald |
| 03/25/04 at 22:53:34 |
| SoHuman In response to your question, I did..once. I found that some people are just so blah in nature that they don't even care to respond. (Actually many of them, I found!) Anyway, it's no biggie really because the way I look at it is that at least I'm doin something good and attempting to be better. It just hurts to see that other muslims seem like they don't care. Now I got a question for you ( more of a, please clarify). You said that you don't think it's obligatory for a man to say salaam to a woman or vice versa but then you said it's an obligatory duty for muslims to say salams to each other?? I don't get the difference. A Muslim is a Muslim no matter the sex I think. The fact is it isn't fard to say salam at all, yet it is to respond. I just think many Muslims justify their lack of certain acts of worship (lack of a better phrase) as being "not fard" or "it's JUST sunnah" when they're losing the whole point of being MUSLIM. Se7en : ;D I've had some of those things happen to me as well. ::) Trustworthy: So did you take the cake as is?! I'd be steamin'! >:( |
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| Trustworthy |
| 03/26/04 at 02:19:23 |
| [slm] Nope. They lost my business. I made the cheesecake myself (or tried to) and then decorate it with roses (frosting) (or tired to). She laughed so hard, she was tearing. I was embarassed but glad to see her laugh. We had a bite, it wasn't like what I wanted it to tatse like cause I'm no baker from scratch, but it was ok. ::) More like ok :'( I know how upsetting it is to say Salam and then not receive a wa salam. That's just rude. I never said salam to a strange Muslim guy...lower my gaze kinda thang, but always to the sisters. I get a reply and if I don't, I speak a little louder so that everyone around us could hear me. That works. Ma-assalama.... |
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| bismilla |
| 03/26/04 at 05:59:26 |
| [slm] :-) the one thing that annoys me to no end are the people (especially at work) that place my email adress on a mass mailing list without asking if it is ok!!!! I have learnt to be straightforward and when asked for it, hand out my email address with a little "agreement" - yu may mail me ONLY for business purposes, i don't mind an (occassional) email "hello" addressed to only me, NO FOWARDS, no pornorgraphy, no powerpoint presentations, no pictures...not interested!!!!! GRRR And the people that use it wihtout asking for it, usually get asked (politely) to leave me out of their lists. Oh, also people who respond with "Grunt" when they don't like what you said. ME : Please will you see to it that all the toilets have handtowels in the dispenser JoeSoap : [i]grunt[/i] ME : erm, is that a "yes" or a "no"? JoeSoap : [i]grunt[/i] eish! |
| 03/26/04 at 06:00:49 |
| bismilla |
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| sohuman |
| 03/27/04 at 21:24:42 |
| [slm], Sis emerald, ya I understand what your saying. I just wanted to say that there is a different way of dealing with things when it is between brothers and sisters who are strangers to each other. For example, there are so many hadiths that talk about the reward for prayer in congregation, but it is understood it is for men. Not women. For women it is better for them to do it in their homes. And ya, there's something that more than ticks me off. It not only ticks me off, it horrifies and appals me! :o I really really really really really really really really really really really really really do not get it when somebody goes to the masjid and does his or her prayer...............................................................................................................................and then after that does something evil. I mean really evil and I don't want to mention what. That is something that really bothers me. :o :o |
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| lala |
| 03/28/04 at 01:02:35 |
| [slm] lots of things tick me off as of late..many of which ill refrain from mentioning in this post. The crux of it all is that I hate when people give me attitude...for no reason. Easily angered people tick me off! That and cheats. thanks:) i feeel better now:) wasaalaam |
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| al-ajnabia |
| 03/28/04 at 01:23:17 |
| [slm] yea cheats suck. the world could have had a real somethin else, insted we have cheats. Does it ever seem to you that only the laws to protect the cheats ever get passed? And any laws passed to try and fix the problem end up twisted somehow to make things even better for them Or like university student government. A big pack of cheaters for the cheaters by the cheaters so hep them B...bub. I used to think my life was an endless showing of amimal house, but now i know I live in a cheat and chug movie. |
| 03/28/04 at 01:31:54 |
| al-ajnabia |
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| Mona |
| 03/28/04 at 10:54:02 |
| [slm] * hidden agendas * failed experiments * my stupidity * * * I can go on ... [i]really[/i] I can. :D [wlm] |
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| Al-Basha |
| 03/28/04 at 21:47:33 |
| [slm] That ridiculous neighbor across the street who insists on using his electric saw to cut God know's what at 8AM in the morning on a Saturday when I'm catching some zzzzzzzzzzzz's. One of my co-workers who literally "seeks" out conversations to butt into. Sales people who think by returning things (well within the corresponding return time) they are doing you a favor ... The list continues ... 8) |
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| gift |
| 03/29/04 at 06:08:26 |
| [slm] People who say 'I'm not [insert racist, sexist etc here] BUT....' People who make noises when they eat - they chomp like horses - grrrrrr >:( When you say salaam to sisters, they take one look at you, realise that you're not wearing hijab and think that you are unworthy of a reply and turn away >:( :'( People who leave the wudu rooms in the mosque a sea of water ewww :P - they even do it in outside venues hired for Muslim events and people then think that Muslims are dirty/unhygenic etc etc >:( I too could go on.... :-/ I probably need to cultivate more sabr [wlm] |
| 03/29/04 at 06:09:25 |
| gift |
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| bismilla |
| 03/29/04 at 09:48:38 |
| [slm] :-[ .....people that never have anything positive to say about ANYTHING (big downers >:( ) .....people that give up on a situation before even considering it...let alone trying...!!!! :'( *sigh* |
| 03/29/04 at 09:49:44 |
| bismilla |
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| jannah |
| 03/29/04 at 13:08:25 |
| [quote]For example, there are so many hadiths that talk about the reward for prayer in congregation, but it is understood it is for men. Not women. For women it is better for them to do it in their homes. [/quote] Sorry I didn't understand this. A woman who prays in congregation gets the same reward as anyone else who prays in congregation ie. 27x's. As for "it is better for women to pray at home". I think it really depends on a lot of things like context and conditions because I have heard real scholars bring that up and interpret it differently than women should 'just stay at home and pray'. Remember the prophet saw said clearly "Do not prevent the muslimah believers from the mosques". And the clear example of the sahabiyat. |
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| Emerald |
| 03/29/04 at 23:06:49 |
| I must say, ALOT of interesting (and funny ) posts! I agree Jannah. I also in a way agree with SoHuman in that it's better for the woman to pray at home. I think the whole emphasis (sp?) is on sitra. I recall a hadith which says that the best row for a man to stand in salat is the first row and the best row for the woman to stand in salat is the last. Not a direct quote but the point is, the more you sitra you got, the better. Both your posts, by the way, reminded me of yet another thing that ticks me off! It's having to stand behind a sister in salat and unintentionally having to see half her back (or tushy) while she bends down to prostrate!!! :o ??? :( Emerald |
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| tree |
| 03/30/04 at 09:48:51 |
| [slm] when you've been married 3years, don't have kids and strangers ask you "why don't you have any kids, are you having problems?" (cue look of pity) :o whose business is it anyway??? people who do have kids and use them as an excuse for everything...usually their own laziness...and then proceed to tell you you're lucky not to have kids ::) makes me want to say "what if i can't have kids? am i lucky?" but i can't cos then they'll assume we're having problems ::)...sheesh... and sorry se7en, but when i read your message i thought "WHAT, you're moving to TEXAS??!?!?!?!?!?!?" sorry :-[ (why is this smiley the one for being embarassed??) tree |
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