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| Approaching other sisters |
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| Caraj |
| 04/04/04 at 22:39:47 |
| There is no Islamic center in my area that I know of and islamic finder.org shows non. I was out having dinner the other night when a sister and her family was there and I am not sure how to approach another sister. I would like to talk and visit with other Muslims, but the ones I have come across seem a little concerned (hesitant and uncomfortable/cautious) and I try to be very careful and poliet about it. I have no idea how to properly pronounce the shahadah (I may of spelled that wrong) I have no idea how to pray. I just do. I think I need to take a trip down to see Sister Amkamp. Is she even still around? ??? I think she lives about 2 or 3 hours from me. How do you learn things if there is no islamic center around? |
| 04/05/04 at 01:17:14 |
| Caraj |
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| ibnasabil |
| 04/09/04 at 17:38:56 |
| [slm] I also feel reluctant to approach people who I don't know. That they seem reluctant is possibly a reflection of my own reluctance. However, if you see sisters in public and feel like saying hello, maybe you can say salaam with the intention of doing it for the sake of Allah, knowing that your reward is with Allah, and that it is a sunnah for us to greet one another. As for learning how to pray properly, that's an important goal that one of the sisters you mentioned might help you with, insh Allah. If all else fails, there are illustrated books on how to pray. You might call Rumi Bookstore in Fremont, California, or Iqra Books in Chicago to ask for a recommendation. I would make d'ua asking Allah to guide you to someone who can help you learn the things that you need. bro.octagon |
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| Stephanie |
| 04/10/04 at 04:04:02 |
| [slm] Here are a couple links I find very helpful. Learning to pray:http://english.islamway.com/sindex.php?section=prayer This one is great for English speakers who want to learn Quran. It has the arabic followed by the Engish translation. I listen to it constantly. http://english.islamway.com/bindex.php?section=echapters&recitor_id=171 As for approaching other sisters, I say go for it. Greet them with an Assalamu Alaikum so they know you're Muslim (if you wear hijab this should be pretty obvious). As a convert, I felt very isolated soon after my conversion. It's important to stay close to at least one or two other sisters and introducing yourself is one way to meet people. Chances are if there are other Muslim's in your area they will know about a masjid. Inshallah, a good sister would be happy to help you. I have found some people meet you with coldness or hesitation, but for the most part sisters seem pretty cool. Most of the time I just see another sister with hijab and we just smile and say salam. :-) Oh yeah, I know there are video cassetes that teach people how to pray. You could probably find one online. Ebay is also a good place to start. You can find Islamic information, as well as clothing for fairly cheap. Good luck sis. [wlm] |
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| sal |
| 04/10/04 at 16:06:16 |
| [color=Red][quote]I have no idea how to properly pronounce the shahadah (I may of spelled that wrong) I have no idea how to pray. I just do. [/quote] [/color] Sister aziza no matter if it is pronounced correct or not .there are also many muslems who cannot pronounce right but this doesnt matter. and it doesnt matter aswell weather the prayer way or what to say is also needed to be correct. for example BILAL was the MUAZEN (caller for prayers) this is done in loud voice . since his mother language was not arabic ( he was HABASHI, now called ETHOPIA) It was dificult for him to pronounce the letter [color=Red]sh[/color] so he used to say [color=Red]S [/color] instead of [color=Red]SH[/color] like this instead of ASH_HADU an la illah ilaa ALLAH he says AS-HADU an la illah ilaa ALLAH one day ALI( propht's companion)told the prophet [saw] that BILAL is not pronouncing correct The prophet replied, ALI!!!!!! FOR BILAL THE LETTER [color=Red]S [/color] is taken as [color=Red]SH[/color] to ALLAH so let him pronounce the way he can do it .and he was not romoved from his place despite his wrong way of pronoucing [u][color=BLUE] ASH-HADU AN LAA ILLAH ILAA ALLAH WA ASH-HADU ANN MOHAMMED RASUL ALLAH [/color] [/u] Say that the way you can and that is all ,then you can gradually learn pronoucing better if you want WE CAN TEACH YOU ALL YOU WANT [] :) ;-) |
| 04/10/04 at 16:07:34 |
| sal |
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| al-ajnabia |
| 04/10/04 at 18:30:45 |
| [slm] not to be a pain in the wherever but it is actually: Ash-hadu al-la... for some reason the "n" at the end of "an" becomes "l" in quranic recitation I think it has something to do with fronting and backing or whatever. But as long as you mumble someting relatively close and you really mean what the words mean, You aught to be alright. |
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| Halima |
| 04/11/04 at 03:33:29 |
| Sis azizah wrote: [quote]I would like to talk and visit with other Muslims, but the ones I have come across seem a little concerned (hesitant and uncomfortable/cautious) and I try to be very careful and poliet about it.[/quote] My Dear Sis, you are good at research both on the net and from books. It is a quality I admire in you. It would be valuable to you if you could really interact with other Muslims and in particular sisters. It is not easy as you have found out. But with your tenacity and open mind approach to everything you do, I believe and trust that you will. You will equally gain from interactions. Let them understand your motive. And May Allah open the minds of those near you so that they embrace you and help you in the Name of Allah (SWT) and His Prophet (SAW). I am rooting for you to find the good ones in them. [wlm] Halima |
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| amatullah |
| 04/12/04 at 11:07:13 |
| Hello Azizah, I just wanted to say that even thought it may be at first unconfortable please try to spend more and more time with the sisters maybe you tell them would like to come over one day and show me how to pray. I cannot honestly think of any muslim who would not like that. I want you to know that many of the sisters seem hesitant and cautious for a reason. Noone like to be pushy. We are quite afraid of turning people off by all of us appraoching them or being overzealous or giving too much info at once which may cause confusion. People will be friendly but probably will wait for you to show them you want them to talk more. Lastly please don't forget the british columbia option. the two women there are masha'Allah just amazing. One of them in fact teaches new muslims at the masjid. so i'm sure she's heard all the q's before etc. May Allah give you the easy path into it. |
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| Stephanie |
| 04/13/04 at 00:30:04 |
| [slm] I ran across this link today. Insh'allah they might be able to help you find an Islamic center. http://whyislam.org/877/Services/MosqueVisit.asp I hope everything is going well for you. Your sis in Islam :-) [wlm] |
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