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| Something to anylize, why some thrive on attention |
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| Caraj |
| 04/05/04 at 15:56:29 |
| I have always been one to anylize things into the ground. Just always been a thinker I am told. When I post something I love to get responses and other peoples thoughts on matters, as it is fun to examine things (to me anyway) Why do you think some people are 'attention hounds' ? People who like to be looked at and draw attention to themselves? Is it a desire such desiring other things? Is it a need like hunger and thirst? Is it cause they do not feel good about themselves deep inside and need to have that attention? Why do people have this need? I am so the opposite and prefer not to draw attention to myself except of course unless it is someone I love and care for them of course I want to look good in their eyes? Lets ponder and anylize this :) |
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| sal |
| 04/05/04 at 16:53:02 |
| I think it is becasue they dont have self confidence so they are only satisfied in what they have after they get other's reaction but this only increases such sickness when they face contradicting response for the way they wished IT IS TYPE OF SICKNESS ANY WAY >:( |
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| al-ajnabia |
| 04/05/04 at 17:00:21 |
| [slm] some people might get called attention hounds just because they are seeking reasuraces frm other humanbeings in troubled they know are so great only they and allah know the truth in them, but the oters who could just say something sypathetic durring those moments of ovwerwealming aloneliness draw away form a chance to ease anothers burden to call them liars or exaggerators or attention hounds and refuse to take any trouble seriously unless it has been publicized int he press. just my tow cents. oh and most people who make things up just to get attention usually make up something kind of normal sounding. |
| 04/05/04 at 17:01:46 |
| al-ajnabia |
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| theOriginal |
| 04/05/04 at 17:28:19 |
| [slm] Everyone needs attention. I for one, most certainly do. Some people just require attention for different things, and from different audiences. I don't know if it's such a bad thing, as long as you know when to back off, and not to let it to seep into jealousy. Wasalaam. |
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| bhaloo |
| 04/05/04 at 17:35:58 |
| [slm] [quote author=JustOne link=board=madrasa;num=1081194990;start=0#3 date=04/05/04 at 17:28:19] Everyone needs attention. [/quote] I completely agree. Some people don't admit to it, but they do appreciate it when others give them some attention. |
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| sal |
| 04/05/04 at 18:03:26 |
| well if i am saying some thing useful like a good lecture yes in that i need attention but for showing up only ? :-[ |
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| Caraj |
| 04/05/04 at 20:57:07 |
| I am meaning the kind of attention one gets in public. Being loud and seeing if anyone notices and doing something in public cause you're good at it so people can see you. That kind of attention. Acting out to get attention type attention hound. I am thinking it is cause they do not feel good inside and need to have the attention to feel good. Like a temp fix. I just don't see why some folks do it other than they do not feel good about them own selves. |
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| nida |
| 04/06/04 at 02:02:31 |
| I think they do it just cuz they want to assure themselves that others think they are good. Maybe to make a good impression? |
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| M.F. |
| 04/06/04 at 11:19:18 |
| Bismillah, Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah, I believe that there are certain people who have not been given the tools to measure themselves, and therefore need external measures to know where they stand. I think the tools are the principals they acquire depending on how they were raised. If they base their actions and behavior on these principals, they know where they stand and they know how to weigh themselves so to speak. But people who weren't given these tools and by the same token probably weren't raised by loving parents who gave them the attention they needed start to seek it elsewhere, and also look for measures of their own self worth from external sources. I also agree that we all crave attention to a certain extent, perhaps it's because it makes us feel loved and perhaps feeling loved is one of those needs like hunger and thirst... The kind of behavior Azizah mentioned made me think of adolescents, who are still trying to find ways of weighing themselves. Isn't it funny how adolescents crave attention and yet dread it at the same time... like they're totally embarrassed when they draw attention to themselves and yet they behave in a way that makes you think they're actually trying to do just that? Does all that sound analytical? ;) I always know exactly what I want to say but I never know exactly how to say it.... can someone analyze that for me? :) wallahu a'lam. |
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| ibnasabil |
| 04/07/04 at 01:41:02 |
| [quote author=M.F. link=board=madrasa;num=1081194990;start=0#8 date=04/06/04 at 11:19:18] I always know exactly what I want to say but I never know exactly how to say it.... can someone analyze that for me? :) wallahu a'lam. [/quote] [slm] My guess is that perhaps you're bilingual and you know exactly what you want to say in your first language, but you don't know exactly how to say it because you communicate with others in your second language. Am I close? bro. octagon |
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| M.F. |
| 04/07/04 at 11:04:14 |
| Br octogon, you're totally right, I am bilingual, and although English is my "mother tongue" (i.e. my parents spoke to me in English) I've gotten more comfortable in dialectal Arabic, or more specifically, a mixture of Arabic and English that I speak with my sister and my husband. Wow I had no idea this actually had an explanation! Thanks you, I feel reassured that it's not that I'm losing my vocabulary, nor is my brain shrinking, I'm just bilingual ;) :-) |
| 04/07/04 at 11:05:13 |
| M.F. |
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| ibnasabil |
| 04/08/04 at 06:59:10 |
| Alhamdolillah. |
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| se7en |
| 04/09/04 at 10:14:19 |
| as salaamu alaykum, dude, talk about analysis! that was pretty cool bro octagon 8) |
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| Abu_Hamza |
| 04/09/04 at 12:58:01 |
| [slm] I think I often face the same problem as you M.F. And I think there's a lot of truth to what Octagon has said. Additionally though, I believe eloquence is a gift from Allah (swt, which He gives to whom He pleases. Being able to articulate oneself clearly is a sign of eloquence. We should ask Allah (swt) to bless us with clarity of speech, just like Musa (a.s.) did in his famous du'aa: [i]Rabbi ishraH lee Sadree, wa yassir lee amree, waHlul 3uqdatan min lisaanee, yafqahoo qawlee[/i] (My Lord, expand my breast for me, make my task easy for me, remove the impediment from my tongue and make him cmoprehend my speech) Wallahu a'lam |
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| theOriginal |
| 04/10/04 at 20:49:08 |
| [slm] Is it just me, or did sister M.F. sound more than just articulate in her explanation. Before bro octagon replied, I was about to say that your explanation was really good, and it made me think, mashaAllah. As for the whole bilingual thing, I don't know. I can't articulate myself even if I tried. I have severe issues with it. In urdu it's even harder, because I have to translate what I say from English. I think it's because my brain works at least three times faster than my mouth, and by the time my mouth catches up with my thoughts, I have already eaten up half the sentence. Then I have to slow down, which causes me to lose my train of thought, and I end up not making a point altogether. It's okay, I'm learning that silence is a wonderful communication tool. Wasalaam. |
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