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sal
04/08/04 at 16:43:50
[slm]Why  some  work  at  home  became  a   particular  job  the  wife  has  to  do  at  home  

What  is  wrong with  a  man  to  wash and  cook  or  clean  the  kids?

I am talking about  even  if the  wife  has  no job outside  home  :)



Re: Husband's contribution  at  home  
Aadhil
04/08/04 at 23:49:02
[slm], all

Uh who said that a Man should'nt do those things ::). Theres nothing wrong with it it's just extra work thats all.

I know many men who clean their house, and as for the kids, lets just call it father-child bonding ::) :P.

The Prophet [saw] used to do household chores, and as long as the husband has a means of supporting his family also I see nothing wrong with it, especially if the husbands job means sitting on a chair 8 hours a day.

Anyows the wife could also hire him, by paying him a salary our of her mahr :D (ducks out :P)

[slm] Muslim ;-) with a beard
Re: Husband's contribution  at  home  
Emerald
04/09/04 at 00:02:57
I could be the only exception here but there are some things which I canNOT let my husband do. He would just frustrate me wayyyy toooo much! Especially when he's in the kitchen! ::) I'm the kind of person that likes to do things in the home in my own special way with no interference. It just makes me feel better.

Re: Husband's contribution  at  home  
ltcorpest2
04/09/04 at 10:38:09
who says you need to cook in the kitchen.  Men use barbecues to cook with.  Although I do make great guacamole and fruit shakes.
Re: Husband's contribution  at  home  
sal
04/09/04 at 14:53:02
[quote author=Emerald link=board=bro;num=1081457030;start=0#2 date=04/09/04 at 00:02:57]I could be the only exception here but there are some things which I canNOT let my husband do. He would just frustrate me wayyyy toooo much! Especially when he's in the kitchen! ::) I'm the kind of person that likes to do things in the home in my own special way with no interference. It just makes me feel better.

[/quote]

You  may sometimes  need his help .I would advis  to  teach  him specially  cooking.
Give  him  chance  :D :D :D





Re: Husband's contribution  at  home  
siskohki
04/14/04 at 07:21:58
[quote author=Emerald link=board=bro;num=1081457030;start=0#2 date=04/09/04 at 00:02:57]I could be the only exception here but there are some things which I canNOT let my husband do. He would just frustrate me wayyyy toooo much! Especially when he's in the kitchen! ::) I'm the kind of person that likes to do things in the home in my own special way with no interference. It just makes me feel better.

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 [slm]
Exactly! I won't let my husband near my kitchen and I like to do also all the cleaning and laundry by myself. But I don't work outside so I have time for that but if I'd work, I would expect him to help, like by doing the dishes etc...
[wlm]
Sahar :-)
Re: Husband's contribution  at  home  
georger
05/23/04 at 11:38:20
[quote author=Salem link=board=bro;num=1081457030;start=0#0 date=04/08/04 at 16:43:50] [slm]Why  some  work  at  home  became  a   particular  job  the  wife  has  to  do  at  home  

What  is  wrong with  a  man  to  wash and  cook  or  clean  the  kids?

I am talking about  even  if the  wife  has  no job outside  home  :)
[/quote]

Work is peculiar.....Nobody can tell me that taking care of children isn't hard work!

I stay at home to tend to my young son while my wife works.

In the past I could exercise my training and trades in both electronics and as a musician, and earn a good living wage. And I did so for nearly 20 years.

Today I have observed this is not the case.

Electronics has degenerated into very low cost, throw-away gadgets made by the millions in China.

And live music here has changed. Once it was beautiful, seeking to lift the human vision and experience to something higher.

Today it has degenerated into something not too far from the Satanic.

And as a male, my job opportunities are limited (outside of my trades) to minimum wage hard labour jobs.

My wife, with just a high school education and her in-born deafness, finds her path is assisted into better paying light labour jobs (like mail sorting).

As strange as it sounds, it actually makes economic sense for me to stay home and for her to go out and work. And my son I observe is much much happier having a hearing parent taking him to/from school, for lunch, and at home.

I do wish for a return to times when I could find honourable opportunities to participate in outside work, and support my small family.

But I think it's not going to come anytime soon.
Re: Husband's contribution  at  home  
jaihoon
05/23/04 at 12:25:41
[slm]

hmm.. i thought helping one's wife at home is sadaqah...

dont see anything wrong in it

Jaihoon
Re: Husband's contribution  at  home  
georger
05/23/04 at 12:40:09
sadaqah???

Sorry but what does that mean in English?
Re: Husband's contribution  at  home  
jaihoon
05/23/04 at 12:50:40
[quote author=georger link=board=bro;num=1081457030;start=0#8 date=05/23/04 at 12:40:09]sadaqah???

Sorry but what does that mean in English?[/quote]

Charity
Re: Husband's contribution  at  home  
Nadeem
05/23/04 at 13:39:03
[slm]

Assalamualikum warahmatullah wabarakatuhu

Three words, guys:

Cleaners, laundrette, microwave.

Alhamdulillah

:D

[wlm]
Re: Husband's contribution  at  home  
kashifs
05/24/04 at 20:46:12
Assalamua'alaikum,  :)

If memory serves me a Hadith of the Prophet Mohamed(p.b.u.h) to a group of men went along the lines of , " Those that are the best to their religion, are best to their wives."

Complement that with an Arab proverb along lines "The man may be the principal(of the household), but the women is the building(the entire schools foundation." ;-)

I know I would simple love to cook with my wife when married if she would allow me to as well as regular do my own dishes and clean around(sure beats tv dribble) and a happy, appreciate wife is can only make my life happier :o) .

I had thought I would be squimish about changing daipers but seeing my younger brother, a married Police Constable, often wipe and give baths and feed his young 'un i know I would not find such responsibilities so unpleasent.

It's not the scenarios life puts you into, in how you intereact to them  :-*   ;D

 


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