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| Angry with Allah? |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/09/04 at 03:17:34 |
| as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu I know this is a blameworthy feeling but i just can't help feeling this way. I have earnestly been making du'ah for over 6 months over a particular issue....and still no answer. I have also done everything that i can on my part and left the rest for Allah (swt) to take care of. I have been praying during the best times (tahajjud, prayer of need) to the point of exhaustion. At this point i dont feel like turning to HIM anymore over this matter. I still pray my 5 prayers but i dont want to ask HIM anymore about what i needed. It is not like i am asking for something haram. I *know* i shouldn't feel this way. I just need someone to help me see things differently. |
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| Maliha |
| 04/09/04 at 10:52:40 |
| [slm] dear anon, i had quoted some notes from a Duah Khatira, from a wonderful Shaykh, here: http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=lighthouse;action=display;num=1081061454 I thought this part was the most relevant to your post: [quote] Allah's Wisdom on Giving and Witholding: -Sometimes when Allah has hubb/love for a abd, He doesn't give him/her what she wants because Allah loves to hear the voice of that abd. "Oh Jibreel delay the reward of my abd, because I love to hear the lamentation of my abd". Sometimes He says" Oh Jibreel give him/her what he/she wants for I detest to hear him/her voice". (so scary! Just because we are in a state of blessing does not mean we are being loved by Allah (or vice versa.) [/quote] Subhana Allah, never ever despair on the Mercy of Allah...Allah may simply love to hear your lamentation...or what you want may not be granted to you, because maybe you that's not what best for you? Maybe He did grant it in a different form? Maybe its not necessarily what you need right now? Maybe you need more time to prepare yourself for it? There are *many* *many* things about the unseen that we have no access to..but Allah does. And when you make duah for a specific thing, you have to keep that in mind. That specific thing may not be the best thing for you right this minute. Another beautiful line is : Duah is *the* best Ibadah, and to be in Duah is better than not to be in Duah...Some amazing shuyukh would also say they would rather be in duah, than be granted what they have, because that earnestness of prayer would leave their hearts. You are blessed to be in a state of slavehood to Allah, to assert your dependence to Him, to keep begging Him...your despair is not a good thing, that is the voice of Shaytaan entering your heart. I mean seriously, think of all the amazing things Allah gives you everyday. Think of the fact you have health, you are breathing only by His permission, your food, shelter, security...think of the beauty of the universe around you..think of every little miracle Allah sends your way *every* moment of the day. And you are mad because??? Don't allow shaytaan to penetrate your heart even for an inkling of a second...if you have thoughts like that seek refuge, be in dhikr all the time, read Quran a lot and change your duah maybe from the specific matter to a general one of Allah give me what You think is best for you... Wa Allahu Ta'ala A'lam. take care of yourself. [wlm] |
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| al-ajnabia |
| 04/09/04 at 11:26:15 |
| [slm] the world has a claim on you while you are in it. The reunioun with Allah cannot happen if you dont turn back to your worldly needs. Muslims are supposed to pray at the times of prayer, and in times of need, and over thngs as they need them, but not at the expenses or ordinary life. Take a break. do something halal but not necessarily religious for a while, between regular prayers. But also sometimes we ask Allah aboutthings and heis answer is deal with it yourself. He knows what is best for us,and there is no amount of praying we can do to make him do soemthing bad for us. Maybe you want him to take care of the whole problem, and He doesnt think that would be good. Maybe He will help with parts of it, and I have often found that when in my own problems I define one place where only Allah can help and ask him, that part gets better right away, even if the rest of the problem still needs to be dealt with by me. |
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| onemuslimgirl |
| 04/09/04 at 11:42:42 |
| sr/br. anon, the prophets would sometimes pray for years and years and not get what they prayed for. why should we think we are better than the prophets. think of prophet ayub with his illness and how he prayed and was patient for years and years or prophet nuh when he spent almost 1000 years getting people to convert and only a handful did. anon, maybe what you are praying for is not good for you right now. many times we ask for something, and we say to ourselves but its not haram, etc. but not everything that is halal is right for us. maybe we want a specific job, but Allah knows that we might get some harm in it. for example, a few years ago, i knew of a sister who was married and she wanted a baby but was having a hard time to concieve. after years and years of prayers and still no child, she was diagnosed with brain cancer. for two years she was in and out of hospitals. in her last few weeks before she passed away, i remember telling us alhamdullah that she did not have a child because then who would be able to take care of the poor child. her husband was already maxed out between his work and taking care of her, and all her family was back home. than she knew she wasnt going to live through this illness, she would have worried about him having a stepmother, etc, etc, etc... Just think that whatever duaa you don't get answered, is given to you as sawab with Allah and saved for you on the day of judgement. when you go to Allah and see the rewards you get for unanswered duaas, you will say, "oh i wish less and less of my duaas were answered, so that i would get their rewards in the hereafter".................. |
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| Trustworthy |
| 04/09/04 at 12:30:03 |
| [slm]... The practice of religion is easy and whoever overburdens himself in his religion will be overpowered by it. Therefore, be moderate, try to be near perfection but within your capacity and receive the good tidings that you will be rewarded. And seek Allah’s (SBTL) help by worshipping in the mornings, afternoons and during the last hour of the nights. (Related by al-Bukhari). When one of you suffers a calamity, he should say, “To Allah (SBTL) we belong and to Him we shall return. O Allah (SBTL), I seek reward from you for my affliction, so compensate me for it and grant me something better than that as its substitute”. (Related by Ibn Majah according to Umm Salama). [2:45] Nay, seek (Allah's) help with patient perseverance and prayer: it is indeed hard, except to those who bring a lowly spirit, [2:46] Who bear in mind the certainty that they are to meet their Lord, and that they are to return to Him. [2:214] Or do ye think that ye shall enter the Garden (of Bliss) without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? They encountered suffering and adversity, and were so shaken in spirit that even the Messenger and those of faith who were with him cried: "When (will come) the help of Allah" ah! verily, the help of Allah is (always) near! [3:146] How many of the Prophets fought (in Allah's way), and with them (fought) large bands of godly men? But they never lost heart if they met with disaster in Allah's way, nor did they weaken (in will) nor give in. And Allah loves those who are firm and steadfast. [6:17] "If Allah touch thee with affliction, none can remove it but He; if He touch thee with happiness, He hath power over all things." The people most prone to trials with afflictions are the prophets and then the most pious and then the next in piety and so on. A man is tried according to the strength of his belief. If his belief is firm, his trial will be harder, and if his belief is weak, he is tried accordingly. A servant of Allah will go on being tried with afflictions until he walks on earth free of sins. (Related by al-Bukhari according to Sa’id). Allah (SBTL) Most High said, a servant who advances towards Me by a hand’s breadth, I advance towards him by an arm’s length. And if he advances towards Me by an arm’s length, I advance towards him by the span of outstretched arms. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him running. (Related by al-Bukhari according to Anas). Once you despair, it means that you don’t care. Be patient and you are in my du’as. May Allah Bless You, Ameen. Ma-assalamah…. |
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| sal |
| 04/09/04 at 15:56:29 |
| [slm] ALLAH promissed any DUAA is accepted.He knows what we asked if it is useful to us and not so he gives us the thing that are good for us on earth and keeps the other in jannah don't feel ALLAH is not responding because he is angry with you. ALLAH gives much even for those he hates. But he will take all that from them and punishes them in HELL You know the story of AYOUB(PBUH) When he was facing all that hard test the devil whispered him *comoen if ALLAH loves you he woudnt punish you like this* But he answered ALLAH has given me very much for lots of years and so what to have a little test like this But finally ALLAH has taken all that test and gave him back more than he used to have ALLAH knows when and what is good for you and please wait and take what he gives you now and be glad ther rest is waiting for you in the heaven INSHALLAH [wlm] |
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| Aadhil |
| 04/09/04 at 16:52:20 |
| [slm] Just Remember this, You owe Allah everything, and He owes you nothing. He does everything according to his wisdom, so there is a wisdom in not answering your particular dua (Or atleast delaying it). Your only solution is Sabr, and change your request to "answer my dua only if it good for me". Hope this helps, A muslim ;-) with a beard. [slm] |
| 04/09/04 at 16:53:21 |
| Aadhil |
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| AbdulJalil |
| 04/09/04 at 21:50:22 |
| Assalamu Alaikum this is a good read The Perfect Believer Imam Ibn ul Jawzee Translated from Sayd ul-Khatir, p. 364 Publ. by Dar Al Yaqeen http://www.islaam.com/Article.aspx?id=590 The believer is not one who performs the ordained religious duties superficially and avoids what is forbidden only, but he is one whose faith is absolute, with no objection whatsoever arising in his heart and no obsession dwelling in his soul. The more hardships he faces, the more his faith grows and the more his submission strengthens. He could pray and not see a trace of an answer to his prayers, yet he does not change because he knows that he is owned by One who deals with him in whatever way He chooses. For if an objection was to arise in his heart, he then forsakes the role of the slave and takes on the role of a protester such as that of Iblees (the devil). A strong faith unveils itself in strong hardships. A believer sees in Yahya, son of Zakariyya, a fine example. He was killed by a tyrant who confronted him, yet He (subhanahu wa ta`ala), who made him a prophet, did not intervene nor defend him. Similarly all the tyranny that befell the prophets and the believers was not held back from them. If one goes to think that Divinity cannot answer for them then one is an unbeliever. However if one believes that Divinity can answer for them but chooses not to, and that God (subhanahu wa ta`ala) can make the believers go hungry while infidels are full and inflict the believers with sickness and grant the infidels health, then one is only left with submission to the Owner even when tormented or scorched. Jacob cried for eighty years when Joseph son of Jacob (peace be upon him) was gone, he never gave up; all he said when his other son was gone too is "May God bring all of them back to me". Moses (peace be upon him) prayed against Pharaoh, who killed children and crucified magicians and cut their hands, for 40 years before he was answered. In such submission the intense of one's strong faith is manifested not in mere rak`at (bowings in prayer). So many of those who glorify Qadar were afflicted with tribulations and this did not increase them except in submission and pleasure (with their Lord), and there lies an explanation of the meaning of His words, "Allah is pleased with them" (Qur'an, 5:119 and elsewhere). Al-Hasan Al-Basree said: people are the same but when hardship befalls they show distinction. ----------------------------------------------------------------------- Also, sometimes the answer of God, might be that He keeps things as they are, because maybe it is better for you, or maybe it is to test you to see if you will keep being gratefull And read this verse, even the Messenger(pbuh) "complained", so be patient inshallah. "Or do ye think that ye shall enter the Garden (of bliss) without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? they encountered suffering and adversity, and were so shaken in spirit that even the Messenger and those of faith who were with him cried: "When (will come) the help of Allah?" Ah! Verily, the help of Allah is (always) near!" [2:214] |
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| theOriginal |
| 04/09/04 at 23:35:27 |
| [slm] There was an article that I read on THIS board that made me feel so much better about my duaas not being answered. I tried looking for it, but unfortunately, my search skills stink. Anyway the article was a sheikh (i think?) comforting his soul about why his duaa was not answered. And if someone could find that for "anonymous" and me, that would make my year. Seriously. Wasalaam. |
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| Caraj |
| 04/10/04 at 01:17:16 |
| I don't mean to sound insensative but is it poss that perhaps he is answering Just not in the way you want him to? I don't know your circumstances, but sometimes the best blessing is what at the time seems like unanswered prayer. |
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| nida |
| 04/14/04 at 23:39:37 |
| [slm] Patience is the key. who knows? maybe Allah has bigger plans for you. What you think is good for you might actually be bad for you, and vice versa. Allah knows what is best for us and everything happens for a reason, we just don't have the wisdom to see reason behind everything. Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) said: "There is nothing more dear to Allah Ta’ala than a servant making dua to him." (Tirmizi) take care don't forget to keep your heart in dhikr(remembrance of Allah) and Allah will help you. [wlm] :-) |
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