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| Failing out of school? |
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| Anonymous |
| 05/03/04 at 04:09:27 |
| what if you did something that would shatter your parents. this is related to academics. i dont know how to tell them that i am failing two of my courses. i am not failing because im incompetent but because i just didnt make the effort. i dont know what to do. the thing is, i dont even want to make the effort. i want to get out of school, i hate it. i cant stand it anymore, i dont want to be here. seriously god's been great all along, because he's helped me get out of tight academic situations in the past, but now im pretty much dying because i can't do anything, and because i stopped asking him for help anyway. i feel badly always asking for him to help me out, so i just stopped, and so this is what happened. the two courses im failing are my electives. i like what im studying a lot, but i hate being here and all this extra stuff seems so pointless to me. i know that i have to study in order to get anywhere in life, because i do have academic goals in life, but right now for some reason i have lost all concentration and motivation. i hate all my friends because i helped them out when they had problems but now they wont help me. one of them told me to get my exams deferred by lyiing about a health problem, but i dont want to lie, there's no point in sinning more and more. then one of my friends gave me an assignment tht he got from a freind that would have helped me pass one of them if i handed it in, but i didnt hand it in because i dont want to cheat. its so stupid i wish i didnt have a conscience. all the muslims in my college are doing so well. why am i the only one who cant manage something so easy as school. i hate it. i dont go to class. i walk right to the classroom and then i walk away before someone sees me because im scared of going to class. sometimes i dont even go, i just sleep and sleep and sleep. im not depressed, i know it because there is nothing in my life to be depressed about. i dont check my email because i know friends are writing because they are concerned. i dont answer my phone calls. whats wrong with me? my parents will really kill me. not only that they will be so hurt because they trusted me to do well in school. and i know they'll ask me what i was doing if i wasnt studying, and i dont have an answer to that. i dont smoke, drink, go clubbing, or anything. i dont enjoy it at all. i am supposed to set an example for my brothers and sisters..now im just a big failure. i dont know where my days go. i dont do ANYTHING. i dont even have a tv. i hate it. i just want to die. |
| Re: Failing out of school? |
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| ForS |
| 05/03/04 at 06:29:28 |
| [slm] You sound like me from the past. Yeah I felt exactly the same way. I never wanted to go to classes nor to school. To tell you the truth, if you hate school ~ then you hate subjects or topics that are learned there. If your interested in Islam you can always become an Imam (which still makes you a successful person) or even more successful then average. Although, Allah can always help nor will He ever stop from helping. Our life is supposed to have the good/bad times. To prove that you are not a failure ~ become a Imam (if you cannot) take your time and try to pass the other courses besides your electives. After this is done, take courses which you would love to have. (For instance; if you hate Medical, but you like working with hands, take Carpentry). You cannot just "hate" things. Things have to have a meaning to be hated. However, in your condition, sounds as if you were giving up. Don't sleep, don't ever, ever sleep. You are wasting your time this way. Don't feel this way about your education and etc. (friends) If you must, then don't show expressions always keep it inside your heart. Go on with where your going, and it'll be forgotten in the past. Learn your mistakes, on why you hated the two electives. And besides they are only electives. Nothing major. Ask an Imam for motivation to do better in school, or any religous person. They REALLY help. Don't be bothered by friends. Stay home and study and (yeah) turn off your cell phones and etc. Don't listen to them or whatever they say, you have to listen to yourself and ask yourself, "Do I want to show that I am a failure to my parents?" .... and always answer, "No!" Try your best, don't let the sleep in your way and your friends. Keep trying hard as you can. Allah knows what you have been through after that, and yet you will get a reward for this. In the meantime, my solution to your problem is, 1. Stop Sleeping 2. Get a Motivation 3. Try your best (You can still ask Allah for help, no matter what.) He is the Giver. 4. Let yourself be free from the troubles (friends, etc.) 5. Have a place to study where you will never be bothered. 6. Concentrate on other subjects (as if you liked them) 7. Pass with whatever you have. 8. Then choose courses you like (doesn't matter as long as you like them) 9. If you want to leave school (become an Imam) 10. If you want to stay and try your best and keep going like the enegizer bunny (you will be successful in the same manner as an Imam.) You win both ways. [wlm] P.S. If my advice didn't help you, then forgive me. |
| Re: Failing out of school? |
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| onemuslimgirl |
| 05/03/04 at 08:31:01 |
| asalaam alakum, What you just described is about 50% of college students. We all pass through this sometime or another, some in their freshman year, others throughout other years. Check with your college to see what options you have. For my university, there are two things i could have done if i was in your situation; 1. get an incomplete. that means you get an 'I' for a grade, you don't drop the class, and you don't lose ur money. you have to complete the class at a later time. your professor has to approve it, and different schools have different rules about it, like our school you have to have completed more than 50% of the required work.... 2. repeat the class again. if ur a freshman, in our school u are able to repeat any class you took within the first 30 credits and they replace the grade...check with ur school they might have something similar to this... also take with ur professors, trust me, alot of them are really nice and willing to help you in anyway possible. Most importantly, go back to Allah and ask him for help...no better cure for depression than prayers, duaa and reading Quran. i went through what ur going through my freshman year AND my junior year. I was living at home at those times though, so i had no choice but to get up each morning and get myself to class.... last thing...ya Allah i talk too much...but open up that email account and return those emails, it will make u feel so much better to get back in touch with people.... |
| Re: Failing out of school? |
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| buL-buL |
| 05/03/04 at 09:20:10 |
| [slm] Renew your intentions. Ask yourself why you are going to school. Are you doing it just because it's something everyone does? Everything little thing you do should be to please Allah (SWT). This way it will also be counted as ibadah and inshallah you will get rewarded for it. Even if you decide to drop out, dont think of it as a waste b/c while you were there if your intentions were good, then there was blesssing in it. As muslims we should gain as much secular and religious knowledge as possible. Be thankful of the opportunity Allah (SWT) has blessed you with. Also try to major in something that you think the muslim community will benefit from. For example, if you are an education major do it because you want to contribute to the growth of islamic schools. Not because you are afriad people will look down on you if you dont get a degree. I find that when i do things for Allah#s sake, life has more meaning to it. [wlm] |
| 05/03/04 at 20:45:20 |
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