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| Problem with coworker |
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| CAMuslimGirl |
| 06/06/04 at 02:15:29 |
| [slm] :-) I have asked you before about my problems with a coworker in the Islamic School where we work. To refresh, despite my good standing in our community and my spotless reputation here, the principal refused to believe me when I told her about the other teacher and her bad treatment and threats against me, but believed every word that woman told her about me. I was put on probation, suffered a one-week suspension without pay, and was removed to a different classroom (alhamdulillah). However, since then, even though I have been in a different classroom, her harrassment of me has not ceased. She has been spreading lies about me within the school, and telling other teachers that I am gossipping about them and lying about them behind their backs. One of the sisters she told lies to was the wife of our sheikh, who was very hurt bu what she heard and our relationship suffered. My former coworker even began to attack the teachers who were close friends of mine, causing them the same trouble in the school. >:( I am leaving the country and won't be working there next year (although even if I stayed, they don't want me back), but I would like your adive about something. I was thinking about writing a letter to the Board of Trustees of our school about this teacher, to let them know what's going on. Besides her terrible treatment of myself and some other teachers, she has done similar things to some parents, has broken confidentiality rules, and even tried to convince a therapist to say that a student had a rage problem to get him kicked out of the school when the therapist did not think that was the problem at all. She is really, in my opinion, the worst thing that has ever happened to the school, and if something is not done, it will only get worse. SO, do you think I should write the letter? |
| Re: Problem with coworker |
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| jannah |
| 06/06/04 at 03:08:05 |
| [wlm] I definitely think you should.. Just make it very professional and business like.. and very non-emotional. Tell them you are leaving and you want to inform them of some things that have happenned at the school so that you can feel like you tried to do something about it for the sake of the children and the school. And then just leave it at that... Eventually things will happen and she'll probably get kicked out but at least you can have it off your conscience. |
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| Kathy |
| 06/06/04 at 11:26:13 |
| [slm] I think you should write the letter, but do not expect much happening. A couple of years ago I was on the Board of Directors of an educational institution. An employee was really concerned over the treatment of the CEO. Up to that point the CEO was thought to be 'all that.' The employee wrote a letter detailing all of her concerns, which no one at the table took seriously, except me. The employee was quitting/forced out and the board took the letter as 'sour grapes.' One day, one of the Board members showed up at me door with a weathered looking piece of paper. It was a letter written years ago by another employee detailing the same exact problems! He had saved it, because he too thought something was fishy, but no one backed him. To make a long story short, the CEO no longer works there and had been so threatening that no one ever dared to stand up to her, because the few that did... and they weren't working there a couple months later. So, as Jannah said, write it professionaly. No emotions, just the facts. You may not think it will have impact, and immediately it may not, but someone just may hold on to it and pass it on ~even after it has been a bit weathered.... |
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| CAMuslimGirl |
| 06/06/04 at 15:38:22 |
| [slm] Wow Kathy, that was a great story! Thank you so much for sharing it with me. That does give me hope. I really feel like there is at least, and maybe only, one member of the board who has their eyes open, so if nothing else, that may be the one like in your story. :) |
| Re: Problem with coworker |
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| Anonymous |
| 06/11/04 at 00:01:00 |
| Salaamz I'd suggest you not to write any letter to the school management. You seem to be a nice lady mashaAllah but the problem is they are not trusting you. So writing a letter to them (management) wont help much. What you should do is write an emotional letter to that coworker, be kind and political with a neeyah that it leaves an impression on her so that she wont trouble anyone else in the future. Mangement will just give her a warning at the max, leaving her even more stubborn IMHO Salaamz and Good Luck - A Professional. |
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