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| CAMuslimGirl |
| 06/23/04 at 00:23:32 |
| [slm] Sisters, I was planning to come post here this week with the news that I was pregnant. (I finished my second month on Sunday.) However, I no longer have good news :(. On Monday, I went to the emergency room, but I had a miscarriage. Sisters, I am feeling so much saddness :'( PLEASE, make dua for me, because I need strength to get through this. |
| 06/23/04 at 22:10:07 |
| Kathy |
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| Caraj |
| 06/23/04 at 00:32:11 |
| Sister, How awful. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my first baby 27 years ago. I can still tell you the exact day I lost the baby. From that experience I know first hand no amount of words will comfort you. It is a grieving process that needs to take place. I was told all the things I did not want to hear. Things like there will be other babies, it was meant to be, etc, etc. Only one person knew what to do, my aunt just held me and cried with me. It was what I needed. Not words. I pray you have such a friend or family member to have a good cry with you. Again, I am so sorry. And in my heart I am crying with you. It is a loss no one can understand unless it happened to them. |
| 06/23/04 at 12:46:16 |
| Caraj |
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| jannah |
| 06/23/04 at 01:02:19 |
| wlm, i heard that it is actually very common during the first trimester. :( i know personally 3 sisters who this has happenned to during their first pregnancy. it is heartbreaking. may Allah make things easier for you inshaAllah. |
| 06/23/04 at 12:33:33 |
| jannah |
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| bismilla |
| 06/23/04 at 01:31:36 |
| [slm] Sister *hugZ* to you. Very sorry to hear about your loss. May Allah SWT make it easy for you for He knows best. |
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| Halima |
| 06/23/04 at 02:48:00 |
| [slm] Sorry Sis to hear about your loss. Losing a babys is not easy. Allah will give you another. Hang in there. [wlm] Halima |
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| workingmuslimah |
| 06/23/04 at 06:41:22 |
| :( so sorry to hear of your loss. May Allah give you comfort and healing. |
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| Savaira |
| 06/23/04 at 10:26:30 |
| [slm] I am so sorry to hear that sister. May Allah give u strength and patience. I had the same thing happen to me the first time I got pregnant. I miscarried at 2 and half months, it really made me sad too. I hope you feel better. Take good care of yourself. [wlm] Your sis |
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| lala |
| 06/23/04 at 10:33:12 |
| [slm] So sorry sis. Nothing can take the pain away other than time and faith. Be well with love marcy |
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| Kathy |
| 06/23/04 at 22:09:42 |
| [wlm] I am so sorry for the pain you feel. How is your husband handling it? |
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| gift |
| 07/05/04 at 05:30:02 |
| [slm] Sister I am so sorry for you loss. [wlm] |
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| Twilight |
| 07/05/04 at 09:12:01 |
| [slm] i was soooo sorry to hear of your loss, inshaAllah you will find it easier to bear in time. [wlm] Baji |
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| Trustworthy |
| 07/07/04 at 14:33:02 |
| [slm]... To The Love I Never Got to Know Years go by and I find myself feeling a little empty You came into my life as quickly as you left I guess God meant it to be that way I still find myself looking for that something I know I can’t get a hold of Nothing can replace you and I miss you so much I guess God meant it to be that way No one knows the triumph and lost a mother never lets go We never got to meet and we’ll never have the time to ever I guess God meant it to be that way May be this world would be too much for the both of us And the next world will surely be for the better of us See you then my love God meant it to be this way Sorry to hear about your loss Sister. Allah (SWT) Bless and many du’as. Ma-assalaamah.... |
| 07/08/04 at 12:06:01 |
| Trustworthy |
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| Caraj |
| 07/09/04 at 23:52:09 |
| Sister CA, how are you doing these days? I think about you quite often and I pray Allah is making this time a easier for you. I was hoping you found that special friend or relative to have a good cry with. When you feel up to it and have time please let us know how you're doing. |
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| UmmAbdulRahman |
| 07/10/04 at 11:26:41 |
| [slm] dear sister, With Allah's help, you will get through this. Just remember, this is a test from Allah. Stay strong and patient, so that you can pass, insha'Allah. After trying to become pregnant for many, painful and trying years, I had 2 devastating miscarraiges. I tried my hardest not to lose hope in Allah. At this time my father, may Allah reward him, advised me to say this dua that the prophet, [saw] advised Umm Salamah to say when she lost her first husband: Oh Lord, reward me for my affliction, and give me something better than it in return. "Allahuma akhloofnee fee mooseebatee war zooqnee khairun minha." After every prayer, and in each sujjood, I said this dua, and alhamdullillah, my dua was soon answered. When it comes to having children, we really have to learn to put our trust in Allah, and know that whatever time He decides to gives us children by His Mercy, is the best time for us and them. |
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| CAMuslimGirl |
| 07/12/04 at 03:45:08 |
| [slm] Hi sisters, thank you so much for your compassion, it means a lot to me. Sister Azizah, I know exactly what you mean...every time someone tried to comfort me, it just hurt worse...My mom and stepdad were the best thing....Alhamdulillah, the miscarriage occurred while I was in Ohio visiting my family. I don't think I coul have gotten through it without them. They knew I didn't want to hear any of those cliche remarks...they just held me and let me cry...my mom cried with me many of the times. She had a miscarriage before me, so she understood the pain. Now that I'm home, I just call her when I need her. But the problem here is that my sister, who I'd usually lean on, just had a baby, so I don't want to ruin her happiness by being sad when I'm with her. Sis Kathy, my husband initially took it very hard...he was sobbing. Now, he is in another city studying, so I only see him on the weekends. Last weekend I realized that he is also still hurting, because when I asked him if he felt sad still he told me he didn't want to cry now, lets talk about it later. I see he's trying to be strong, but he's hurting inside. I am doing better these days...alhamdulillah. There are still hard moments, and strange things make me cry, like passing a minivan on the highway. But I'm feeling better, and I'm able to talk about it now. UmmAbduRahman, thanks so much for the advice about the dua...I will try that. Thanks again for all your support sisters. [wlm] Tara |
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| Caraj |
| 07/12/04 at 13:20:24 |
| [quote author=CAMuslimGirl link=board=sis;num=1087961013;start=10#14 date=07/12/04 at 03:45:08] [slm] . There are still hard moments, and strange things make me cry, like passing a minivan on the highway. But I'm feeling better, and I'm able to talk about it now. [wlm] Tara[/quote] This is not strange Sister Tara, If has been 27 years since my miscarriage and I still wonder what it was going to be (boy or girl) I still remember the date I lost the baby. I also cried on this date every year for many years after even though I had a son the following year. I would celebrate his birthday on the 19th and cry 2 days later on the 21st. He was born 2 days shy of a year after the miscarriage. You may find yourself wanting to cry when you see a mother and baby on the street, is tv commercials, etc. I always tell other women going throught this, do not deny yourself the grieving process. You have lost something very special. I wish I could say something to help you deal with him. Most men seem to want to deal with things alone in their own minds and hearts, where women like to have someone to help them deal with it. Talk about it, cry about it. May Allah make things easier for both you and your husband. |
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| sal |
| 07/12/04 at 16:27:42 |
| [slm]I think we daily lose things but since it is by our own will we don’t observe it .we for example lose money daily buy purchasing things but we don’t be sad for that money as a lose since we have the replacement (the things we bought ) but if that money was stolen we call it a lose and bad moment Doesn’t it happen people sale some thing they love for the sake of some other reason they think is necessary ?]When we lose our cars for example and be replaced by insurance company we still don’t feel sad again since we are reimbursed Well the thing we have to be so conscious at is that we should also be aware what we lose beyond our will is done by ALLAH;S decree so he is in the state of replacing us what we lost . If we take things in that sense it gives us just how trade with ALLAH is. Now think how it seems how much the profit will be I would like to say to sister who lost her baby not to be sad since he is taken away by ALLAH;S will and you will INSHA-ALLAH have better than what is gone .you know this will happen if you put confidence in ALLAH isn’t it ? ;-) |
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