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| Anonymous |
| 06/28/04 at 22:21:12 |
| subhana Allah this is going to sound so weird, and i think others have gone through it too. Isn't it weird when you think that someone is treating you in a certain way because of something, and you interpert everything to be because of that. By everything, i mean like what they say, what they do, why they do something, only to find out later you couldnt have been further from the truth? Well, there was this brother that I thought was interested in me for marriage, everything he said, his family said, family friends said was interpreted to be that way. Only now I have just realized that he has not been interested at all. INFACT, he is interested in someone else, and has been for a few years now, and has proposed to her and they are just waiting for the right time to announce their marriage. Just shows we shouldnt assume things. |
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| lala |
| 06/28/04 at 22:41:22 |
| [slm] ASSUME = ass u me so no dont assume peace and love anonymous! |
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| jannah |
| 06/29/04 at 04:54:01 |
| [wlm] good point anonymous... i wish i could get this message to sink in with all the young girls in the community.. what ends up happening is that they start talking to some bro and over time start assuming things, while at the other end the bro just thinks it's a friendship or thinks of her as a 'backup' and continues relying on her for emotional dependency. abdullah adhami talks about it in his tapes 'gender relationships' thing as something too common as well. |
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| sal |
| 06/29/04 at 20:33:56 |
| [slm]This is why young girls should be very careful and give ear to elderly counsel. They dislike the parents advices when they are in such a false dream calling it love .The real love is after the true journey starts (marriage takes place) I hope this is a good lesson to differentiate between fantasy and reality That castle you wanted in the sky would have no a steady base to plant on So don’t worry and thank ALLAH things are exposed at least in proper time You now have some experience added in your history so that the same mistake will not happen again INSHALLAH ;-) |
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| jaihoon |
| 06/30/04 at 12:31:50 |
| [quote author=Salem link=board=madrasa;num=1088472072;start=0#3 date=06/29/04 at 20:33:56] The real love is after the true journey starts (marriage takes place) [/quote] well said. jazak Allah khair |
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| Aabidah |
| 06/30/04 at 22:49:49 |
| Assalamu Alaikum, Jannah and Salem, what you guys said is very true subhanAllah. However, at the same time, I have heard of brothers who take what the sister says, does to mean that they are interested in them for marriage while they are not. Even though this assumption is made by the sisters most of the time, it has happened to brothers too :) Just pointing out some facts.... Wassalamu Alaikum, Betul |
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