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| al-ajnabia |
| 07/02/04 at 17:08:39 |
| [slm] I'm trying to get ideas on private advice to brother who I think reads this but I dont what to publicize it, I just want to help him and if you all feel inspired ot add comments it might help him. When I was homeless I was begining to remember islam but I dint know enough about it to know how much of it I was following. I started going to a lot of christian churches because I knew I believed in the messa ge of Jesus but that it had been corrupted and I prayed a lot that my words and activities would help them come back to the right way. I sort of bcame a celebrity in the muslim community there because they could see I was a muslim but I didnt know. There was this brother there that was trying to get help for this problem and a lot of people knew what kind of problem he had and knew of possible cures but they require a certain mind set from him or the doctors cant even approach him, since the problem is due in part to hypnosis and the cure in part requires hypnosis. it like this, his mother or some relative was afraid for him since he is strong willed and has a temper, his folks were afraid he would get messed up or hurt real bad so they made him so he cant work, but if anyone striaghtens him out before he deals with his issues, his folks will have their hides and retalliate against the relatives of the doctors if and when he gets hurt real bad, and its kinda complicate because they used kind of an obscure system and so on. Well, to make matters worse, people could concieve of how to help me in my situation (and also it is really easy to cheer me up, not expensive and I dont mind sharing it doesnt deminishe a help for me if others get help too even if they didnt really need it or got more and so on), but they couldnt figure out how to speed his development along, so he seems to have counted a lot of slights. any way, they with others and Allah got me through and I moved on and wound up where I am, well then this brother wound up here too. Now this time he's getting subtancial material help, while I seem once again to be heavily infulencing the communtiy and it seems like some changes have been made coincidental or not with my brining of certain matters to attention. But I dont know what to do about the jealousy and anger, but unless he gets help working through those issues, and I think people inthe past have tried that, more advanced kinds of things cant happen for him, because it will only make him crazy and not better even though it could possibly cure the evident problem. I have seen old men with this problem too, people asume it has to do with drugs or drinking, but it doesnt, its a voodo thing. But dua and blessing need his effort too. I dont know how to make him see that. allah wont cure him while it will hurt him unless he makes him real mad, inshallah some good ideas about jealousy and anger will come up. |
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