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| Marrying an Aalimah, Hafizah or Daiyah!? |
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| Anonymous |
| 07/05/04 at 12:49:19 |
| Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahe wa barakatuh, I have come to this forum for ,mashAllah, a very good reason. I hope somebody knows the solution to what I look forward to. I intend to marry with woman who is Aalimah, or have memorized the Quran...or is mashAllah at the forefront of Dawat ilallah. It will be my honour if she is the daughter of an Aalim. Needless to say that she must be observing full niqab and have all required islamic obligations. Any pointers are helpful. |
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| Anonymous |
| 07/05/04 at 12:49:59 |
| Assalamu Alaikum, I am 24 and i am ready to get married, but the problem is since we cannot date in islam and most of my friends are not practicing muslims, and I am shy to got to the mosque and talk to the Imam, is there any other way to find that right person? |
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| jannah |
| 07/05/04 at 12:59:31 |
| wlm, bro/sis this is not a matrimonial site or forum, but since you sent your post a number of times, along with the second anonymous i thought i would approve it to give you both some information. there are alot of islamic matrimonial sites on the internet that you can check out. there's a whole list of them on the mamalist: jannah.org/mamalist also some mosques have matrimonial programs in different areas but truly nothing beats the auntie network.. so even if you're a convert just mention that you'd like to get married to a few older aunties in the community ;) take care inshaAllah |
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| al-ajnabia |
| 07/05/04 at 14:08:26 |
| [wlm] careful to check out the "aunties" since they are women you can get to know them very well. Some of them have agendas, some of them are racist, and there are some with very negative things that you dont want inculded in your future. There are also other women to watch for, because they may have the ability to say things that arent true to men you cant talk to. all of this has been experinced by me, so I just thought I would warn. do a lot of dua, and be the best person you can be, and dont do anything you dont want to be known for, and dont let yourself be pigeon holed. |
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| sal |
| 07/06/04 at 00:47:44 |
| [slm] Brother Anon I have a comment over your post in general and my response is not to you as particular So What is the reason of recommending these features ? If you mean righteous woman that is not the factors a woman should posses to be the ideal wife. A woman or even man can be DAEE with no big knowledge of the religion. It is enough to appear in a respective polite Islamic way that others be attracted and like to imitate thus this itself is DAIWAH and more effective than a woman memorizing many phrases with less facility of transferring her knowledge .I mean by this that many sisters are DAEES what ever the standard of their education is . So this is not hard you can find so easily If you want hafizah or Aalimah Our question is ,are you hafiz or Aalem ? If yes, then isn’t it better to give chance to a non hafizah and non Aalimah to learn from your knowledge than being two Ulama non can teach nothing new to the other ? and by this you will have gained the reward of playing a role for spreading your knowledge starting from the closest person (wife) Actually I am saying this because the new muslem sisters have no the direct aspects you have mentioned since they have no long experience, however, they are educated and I think this is the important thing a man or woman might require . Imagine when a non muslem educated woman is converted not having any idea of even the basic obligations of islam How can we classify her educational standard ? Does her ignorance to islam deprives her off of being a woman with big brain full of knowledge ? Who do you think is the right man to marry such a woman ? Doesn’t she need a man of her educational standard in general and a better knowledge of Islam at least to be matching to communicate ? (if she thinks of marriage) Isn’t her key request perhaps an educated man ? with a good knowledge to teach what she doesn’t know only (the islam ) ? Is such a woman just because she is not hafizah or Daeeyah or Aalimah not the righteous wife to deserve an Aalem or daee or hafiz ? That is all I wanted to say Wa salaam alaikum wa rahhmat ALLAH |
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| al-ajnabia |
| 07/06/04 at 01:54:19 |
| [slm] is there such a thing as a dowager in islam. I mean can a woman get educated or elevated out of the marriage market? I mean even us braindamaged Aalimah who cant even clearly remeber where all this stuff is coming from are having a hard time imagining not intimidatin the livin bejesus out of a man, so if the brother knows what he is getting into more power to him. leave the sweet little you know what I means for those who dont want the hassle. Also I have never even heard of two Aalim who both knew all the same things, I mean it is hardly a homoginized bunch. could make for some interesting reasons to throw pots and pans and slam doors. |
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