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| umm...my friend's gettin married |
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| Milaya |
| 07/16/04 at 06:53:42 |
| [slm] indeed I'm happy that she's getting married but......I dunno why I feel she's stolen from me(makes sense?). last night I did cry after prayer :'(. she's been my great friend along the way, when I got interested in Islam, I bumped into her and she helped me a lot to understand Islam and also was the first muslima who encouraged me to cover by observing hijab. above all, she's been like my big sister and I feel home when being with her. we have shared a lot of moments together for the past few years and it was sooo beautiful. to be honest, I havent talked much to her after she told me about her wedding plan....sigh! I guess she's too...excited about it. gosh! what's wrong with me? am I selfish? :'( just...I feel neglected n ignored ::) err...maybe it's just me....well have u ever felt this way when ur friends/family are getting married? my feelings are mixed up now between happy and sad.....Sigh! I know it may be wrong that I feel like this, but cant help it! pls....any pointers? |
| Re: umm...my friend's gettin married |
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| ltcorpest2 |
| 07/16/04 at 11:07:01 |
| It is natural to feel that way, but in certain ways, most relationshps here are temporary. Everyone makes transitions to new things and it is part of growing up. When I was single and one of my friends gets married then all of a sudden they are not hanging out anymore (boy does that seem like a couple of lifetimes ago). Then you get married and start hanging out with married couples, then someone goes ahead and gets pregnant and then they start out hanging out with other pregnant or couples with kids, then the kids grow up and you start hanging out with the parents of your childrens friends, then you finally get rid of your kids and you are not going to hanging out with parents with kids. of course, you can get engaged right after she gets married and then you can hang together. and then have kids at approx. the same time. But be excited for someon no matter what the circumstances. I am sure I have been of no help, and if it made matters worse i apologize. mike |
| Re: umm...my friend's gettin married |
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| nida |
| 07/16/04 at 13:23:23 |
| [wlm] Don't worry, you are not the only one. I felt like I was betrayed when my sister got married. :( Its all natural. When you are close to someone, you feel terrible at the thought of loosing them. The only thing that I would suggest is make new friends so you don't feel lonely and sad after she is married. Also remember that as time goes on, you won't feel that bad anymore. Hope that helps. - :-) |
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