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What to do?
Medo
08/16/04 at 00:06:59
~ Asalaamu Alaikum Warahamatulahi Wabarakatu ~

Hello my Brothers and Sisters. I have a problem. I am sad and sometimes lonely. :( My brothers are not a good company (especially Zaid) who has a girlfriend which is haram. I love my mother, but she is always busy. And my dad is working all the time. Wallah I never speak over 100 words a day. I have no company. I am alone all the time and I am always thinking of doing something. Then I do absolutely nothing. I waste my time. What should I do? What is there to do? Sometimes I play basketball myself with no one. I do read quran and sometimes study it. But on some other times, I leave the house and just go for a walk by myself. To be honest, I do sometimes think of romance and etc. But to Allah belongs my soul. I love Allah and I glorify it. But then again what should I do to fill in the sadness to happiness?   Still sad knowing that no one enjoins you in prayer or read quran with you. Or to even play basketball. Feel too left out. So sad.  

~ Walakum Asalaam ~
Re: What to do?
jannah
08/16/04 at 00:24:56
wlm,

hey medo why don't you find some other muslim youth around your age at the mosque to hang out with?? or maybe look into some halaqas and classes that are being offered. those are always good things to do.. and don't worry when school starts up again you will be busy as usual!  :-[ and don't forget to look into university and colleges soon... look for one with a good islamic society so you can be in a good environment at uni!!

take care inshallah
Re: What to do?
al-ajnabia
08/16/04 at 00:26:23
[slm]
well you're not the only one. ive gone days without speaking to anyone but store clerks and telemarketers. and if im going to be entertained, well then I am going to be entertaining myself. but sometimes alteast I can keep myself intrigued pondering new wrinkles in this never ending act of obscene and astounding sacrilidge that is my daily life. ugg atleast if I go criminally insane I'll blemish the dynasty, even if I cant escape this atrocity. wew, im sorry, i jut found out two things at once while Iwas typing this, how my "parentals" knew how to distort islam, and that the us just hired that person who gave them such ideas to do some thing in Iraq. Oh well, there's cancer there. sorry dark thoughts. and to think, surgery could have cured me over twenty years ago. well I also ponder how life could be differnet and the will of allah and what He might be up to.
Re: What to do?
lala
08/16/04 at 00:42:13
[slm] ,

yeh ..school starts back soon..and make new friends. we all have those days..and sometimes to tell you the truth there are a lot of days like those. and sometimes your own mind can be your own enemy..I know that oh too well. But hang in there. Sometimes when  I get to the point where I cant talk to anyone and when I dont have anything to do, I just make something up to do. I'll draw, or clean my room ( I find cleaning therapeutic). Take up a new hobby - I have many.

And as Jannah said, in your college search be sure to check out the schools' Islam-ness as well as academics.

HOpe all is well otherwise.
peace n love
Re: What to do?
bismilla
08/16/04 at 01:58:38
[quote author=Medo link=board=madrasa;num=1092625619;start=0#0 date=08/16/04 at 00:06:59] ~ Asalaamu Alaikum Warahamatulahi Wabarakatu ~

Wallah I never speak over 100 words a day. I have no company. [/quote]


[wlm]  that's not such a bad thing sometimes.  :-)



Also, you might want to think about :-

getting a hobby that will fill your time
or alternatively start volunteer work..I am sure there are a lot of charities around that could use thetime you have on hand
or start a basketball "club" at the mosque where you get other children interested and give them something to keep them occupied too.

Insha Allah, i hope you find ways to spend your time profitably.
08/16/04 at 01:59:35
bismilla
Re: What to do?
Medo
08/16/04 at 23:27:21
[slm]

I will get hobbies and find time to volunteer at the hospital. (Which I will do InshAllah) but another thing bothers me. My love life. I have no one to share it with. I know it is haram. But why? I want to share my thoughts and feelings with someone, but then again I have to wait for my arrange marriage. Then as I think in my head (oh no!) an arrange marriage? I will never love anyone through an arrangement. I have to love someone in just nature. (I don't know how to explain.) But I think you understand. I've seen many people and I am lonely with no one by my side and I hafta wait all the years....... just for an arranged girl. I don't know what to think. But that's what I also had in mind. :( I am such a sweet lil dude w/ no one.

[wlm]  
Re: What to do?
timbuktu
08/17/04 at 02:27:53
[slm] why can't you love your wife of an arranged marriage?

I have lived a very liberal life, but I agreed to an arranged marriage, and I have been in love with my wife for the last 25-1/2 years.

a love life at 17 :shocked: :)

at 17, young man, you should be thinking of building your base in faith and amal, your education and your career, and doing good deeds for the hereafter.
08/17/04 at 09:58:58
timbuktu
Re: What to do?
lala
08/17/04 at 10:00:41
[slm]

Calm down bro Medo..enjoy singledom...Lift weights or something..join a gym. Find camaraderie with your brothers. In my humble opinion, I think you need to focus on yourself at the moment. Perhaps once you start college you can explore marriage...but these days not everyone is ready for such a serious commitment at such a young age. Think about it.

Read a book bro..

peace
Re: What to do?
Medo
08/17/04 at 23:22:22
~ Asalaamu Alaikum Warahamatulahi Wabarakatu ~

Ok. I have realized what I have done. I spoke with the Imam and he told me things which made me (happy) I should say. Also, that every arranged marriage ends up in a healthy relationship (a very good percentage) which I didn't know. I guess I was being selfish as well. (I did want attention.) Being lonely may feel good sometimes, but I do need company once in awhile. A book sure would do. Any kind, even the Quran. Now I feel a bit relaxed and "chilled" out. I am going to Volunteer at my local hospital and inshAllah I will gather up more good deeds. I am also interested in becoming a cardiologist (not a teacher anymore) and I may go to McMaster University in Hamilton, Ontario in 2005. This year is sure to be focused on @ school and I hope I do well. Even though, nobody enjoins me in prayer. I have found someone at the Mosque. Even though he speaks poor English, I guess I could learn Urdu as well. Everything is nearly cleared out. Ok anyways, sorry for bothering you all. And timbuktu, your absolutely right about what you said. It was all my honest thoughts and opinions and I hope it didn't concern the madinah.  :)

~ Walakum Asalaam Warahmatulahi Wabarakatu ~
08/18/04 at 00:38:56
Medo


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