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| Caraj |
| 08/24/04 at 15:42:11 |
| Ok, here is the situation. When I came back (when the car broke down, as I left the truck behind, I can only drive one at a time) I found a farm a lady was wanting to lease/option to me. (Lease till 10% down was given to turn into an owner contract, owner to finance. We spent many days agreeing on all the terms, amount, months of lease, interest rates, and more. With each item she talked it over with her husband and told me in a day or two, so she was not pushed into decisions, she had time to discuss it and sleep on it. When all was agreed upon she gave me the go ahead to move in. I told her I felt uncomfortable moving in with no paperwork (she told me her attorney was on vacation) she assured me all was a go, she was simply awaiting on her attorneys return and to please go and move in so I was not running short on my 30 days to move. This place was quite a ways and I would load my pick-up truck and drive nearly 70 miles to take a ferry across the water to drive even further to get to this place. To make matters worse thgis is summer tourist season so many trips I had to wait 2 or 3 ferry's in line (hours of waiting at time) The ferry and gasoline was approx $50. per trip, well after several days and several trips the day after her attoney was to return and make up paperwork she tells me she decided not to do this. I was like :o :o >:( :'( :o :o After many days, expenses and travels, now I had to reverse and bring all the stuff back and to add insult to injury I had 10 days left on my notice which they had already found a renter :( This was not only a home but a business dealing where there was a horse boarding business involved. It cost me much time and money. (The place was run down and I had even bought the paint, rollers and brushes and made arrangements for new carpeting as the stuff in there was beyond cleaning) Many are saying to sue her for atleast my costs, others are saying go to court for a broken verbal agreement. My heart thinks I should suck it up to a learning experience, I should of known better than to move before signing papers but this lady is in her 60's and quite a strong, smart lady. I know in the Bible it says not to sue, I am not sure if that is Christian to Christian or what. I have no idea what the Quran says about such matters. I was thinking to write her asking her if she would be willing to reimburse me the costs and if she does not to just drop it as a lifes lesson. Others think this was so awful she deserves to be sued. What do you all think? This lost, broken business deal cost me more than I am admitting here but no need to go into all the details. I had not given a deposit yet as the place was run down and she said the painting, re-carpeting and other repairs was to be the deposit, that was to be in the paperwork. But other expenses, not to mention many days I did not work due to moving was lost. |
| 08/24/04 at 15:43:58 |
| Caraj |
| Re: To sue or not |
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| Stephanie |
| 08/25/04 at 02:10:50 |
| [slm] At least talk to her or write her explaining the expenses you incurred. I have absolutely no idea what the Qur'an says about suing if anything. Inshallah, there are many more knowledgable here on the board. If this woman has any decency in her at all she will reimburse you. It sounds to me like Allah subhana wa ta'ala is testing your faith. I also was met with hardship and challenge shortly after becoming a Muslim but alhumdillah it only increased my iman. [wlm] :-) |
| 08/25/04 at 02:13:14 |
| Stephanie |
| Re: To sue or not |
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| Trustworthy |
| 08/25/04 at 03:16:14 |
| [slm]... First try to talk some sense to her. If she's a smart lady like you say, she'll feel your pain. If she's mean, then, Too bad too sad and sue her. But in Islam, it is best to deal with matters like these in a kind and respectful way cause in Islam, we too have the golden rule: Do unto others as you'd liked done unto you. What if she was in your shoes, what would she want you to do? It's an honest deal...make it so. Many du'as and Allah (SWT) bless.... |
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