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| Maliha |
| 09/15/04 at 18:32:06 |
| [slm] I bought two books, and have browsed the web for information on pregnancy, babies, what to expect, etc. Not to mention, I have literally badgered my friends who are momz on questions about babies :P I still feel soooo clueless. Are there any books out there that are "must reads". Focusing on pregnancy, what to do right after, and then Parenting in general? Are there any ones out there from an Islamic perspective? For the momz on board, what do you wish you knew, had prepared for earlier, etc? Help out this increasingly nervous sis :-* [wlm] |
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| Stephanie |
| 09/15/04 at 20:46:26 |
[slm] With my first pregnancy I liked "What to Expect When Expecting". You probably already know there are a lot of sites and communities out there on the internet. I recall seeing a Muslim parenting site but you'd have to search to find it. As far as the labor, it's really just one of those things you have to experience. I'm not saying don't educate yourself on the subject, by all means please do. It's always a good idea to have some idea as to what to expect. I'm just saying when the time comes it probably will be a lot different than what you imagined. Sis when you hear that first cry, inshallah, words can't describe the overwhelming sense of love, the way the heart soars, the tears in your eyes. It truly is a miracle. :-* :-* :-* Parenting is a learning experience. I find the books are helpful because they give you ideas and also help to reinforce and reiterate the things you already knew but either forgot or are not following out of laziness. However, I really feel like some of the western books are too liberal and wishy-washy and of course we always have to raise our children under the guidance of Islam. Each child, mom and family is different, so it's really up to you as far as the parenting style you choose to adopt. For certain problems though, it's good to look things up to get ideas. For instance, when my son developed a biting problem at around 9 mos of age, the info I found on the internet really was helpful in breaking the nasty and painful habit. I do like the book "Parenting in the West" which is an Islamic parenting book you may have heard of. That's really the only parenting book I've used. Oh yeah, if you're breastfeeding, make sure you get the proper help while your still in the hospital. Its not as easy as some people think especially if your lil one is being difficult (get used to it ;)). If I think of anything else I'll be sure and post. BTW, what month are you in? How's the morning/all day sickness? Mine's really starting to kick in Blaah :'( Best of luck [wlm] :-) |
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| NinthMuharram |
| 09/15/04 at 21:31:40 |
| [slm] I'm not an experienced mother but just another first timer expecting mother. I have been attending ante-natal class at my hospital. So far we have learnt about baby's progress, changes in our body, physiotheraphy session on exercises during and after pregnancy, baby massage (I have a copy of the video. If anyone wants it, just drop me a msg), nutrition, brain stimulation for the baby and visiting the mother & baby room and delivery room. I have a few more sessions to attend on caring for the baby,breastfeeding etc. The best thing is we get free gifts and samples every session! I think this kind of class is available in the U.S too? As Dawn said to me once before, no matter how many books you read or ask questions to people, you will always be "unprepared". ;) Wasalam. |
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| M.F. |
| 09/17/04 at 05:24:34 |
| Assalamu alaikum sis Mabrouk to you and all the other soon-to-be-mommies out there! Ma sha Allah so many expectant mothers, it's so exciting that our Ummah will be increased through such amazing Muslimahs al hamdu lillah. The books I have read that consistently go along with my instincts are the Dr. Sears books. So far I have "The Baby Book", The Discipline Book and the Successful children book. The first one should probably be enough to start with. I believe they also have a pregnancy book. The reason why these books worked for me is that they took the pressure off in a lot of areas such as the baby sleeping through the night (not!), where the baby should sleep etc. I had the baby in bed with me because it was so much easier than getting up 6 to 10 times a night to pick him up. Most books will insist that baby learns to sleep in his crib on his own. With most babies this just doesn't happen. The Dr. Sears books took that pressure off. Anyway you can see his website and decide for yourself: www.askdrsears.com Allahul mu3een!!! |
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| timbuktu |
| 09/17/04 at 12:03:34 |
| [slm] mabrook to you and your husband, and all expectant parents here is a freebie for US expectant parents: [i]American Baby magazine[/i] http://www.freebiedirectory.com/jump.cgi?ID=6990 - Expectant parents can sign up here for a free one-year subscription to "American Baby" magazine, a publication that covers everything you "need to know about pregnancy and baby care." Allow six weeks for your first issue to arrive. (U.S. only). a word of caution: I don't know what this book is like. :) another word of caution. I now suspect all books by american experts. The reason: I bought a book by Dr Spock, and raised my son accordingly. I was surprised at the unexpected results. Then, when my daughter was born, i came across a later book by the same author, in which he had asked his reader to discard his earlier book, and raise their children according to the second book, because as he said: the first book was written whe the author did not have a child of his own. After having a child, and raising him by his first book, the author realised how mistaken his first book was, and as written the second one to correct the first one. It reminded me of the joke we used to make. In Britain, we would be denied publication unless we had absolutely investigated every possibility that could be thought of, while in the US a researcher would publish his first very far-fetched idea. Then he would publish a refutation of his idea. Thena refutation of his second paper. This wouls go on and on, until he had a sizeable number of publications, and still without a clue to where he was going. we wolud be wheer he was, but without any publication. Eventually we would have our publication, which would be our considerd word on the topic. At about the same time the US researcher would have his umpteenth publication, with the same result/ conclusions as us. It is OK if the research is not going to affect people, or life. The war on Iraq was also due to this mentality. but I digress. I eventually found a very good book on child rearing. It is a translation of an old book by an arab author. The translation was called: "Tarbiate Atfaal, ÊÑÈíÊ ÇØÝÇá" and it was available free from he dawah or Islamic centres maintained by the Saudi government. The Arabic (or its English transtalation) might still be available from the Islamic Centres in the US, as there is no politics or Jihad in it, these being banned topics under the revised syllabus. :) |
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| timbuktu |
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| Zara |
| 09/19/04 at 16:11:40 |
| [slm] http://uk.pampers.com/en_GB/learningage.do?stageid=101¤tid=se2101 click the link and let me know if it is any use. [wlm] :-) |
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| eleanor |
| 09/23/04 at 18:23:03 |
| [slm] Sorry for answering so late... apart from bugging my sister and some of her online friends, I have found the following websites to be my mainstay so far - [url]www.babycentre.co.uk[/url] and in particular - [url]www.eumom.com[/url] They are based in England and Ireland but I what I liked is that you can check each week to see the baby's progress and to get tips on how to deal with what you are feeling this week. I also read a couple of forums, one is in England and one is in Ireland, but you may want to read something which is more regional to where you live - where do you live anyway??? Hope this helps, wasalaam eleanor |
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| Sunnah_ |
| 12/09/04 at 04:07:31 |
| My sis and sister-in-law both really liked 'What to expect when your expecting'........backin up what shareislam had posted. Goodluck sis! Maybe you can let me know which books and sites you liked when my turn comes! Sis Sunnah_ |
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| Kathy |
| 12/09/04 at 08:58:11 |
| [wlm] These 2 books were what I relied on for information... ten years ago! you can get them on amazon for a dollar!!! +s&h!!!! Caring for Your Baby and Young Child: Birth to Age 5 by The American Academy of Pediatrics, Stephen P. Shelov, Robert E. Hannemann, Wendy Wray, Alex Gray The Portable Pediatrician: A Practicing Pediatrician's Guide to Your Child's Growth, Development, Health and Behavior, from Birth to Age Five by Laura W. Nathanson |
| 12/09/04 at 09:01:53 |
| Kathy |
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