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| Dawn |
| 09/18/04 at 14:54:41 |
| marry a woman who was taller than you? [slm] OK, a friend of mine (who is even taller than me :o and who is single) and I were having a discussion about how willing and/or inhibited men were about marrying women taller than themselves. I thought about it, and the biggest difference I had ever seen in a couple (where she was taller than he was) was about 4 inches (10 cm). And that was a lone exception. Usually when the woman is taller, it is only by an inch or so, from what I have observed. So, brothers, tell me (in anonymous mode if you would rather!) how important is height in finding a spouse? And how much taller than you would you be (or were you, if you are already married) willing to consider? |
| 09/18/04 at 15:17:20 |
| Dawn |
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| siddiqui |
| 09/18/04 at 15:19:26 |
| [slm] As far as I am concerned it is not an issue , as long as she isnt embarssed by a much shorter man tagging along carrying her bags :P [wlm] No ,I dont work as a bell hop for a living either ;) |
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| timbuktu |
| 09/18/04 at 22:33:13 |
| [slm] interesting question I remember thinking about it, whether I would for a girl taller than me. and there were plus as well as minus points. The genetic mix would favor tall children than if the wife were shorter. That is a plus point. But when you are out on the streets, then yes, a husband much shorter than his wife looks odd; so a tall girl, but not too tall. All this is wrong, though. The consideration should be piety, knowledge and practice of the deen. Here I have occasionally seen couples where the wife is much, much taller. That is because many people stick to a particular clan, and the choice may sometimes be limited. |
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| resistance4ever |
| 09/19/04 at 03:57:30 |
| [slm] I think the woman being taller than the man makes a lot of men feel that their manhood is in question, as silly as that sounds. Most men feel they should be taller than their wife, the "bigger" one in the marriage. However i personally think if the women is an ince or so taller, its not really too much of an issue, as the difference is not really noticable. Me personally, i would not marry a women taller than me, UNLESS she was absolutely stunningly beautiful, and had the most amazing personality, and loads of money ;) But if she wasnt, than i'd rather not compromise being the shorter of the two. Now Dawn, if your friend is taller than you, than she must be the tallest woman in the world! ;) [wlm] |
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| lucid9 |
| 09/19/04 at 09:08:41 |
| [quote author=resistance4ever link=board=bro;num=1095530081;start=0#3 date=09/19/04 at 03:57:30] I think the woman being taller than the man makes a lot of men feel that their manhood is in question, as silly as that sounds. [/quote] I always wonder where cultural stuff like that comes from. For some reason I always thought that guys whose self-esteem was tied to their physical masculinity were that way because they had nothing else to prop up their egos -- i.e. they were pretty much losers... And in any case I always thought guys liked tall girls -- the taller the better. My mom is taller than my dad and if you live in deshiland a woman's height is very big plus because it allows her to intimidate annoying males who would ordinarily take advantage of them. (This is not meant as a personal jibe at resistance, only a general statement) [slm] |
| 09/19/04 at 18:40:54 |
| lucid9 |
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| yumna |
| 09/19/04 at 10:54:38 |
| ...hey speaking of height i don't i have noticed that this coming generation that is ..um.. us is much shorter and people are getting shorter in height year by year .. :(...um i don't like it :(..im one of them im barely 5 3 |
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| eleanor |
| 09/19/04 at 10:54:50 |
| [slm] well here's a real life example for you, Dawn. Bro in law is shorter than Sis in law. (the ones in Spain). She is about Yousuf's size and he is a few cm taller than me! So think me and Yousuf in reverse and that's the height difference. I'd say about 8cm since Yousuf is about 10cm taller than me. Bro in law is fine about it. He doesn't care. She is a bit self concious about it, doesn't wear heels etc. Yousuf usually gets his bro to stand on a step when taking photos of the two of them together ::) (he likes wives to be shorter than husbands... lucky he picked me then :P ) Hope this helps wasalaam eleanor [] |
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| resistance4ever |
| 09/19/04 at 17:10:39 |
| [slm] <<I always wonder where cultural stuff like that comes from. For some reason I always thought that guys whose self-esteem was tied to their physical masculinity were that way because they had nothing else to prop up their egos -- i.e. they were pretty much losers...>> lol! thats a bit harsh! Just coz a dude is concerned about the way he looks dont make him a looser. In fact i'm sure most women would rather their husbands were concerned about how they looked and looked after their bodies. <<And in any case I always thought guys liked tall girls -- the taller the better.>> .....as long as the girl isnt much taller than the guy :) Most guys would rather go for smaller women, although you do get exceptions. [wlm] |
| 09/20/04 at 04:25:17 |
| resistance4ever |
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| dina |
| 09/20/04 at 04:23:21 |
| [slm] i can remember a cousin who was engaged to a slightly taller woman by only an inch he was so insecure, she never wore heels to make him feel better but that didnt help then he put weight on so he looked even smaller and became more insecure in the end it didnt work out so i guess the lesson is, to marry someone who is emotionally secure and strong about themselves, so no matter a little tease here and there will not send them in tears :'( |
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| ltcorpest2 |
| 09/20/04 at 11:04:01 |
| i am 6'3" and wife is 5'10". I doubt that I would have married a woman 6'4 or taller. But, I did not really have that many opportunities to try. |
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| Dawn |
| 09/20/04 at 15:10:42 |
| [slm] [quote author=resistance4ever link=board=bro;num=1095530081;start=0#3 date=09/19/04 at 03:57:30] Now Dawn, if your friend is taller than you, than she must be the tallest woman in the world![/quote] :D Not exactly, but she and Mike are nearly the same height. Actually, I know or have been acquainted with quite a few very tall women, having played either with or against them in my high school and college basketball playing years. But I don't know who, if anyone, they eventually married, so I can't add them to my "statistics". And Mike, if you wanted to meet those women who were 6'4" or taller, you should have hung out more with the women's volleyball and basketball teams! ;) |
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| se7en |
| 10/07/04 at 17:11:38 |
as salaamu alaykum, I think sisters can make height an issue too.. I'm relatively tall as a sister (5'7") and I always said that I wanted to marry someone taller than me.. and I know this is also true for my tall friends :) I guess it makes you feel unfeminine, or something, if you are bigger than your husband. However, if/when you find someone with overwhelmingly good and beautiful qualities, I think these things become minor.. salaamu alaykum :) |
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| ltcorpest2 |
| 10/07/04 at 19:40:06 |
| actaully, I used to hang out with women volleyball players. On my club team (we had a womans and mens team) there were some tall women and one of them was on the USA womans national team and I rememeber going to her wedding and i looked back and the row behind me was all of the national team and they were all taller than me, that was kinda weird. |
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| faisalsb |
| 10/09/04 at 03:14:44 |
| [slm] One uncle of mine used to advice all of us boys to marry a woman taller than us, we were surprised to listen his advice and asked him the wisdom behind his advice. He replied, "If your wife is taller than you then she will always talk to you while keeping her head bowed down and you will keep your head up while talking, so that's way she will never raise her head in front of you". Well it was a funny advice but just wondering if any brother had that reason to marry a taller woman? |
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