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| How to help our bro/sis losing their religion? |
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| Anonymous |
| 10/03/04 at 14:38:08 |
| How You feel? when You see a fellow brother or sister losing their islamic religion, and culture. how can we help these kind of people? someone told me just to ignore it, but i can't just look and do nothing. So i need some advice on how can advice them in way that inshalah allah will heal their hearts and be good muslim and muslimah inshalah. |
| Re: How to help our bro/sis losing their religion? |
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| Mossy |
| 10/03/04 at 20:08:49 |
| You should never ignore it. It is your duty to give them sincere advice and support to the greatest extent possible. However, there is no easy answer to how to solve this problem. People vary enormously in the reasons that they lose the straight path and wander into darkness. For some it is but the prelude to a new dawn and a renewed vigour in their religion, others have their heart hardened and sadly depart. An increasing factor I've noticed has been the reaction to the cultural-religious upbringing that many muslims have. They are taught religion by rote - actions without the intentions. Ritualised religion. Our religion is a harmony of islam, iman and ihsan. Sometimes people just need to find one of these and realise it's import - take what is most beautiful in religion to you and try to see if the other person percieves this too. Above all you must be there to listen, if you do not then it makes finding answers all the harder for them. |
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| salaampeaceshalom |
| 10/04/04 at 05:23:17 |
| [slm] I so agree with Mossy. We are also told in Islaam that we should enjoin good, and this includes when someone starts to go astray, you need to help guide them back if Allaah Wills for that person to be Guided back. Maybe as bro Mossy said this is a prelude to a new dawn, but perhaps u could speak to this person and tell them what makes u so happy in Islaam and what u get from Islaam, and this may hurry the new awakening for this person, as they may be inspired by ur words. The most important thing u can do is talk to this person. Not in a chastising manner, but in the most gentlest of manners, and find out what is happening in this person's life. It may be that this perosn doe not have enough knowledge of Islaam which will keep this person strongly attatched to it, or it may be that this person has serious issues happening in their life and perhaps has become disillusioned slightly. It may be that this person is questioning Islaam for whatever reason, or if serious things are happening to him/her, may be feeling like 'Why me?', or 'Despite how many times I pray/how many du'aas I make, my situation isn't changing' and so feels Islaam isn't doing anything for him/her. U really do need to speak to this person and see what exactly is happening, and then from there u can decide how best to tackle that issue. It may be that this person would be really appreciative that somebody actually cares enough about him/her to express their concern :). I hope it works out insha'Allaah and ma'sha'Allaah, that's great that u actually felt like u should do something :) wa'salaam |
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| dina |
| 10/04/04 at 11:16:59 |
| [slm] i have noticed many muslims with varying levels of iman. some extremly pious and some that dont know anything from my personal experince i have met many muslims that have loss all hope and fall into the trap of shaitan by saying i have committed so many sins am going to hell anyway so i may as well enjoy life now the sad thing is these people do not know that if they ask for forgivenesssincerely they will be forgiven they have no concept of reward. so for these kind of people getting them to understand the purpose of this life is extremly important depending on the personality of each individual, you can decide whether to take a gentle approach or srtong appraoch, bearing in mind people have become so ignorant they dont like being told what to do, you have to strike the right balance if sucessful, these poeple can become extremly pious, maybe more than yourselve on the other hand, i have met other mulsims, who on the surface come across, as extemly sincere and pious. but i find them extremly judegemental, silly things like you do this when you shouldnt, this person is not good becuase of this, you are better than so and so because you do this, i have certain amount of knowledge becuase of my background whereas you dont...ect ect always i find my opinion doesnt matter becuase they think they are better islamically and all they do is judge you compare you against another and decide what catergory to put you in once i was even told a non muslim was better than me because of another reason with this kind of person it is also extremly hard to deal with, because they clearly have faith in Allah swt but am not sure about there interpretation, i have tried to get my point across but its difficult to cut this post short, you have to become a friend of the person you trying to help and you have to interact with them at a social level to understand what they have been through, i suggest you observe the person personality and decide what approach to take for example gentle verbal dawah, invitation to meeting or just go out for a meal to get know each other, exchange books and most of pray to Allah to guide the person wassalam |
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| Aadhil |
| 10/04/04 at 21:07:21 |
| [slm] Wanna know for certain? then go to a few tabligh jamaat meetings cause thats their specialty. They go around brining back lost muslims to the straight path. Im not fully involved but ive been to about 2 trips with them. A muslim ;-) |
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