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| How to make more friends? |
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| Anonymous |
| 10/14/04 at 20:11:49 |
| salamaliakum, this is my first year in high school. i really wanna get to know a lot of people and make friends.but i don't wanna seem helpless or anything when i go upto them and talk. i know i have to be myself and a few times i have went upto ppl to talk but they don't seem interested as much. i don't wanna seem boring. what do i do?thank you everyone in advance |
| Re: How to make more friends? |
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| Kathy |
| 10/16/04 at 04:47:22 |
| [slm] When i was a young'in and even today I found there were two ways to 'get' a friend. 1. Be one for someone. Do not monopolize the talking... A good ear is all you need. 2. Get involved with activities. Join up for clubs, sports, or volunteer stuff. It is easier to meet someone when you are working along side with them. |
| Re: How to make more friends? |
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| Mossy |
| 10/16/04 at 19:56:51 |
| It's all about quality, not quantity. At a guess, I would say that you're somewhat lacking in self-confidence. This is what you must address first and foremost. A lack of self confidence is usually located within a fear response - look carefully at what you're afraid of when interacting with others. Rejection, being outcast? Perhaps you consider yourself ugly or smelly. In the end, you must realise these are not things one should fear - this process can take a long, long time. Why? Because in the end there is only one thing we, as muslims, should "aim" to fear - Allah (swt). It sounds a bit cliché, but one could say that is the ultimate goal of anyone - taqwa. Fear/respect/subservience. Realise that other people judging you "boring" or negatively in other ways ultimately has no significance. What matters is the way in which you respond to these negative or positive comments - this is what you are being judged on by the only one who can judge. I'm sorry if all the above sounds a bit preachy, but once you have that self-confidence and belief that whatever happens, happens for the best, your interactions with people will improve ever more. So sit back, kick back, and look deep inside - organise those priorities and analyse for who's sake you do the things you do. G'luck and enjoy high school. |
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