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| Anonymous |
| 11/02/04 at 13:32:17 |
| does anyone have any duas in english that i can read during times of hardship and depression? what else can i do if i feel almost without hope about the future? i feel really sad like my life is going the wrong way.what should i do? can someone give me advice? |
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| jannah |
| 11/09/04 at 15:08:30 |
| Dear Anonymous, Everyone feels what you do at some time or other, so don't feel alone inshaallah. I wrote an article on Dua a number of years ago. I'll post it here and here are some duas for harship as well inshaAllah ------------------------------------------------------- In al-Saheehayn it was reported from Ibn ‘Abbaas that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say, when he felt distressed: “La ilaaha ill-Allaah al-‘Azeem ul-Haleem, Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah Rabb il-‘arsh il-‘azeem, Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah Rabb is-samawaati wa Rabb il-ard wa Rabb il-‘arsh il-kareem (there is no god except Allaah, the All-Mighty, the Forbearing; there is no god except Allaah, the Lord of the Mighty Throne; there is no god except Allaah, Lord of the heavens, Lord of the earth and Lord of the noble Throne).” And it was reported from Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say, when something upset him: “Yaa Hayyu yaa Qayyoom, bi Rahmatika astagheeth (O Ever-Living One, O Everlasting One, by Your mercy I seek help).” And it was reported that Asmaa’ bint ‘Umays (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to me: “Shall I not teach you some words to say when you feel distressed? ‘Allaah, Allaah, Rabbee laa ushriku bihi shay’an (Allaah, Allaah, my Lord, I do not associate anything with Him).’” It was reported from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No person suffers any anxiety or grief, and says: ‘Allaahumma innee ‘abduka wa ibn ‘abdika wa ibn amatika, naasiyati bi yadika, maadin fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka, as’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghaybi ‘andak an taj’ala al-Qur’aana rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’a huzni wa dhahaaba hammi (O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your female slave, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every Name belonging to You which You named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety)’ - but Allaah will take away his sorrow and grief, and give him in their stead joy.” Prayer for Patience, Perseverance and Steadfastness 44:12 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- (They will say:) "Our Lord! remove the Penalty from us, for we do really believe!" Rabbnaa ikshif annaa al azaab 'in(na)naa mu'minuun 12:86 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- He said: "I only complain of my distraction and anguish to Allah, and I know from Allah that which ye know not... Qaala 'inna-maa ashku baththe wa h.uzne 'ilaa 'allaah wa a lam min 'allaah maa laa ta lamuun 2:250 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- When they advanced to meet Goliath and his forces, they prayed: "Our Lord! Pour out constancy on us and make our steps firm: Help us against those that reject faith." Wa lammaa barazu li jaalut wa junudhi qaalu rabbnaa afrigh alaynaa s.abr(an) wa thabbit aqdaamnaa wa uns.urnaa alaa al qawm al kaafiriin 7:126 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "But thou dost wreak thy vengeance on us simply because we believed in the Signs of our Lord when they reached us! Our Lord! pour out on us patience and constancy, and take our souls unto thee as Muslims (who bow to thy will)! Wa maa tanqim minnaa 'illaa 'an 'aamannaa bi 'aayaat rabbnaa lammaa jaa'atnaa rabbnaa afrigh alaynaa s.abr(an) wa tawaffanaa muslimiin 16:127 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- And do thou be patient, for thy patience is but from Allah. nor grieve over them: and distress not thyself because of their plots. Wa is.bir wa maa s.abrka 'illaa bi 'allaah wa laa tah.zan alayhim wa laa taku(n) fe d.ayq min maa yamkuruun 16:128 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- For Allah is with those who restrain themselves, and those who do good. 'Inna 'allaah ma a 'allaziina ittaqaw wa 'allaziina hum muh.sinuun 17:96 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Say: "Enough is Allah for a witness between me and you: for He is well acquainted with His servants, and He sees (all things). Qul kafaa bi 'allaah shahed(an) bayniy wa baynakum 'innahu kaana bi ibaadhi khaber(an) bas.er(an) 14:12 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "No reason have we why we should not put our trust on Allah. Indeed He Has guided us to the Ways we (follow). We shall certainly bear with patience all the hurt you may cause us. For those who put their trust should put their trust on Allah." Wa maa lanaa 'an laa natawakkal alaa 'allaah wa qad hadaanaa subulnaa wa la nas.biranna alaa maa 'aazaytumunaa wa alaa 'allaah fa li yatawakkal al mutawakkiluun When faced by a hardship 0 Allah! There is nothing easy except what You make easy, and You make the difficult easy if it be Your will. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- When one's desire or hope could not be fulfilled Allah had decided, and whatever He willed, He did. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- When one is overwhelmed with a problem Allah suffices us and He is the best Guardian. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- When in pain In the name of Allah, I seek refuge in exalted power and glory of Allah from that which I feel and fear. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- At the time of a disaster We belong to Allah, and to Him is our return. You suffice me in disaster. So, reward me for it and replace it with something which is good. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- |
| NS |
| 11/09/04 at 15:11:32 |
| jannah |
| Re: Depressed..? |
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| jannah |
| 11/09/04 at 15:09:01 |
D U A ' by Jannah Dua is defined as any invocation or prayer addressed to Allah (SWT). In our times, we find many reasons why people do not make Dua; we forget, don't know how, or just do not think it will be answered. Fundamental to this is the loss of dependence and trust upon Allah. As Muslims there is something very wrong when we believe our Duas won't be answered. We do not turn to Allah in our times of need and instead put our trust, dependence and hopes on worldly things that we think will help us. Although these temporal things are the means through which our Duas can be answered, the root of our being should be trained automatically to turn to Allah and not anything or anyone else. Through Dua, we strengthen our Imaan and our relationship with Allah, as well as heighten our awareness of cause and effect that can help inspire and motivate us to be closer to Islam in our lives. We find many reassurances throughout the Quran for those who make Dua. Allah the Exalted, has said: "And your Lord says: Pray unto me: and I will hear your prayer" (Quran 40:60), "Call upon your Lord Humbly and in secret" (Quran 7:55), "When My servants question thee concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them): I listen to the prayer of every suppliant when he calleth on Me" (Quran 2:186), "Is not He (best) who listens to the (soul) distressed when it calls on Him, and who relieves its suffering." (Quran 27:62) Aisha radhiallaahu anha said, "No believer makes Dua and it is wasted. Either it is granted here in this world or deposited for him in the Hereafter as long as he does not get frustrated." In fact, it is even wrong to never make Dua, "Whosoever does not supplicate to Allah, He will be angry with Him." [Saheeh Jaami`as-Sagheer #2414] A Hadith says "Ad-Du'aa Huwal-3ibaadah",[Abu Dawud,at-Tirmidhi, Hasan Saheeh], Dua is Ibadah so calling upon anyone other than Allah in one's Dua is Shirk. This is an important condition of having one's Dua accepted; the Dua should not be directed to other than Allah alone. A second condition would be sincerity or Hudoor alqalb, having the heart present. Also, one's food, drink, clothes and lifestyle should be Halal. One should avoid unlawful, impious or forbidden sources or means of livelihood. Fourth, one cannot ask for something sinful or Haram. Dua should not be made against family and property (i.e. to sever the ties of kinship). If one asks Allah to curse someone, it rises up to heaven and goes to the person if they are deserving, if not it returns to the person supplicating. Patience is another condition. This perseverance in making Dua is important. One should not say "Why hasn't Allah answered my Dua" or "I have prayed and prayed so many times, but the same was not accepted" and then become disappointed and give up praying. An example of this is like a person who planted a seed or a sapling, and kept looking after it and watering it and when its complete shape and height was slow in coming, they left it and forgot about it. Lastly one should have expectation, belief with certainty only Allah can answer the Dua. Understanding dependence on Allah and asking with absolute resolve and believing with certainty that one's Dua will be answered is a also a condition of acceptance. One should not say "O Allah do this...if you wish..." because one should appeal to Allah with determination, for nobody can force Allah to do something against his Will. If one fulfills these conditions, Allah will definitely answer the Dua, avert some equivalent evil or give better in the Hereafter. We can and should make Dua in every condition, i.e. in hardship and in prosperity. There are also some special times to make Dua where it is more likely to be accepted: 1. When one is oppressed 2. Between the time of Athan and Iqama 3. At the time of the call for prayer 4. At the time of fighting when warriors are engaged with each other 5. When it is raining 6. When one is sick 7. The last third of the night 8. Ramadan (especially Lailatul Qadr) 9. After the Fard part of prayer 10. When traveling 11. When breaking fast 12. In Sujood 13. Fridays, some say on Friday after Asr prayer 14. While drinking the water from the well of Zamzam 15. At the start of prayer (Dua of Istiftah) 16. When one begins the prayer, i.e. with "all praise be to Allah, the Pure and the Blessed one" 17. While one recites al-Fatiha (which is a Dua) 18. When Ameen is said in the prayer (also relating to Fatiha) 19. At the time of raising the head after the Rukoo 20. In the last part of the prayer after conveying blessings unto the Prophet (SAW) 21. Before finishing the prayer (before Tasleem (saying the Salaam to the angels)) 22. At the end of Wudu 23. On the day of Arafah 24. On waking up from sleep 25. At times of adversity 26. Prayer after the death of a person 27. Dua when someone's heart is filled with sincerity and when it is focused on Allah 28. Dua of the parent against or for his children 29. When the sun moves from its meridian but before the Dhuhr prayer 30. The Dua of a Mqslim for his brother without the latter's knowledge 31. At the time the army advances to fight in the way of Allah. Dua can be beautified and perfected by certain actions: 1. Have Wudu, face Qibla, be neat and clean 2. Raise both hands up to the shoulder with palms open facing up 3. Use words of Allah and Muhammad (SAW)- i.e. Duas found in Quran and Hadith 4. Ask by Asma alHusna- Allah's Beautiful Names 5. Ask Allah by your good deeds 6. Be insistent-repeat (i.e. 3x's) 7. Glorify Allah and recite Durud for the Prophet (SAW) at both the beginning and end 8. Show humility, entreaty, desire and fear while making Dua 9. Repent and try to make amends where one has wronged 10. Confess mistakes, shortcomings, and sins 11. Keep voice between a whisper and speaking aloud 12. Show the need for Allah's help and implore Him for release from weakness, hardship and tribulation. 13. Seize the opportunity of time, situation and circumstance in which prayers are answered 14. Avoid rhymed prose to keep concentration 15. Crying when making Dua 16. The Dua of Dhun-Nun (Yunus) by which he invoked Allah from within the belly of the whale was: "LAa ilaha illa Anta, Subhanaka innee kuntu min aDH-DHaalimeen." No Muslim ever makes Dua with it but Allah answers it." [at tirmidhi in his sunan, ahmad and hakim reported it and hakim declared it authentic and adh dhahabee agreed] 17. End with "Alhamdulillah rabbil alameen" We should ask for Dunya things, but not just for the sake of Dunya itself and for Akhirah things. We should not ask for punishment to be brought forward in this world or for early death. We should not curse any particular human being or animal, abuse a Muslim for no reason, abuse dead people without cause and religious excuse, or abuse fever or the wind. We should not make Dua by saying we have been given rain by this or that star or what Allah willed, and so and so willed. We should not make Dua against family and property or for sinful acts and severing the bonds. In the end there can be reasons why the Dua might not be answered such as not fulfilling conditions like some of the ones listed above or: Divine Wisdom, trying to hurry the response of one's Dua, Dua for what is sinful or the breaking off of relations, eating, drinking, or dressing from what is Haram, not being resolute in making Dua, abandoning the duty of enjoining what is good and shunning the evil, the dominance of unmindfulness, lust and vain desires, not being submissive during Salah, or committing particular sins (not divorcing a vile woman, giving a loan without a witness, and a man who gave his wealth to the foolish) More information on Dua can be found in a book in English, a translation of Kitaab ud-Du`aa' by Shaykh al-`Awaa'ishah (published by Jam`iat Ihyaa Minhaaj al-Sunnah), the Book of Supplications in Al-Bukhari and Riyadh us Saleheen and Ajawab Alkafi by Imam Shams Adeen Mohamad bin AbiBakr Bin Qayem Ajawyzeyah. Jazakamullahu khairan to those who corrected and added to the above compilation. May Allah make us of those that oft turn to Him in Dua. Ameen. Nov 1997 |
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