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| Bangachi |
| 11/03/04 at 21:31:18 |
| I am a convert to Islam. I am having a tough time as I reported in an earlier post. Born Muslims ..a few don't always take me serious. Some members of my family have politely requested that I don't wear my hijab or "That thing on my head" as they refer to it. An old friend of fifteen years refused to allow me to get in the car unless I took it off and started ranting nonsense about Sep 11 as if radical maniacs have anything to do with otherwise peace loving muslim people. The proper practice of Islam is sometimes difficult in the city I live. Haram behavior is everywhere, employers don't recognize prayer schedules, old friends think I'm going through a phase, other muslims think I converted because of a man. I feel isolated. I need a good teacher who is not judgemental...I study alone..and their is so much I need guidance..e.g. how many Rakats for proper Salat. My Shahadallah...at times I'm confused am I praying properly, will I be accepted at the local mosque. I have spoken over the phone with the imam... but I'm afraid I won't be accepted. When I posted a message about losing my Iman a man said perhaps I was an ATHIEST! That hurt me deeply. I deal with it all the time and I need to not let it bother me I know, but its hard to feel all alone. |
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| timbuktu |
| 11/04/04 at 05:24:58 |
| [slm] I pray that it gets better for you, and I hope the reverts on this site will responds with their expriences and encouragement. For Salah, and other things you can download flash files from: http://english.islamway.com/flashpage.php?id=3&cat=1&file_name=ablution&width=782&hight=438 http://english.islamway.com/bindex.php?section=flashes&cat=1 http://members.cox.net/arshad/prayer.html Do not be intimidated by Imams and other Muslims who may be judgemental, because you will be judged by Allah (swt) and not by other Muslims. Do tell them that you are likely to make mistakes, so they shouldn't be overcritical. The best place to learn is your local mosque, and if you can find some local Muslims as friends. But take it easy. Born Muslims in their enthusiasm will give you a lot of advice in one go, and that will be overwhelming. The reverts on this site are marvellous (as also the born Muslims :) ). I am sure someone will point to you the exact timings and the distruibution of rakaats for the five obligatory Salah. |
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| Ember |
| 11/06/04 at 17:10:15 |
| [slm] I am so very sorry to hear that you are going through so many struggles on your way to getting close to Allah. I am a sinner myself, and have in many ways reverted to the right path which proves to be quite tough to stick to, at times. It won't be the right path if it did not have the trials that it brings. Satan always shows the smooth, hedonistic path. With all the difficulty, if you have not given it up, it shows that you are strong and all it requires is for you to develope a fighting spirit. Tell yourself that he is very real and that he is deliberately misleading you and at every point you will spit in his face. I actually spend time asking Allah to save me from his temptations and even his sheer presence in this world and the next - Ameen. I wish and pray for, you the same. You are lucky. Every time someone tries to hinder your progress on the right path you get the oppertunity to show Allah that you can overcome them. So everytime you will be rewarded. When many of us have much support to be good muslims and we still sin, we are worse off than you. Plus, we have to find so many ways to please Allah since ina way he might judge us more since we have it easy. So in this sence you are lucky. For example, after 9?11 when ppl bugged me about my hijab, when friends told me it was dangerous to wear it, I felt happy to do it. It felt more significant. I hope you get my drift and it strengthens you. Insha Allah I will pray for you tonight. Here is the site that gives you the Salat (prayer) times by the city your in http://www.sunnah.org/pray/ptimes.htm |
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| eleanor |
| 11/06/04 at 20:14:03 |
| [slm] Don't feel worried about things Sis. Allah has chosen you to become a Muslim and that alone should gladden your heart :) I recognised myself in you in your post about losing Iman. I am sure some of the others will remember, I posted not so long ago basically saying the same thing, sure that I was a hypocrite, or among those whose hearts Allah has sealed. You need to understand that converting to Islam, accepting Islam as the truth, is the easiest part. It is so so hard following up on that, living Islam. Giving up your old habits, shutting down your emotions that inevitably rise at times like Christmas. Changing your person, inside and out. You wear hijab, you are stronger than I am. You are on your own, without the support of family or spouse, you are stronger than I am. You are living in a state of worry and fear for your Iman, you are stronger than I am. Have you tried going to the local mosque at prayer time? Go into the ladies' section on a Friday, or Sunday afternoon is generally good too. Smile and say Salaam to the sisters. Look for some particularly kind sister. One who is chatting to a few others, smiling and being friendly. Approach her and say Salaam and tell her you are new, a new Muslim and you need some help in learning the prayers. I am sure she will either help you or get someone who can. Don't be afraid because Allah is with you. He it is who is guiding you right now. He has brought you to Islam, he has taken you to this board where you can ask your questions and he will accompany you to the mosque where you will find a wonderful group of friends and advisors. You're in my thoughts and prayers. Pray for me, insha Allah. wasalaam eleanor |
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| Anonymous |
| 11/09/04 at 11:44:27 |
| (I don't know which thread anonymous is refering to but I am posting this here - Admin) A heart felt Thank You to a member I wish to Thank a fellow memeber of this site to his reply to my post. I did get a better understanding of my problem.. yes in my intoduction to Islam the information can be completely overwhelming in one dose. I will take will take my time Insallah I will be able to fully interpert and understand the message of the prophet pbuh and disregard the cruelty of those who don't respect my boundaries...you are indeed correct they are not my final Judge. Timbuktu.....Many wishes of peace from my family to yours this Ramadan. Ma Salaam. |
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