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| Advising Friends & staying cool with them. |
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| Ember |
| 11/30/04 at 14:38:08 |
| [slm] I have a number of friends who are muslim but are not practicing muslims. They fast and pray sometimes etc. Most of the time I try to encourage them by my excitement at practicing and hope and pray that this excitement will be infectious and it has proved to be effective on some occasions and not so on some. Sometimes I'm quite depressed because I really care about these people and want them to be close to Allah, so that I can have some peace (selfish, I know). Anyway, in Ramadan, or in giving charity etc I am successful with them. On the daily prayers, reciting the Qur'an I have failed with them. Yet, I keep talking about some of my goals regarding the memorization of portions of the QUran etc and I even asked one of them if she wants to recite together to motivate her. Not much luck. I realize that these people stay far away from those who preach since they feel uncomfortable. I don't want to drive them away but I am not being effective either. Anyway, now there is a new issue. One of them likes a non muslim guy. Her family does not mind people drinking or marrying non-muslims. I am praying that she would not be interested or the guy would convert. I know this sounds like I am chicken but I hoped that she would not tell me, since I can't encourage it. In Allahs eyes I would be a sinner by supporting it. Yet, in friendship we are supposed to stand by our friends even if we don't agree. We do this with our non-muslim friends. I mean when my non-muslim friends marry other non-muslims I attend weddings and am very happy for them. Plus, in many ways this friend is kind of like one of my non-muslim friends. So how does one handle it??? I really want her to be happy in this world but I want her to be very happy in the after life. Plus, she has been unmarried for long so I know that this is a very significant thing in her life. |
| Re: Advising Friends & staying cool with them. |
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| bhaloo |
| 12/01/04 at 22:35:53 |
| [slm] I think many of us are in a similiar situation, or at least have been there. When these "friends" are doing wrong, you shouldn't be around them, because otherwise you would be participating in this wrong doing. But if you think you can have some positive effect on these friends then try to help them through your islamic manners and morals. At the same time, you need to consider what kind of effect will this have on you. If you continue to see people doing wrong, surely that will weaken you. You have to decide and see, weigh the benefits over the harm. Try and stay in the company of the righteous, people that will help to make your path easier for success in the hereafter. May Allah (SWT) help you. |
| Re: Advising Friends & staying cool with them. |
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| sal |
| 12/02/04 at 15:06:29 |
| [quote]in friendship we are supposed to stand by our friends even if we don't agree. We do this with our non-muslim friends. I mean when my non-muslim friends marry other non-muslims I attend weddings and am very happy for them. Plus, in many ways this friend is kind of like one of my non-muslim friends. So how does one handle it[/quote] Treating a non muslem kindly is some thing good in ISLAM we are supposed to do that.so your attending the non muslem freinds wedding goes under this category so is good ,but when a Muslem is insisting after advices in his/her wrong anti islam activity its supposed to leave him/her so your not attending her wedding will be under this category which is very very good if you do because there is no marriage taking place by marrying a non muslem man May ALLAH guide her to the right path and you will attend a true permit able wedding |
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