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| Newlywed Dilemmas? |
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| Anonymous |
| 12/01/04 at 00:40:00 |
| salaam I just got married, and already facing a whole lot of dilemmas. Inshaallah these won’t hurt our marital life very negatively. First, I am moving in with my husband from December 3rd. We really do not have any guardian to guide us with anything whatsoever. Second, already my husband is struggling financially. He has spent so much buying house stuff, and also stuff for us. Our rent is also too high cuz we found this place in a nice residential and commercial area. In our town it is really hard to find a place for rent. Everything is so expensive, because it is a small city with many businesses. My husband works really hard and his work place is not good. He is always aggravated and unhappy there. I am sometime afraid to call him when he is at work cuz most of the time he is angry with customers, and as we talk he becomes impatient with me. Most of our small fights and arguments happen when he is at work. It makes me really depress to see him going through such job. It is really hard labor! Meanwhile, I feel lost. I do not know how I am going to handle this new life, including my study. I have to start commuting from our new place and it is about 2 hours commute to my college. I do not want to quit college or transfer to college near by. I got used to this college. My husband wouldn’t let me quit anyway. He wants me to study, because I have the chance to study. Unfortunately, he cannot study yet. Especially now that we are married he feels more obligated to work even harder ap that miserable and hard place. On top of that, I am having problem from my family member. They were totally against this marriage; hence do not care about us at all. I cannot describe how hard this situation has fallen onto me. I never thought that my marriage will start out this way. I feel like I have invited my own calamities. But, may be this is the big test that Allah, Merciful, has set out for me. Certainly, to be a wife is not easy. There are probably rules and regulations in order to keep marital life in balance. I need someone to help me out, kindda guide me. Inshaallah, someone from this board can help me? I have so much inside me that I feel like I need to find right person to discuss with. We need your dua please. Inshaallah we both will pass this stage and inshaallah our marital life won’t seriously be affected by these situations. I know I don’t care about a lavish life. All I want is my husband to be happy. I am willing to give up anything for his happiness. Inshaallah Allah will help him. Thank you in advance wasalaam |
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