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| Husband accidently calls wife mother? |
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| Anonymous |
| 12/01/04 at 00:41:04 |
| salaam what happens when husband accidently calls his wife mother? what exactly happen is that... the wife was talking on the phone with her husband... they were playing around saying sweet words... then the wife asked... so who am i to you? husband was like my love... then the wife (being spoiled) asked again... is that all... who am i? the husband (laughing) says you are my wife, mother, father, brother, sisters, my everything.... the whole coversation was just a typical love dovy conversations... the husband did not intentially call his wife mother... you got the point i hope...did he do anything wrong by that? ws |
| Re: Husband accidently calls wife mother? |
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| sal |
| 12/01/04 at 01:39:38 |
| [slm] She might have taken it the wrong way he wants to say she is old as his mother ? But Calling a wife mother means an expression of appreciation to her kindness and in this story its clear it is meant that way In the other hand it also means he has such a big love as to his mother to express his love I think she should be glad and proud with what he said . :) |
| Re: Husband accidently calls wife mother? |
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| timbuktu |
| 12/01/04 at 08:14:54 |
| [slm] This is called zahaar 􌂄 In the days of the Arab Jahilliyah, saying to wife that she is one's mothe, or like one's mother, would have implied divorce. Islam says that this doesn't mean that the wife is your mother, or that the now divorced, but it is wrong to say so, and one has to make kaffarah for saying such a thing. I think the kaffarah is providing meals to those in need, or perhaps fasting. I don't exactly remember, but perhaps bro. bhaloo or someone else can throw some light on this. And I don't understand why anyone would go to the extent of saying such stupid things? |
| 12/01/04 at 08:16:03 |
| timbuktu |
| Re: Husband accidently calls wife mother? |
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| jannah |
| 12/01/04 at 13:41:58 |
| If he was just kidding or did not meant in that way or by accident then don't worry about it. It was used in jahaliyya as timbuktu mentioned as a form of divorce. The man would say 'you are to me as my mother' meaning she was divorced and would have no relations with him, but she still would not be allowed to remarry. Thus causing the poor woman to be in a state of limbo, being married but not married and not being able to remarry. Alhamdulillah when Islam came it outlawed this practice. |
| Re: Husband accidently calls wife mother? |
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| sal |
| 12/02/04 at 14:09:44 |
| [slm]But the way this husband said is totally different .He said [quote] you are my wife, mother, father, brother, sisters, my everything...[/quote]. its clear he wanted to say how much he loves her So is it still necessary to make kaffarah ?and why ?is it also wrong to express a feeling toward a wife this way and why ? is there any harm and how ? [wlm] |
| Re: Husband accidently calls wife mother? |
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| timbuktu |
| 12/03/04 at 08:32:20 |
| [slm] sorry, but as far as I can remember, this statement, whether in jest, or meaning ssomething else, still requires kaffarah, but I would like a confirmation from an Islamic q-a site. |
| 12/07/04 at 09:54:10 |
| timbuktu |
| Re: Husband accidently calls wife mother? |
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| se7en |
| 12/06/04 at 13:58:00 |
as salaamu alaykum, [quote]you are my wife, mother, father, brother, sister, my everything.... [/quote] I think the husband's been listening to too much r&b.. :P |
| 12/06/04 at 13:58:26 |
| se7en |
| Re: Husband accidently calls wife mother? |
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| Sunnah_ |
| 12/07/04 at 01:11:19 |
| Salam you guys. I know I haven't been around in a while, I was moving and stuff...............anyways, I just wanted to say that some things on here (this is just my opinion) and I said SOMETHINGS some ppl worry too much about..?? IT WAS AN ACCIDENT! Obviously nothing bad was intended. right??? At least I don't think its a big deal at all..... Sunnah_ |
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