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| reem_mukhtar |
| 12/19/04 at 00:45:42 |
| Assalaamu 'alaikum, [slm] I have recently joined this message board and just wanted to say hi to everyone. I have been coming to this site (jannah.org) for years and have really enjoyed it. Anyway, a little about me. I am from US, I reverted to Islam in 1999, alhumdulillah. And I am married to a Pakistani, who just graduated from college last night, ALHUMDULILLAH!!! We have been living with my family in this small "middle-of-no-where" town in Arkansas for the past year so he could finish his degree. InshaAllah we will be moving back to Houston, Texas in a month or so. These days I have become interested in Islamic characteristics and manners. How a Muslim should act and behave, not just what a Muslim believes, such as the Five Pillars, the Articles of Faith, and so on. I think it is very sad but these days I see less and less of the characteristics in Muslims that attracted me to Islam long ago. I was raised as a Christian and in church we always learned about being nice to people, be respectful to parents and teachers, share with others, help the needy, all that, but I never saw anyone really doing that. Not until I met some Muslim ladies in Jonesboro, Arkansas, many years ago. Until then, I had no idea that all these "good manners" that had been taught to me in Sunday School was actually important to ANYONE, and I was surprised to see people who actually went out of their way to do them as much as possible. These ladies were always nice and friendly, they never cursed or talked bad about people, never made fun of people or gossiped. They were always peaceful and calm, even if they were having problems, they stayed quiet and calm about it. they gave food and money to people who needed it or they would invite another lady to their house to eat. I was so influenced by these ladies, they had a big part in me becoming Muslim, simply because I wanted to be like them, I wanted what they had, whatever it was that gave the peace and calmness all the time. People today are so short with each other, so impatient, and get angry so quickly. this is not the way Muslims should be. I want to learn more about how to be a good Muslim, inshaAllah, so that I can raise my future kids to be good ones, too. I think that many Muslims out there, myself included, need to learn or relearn what it means to be a Muslim. We need to learn how to treat each other, how to simply go through a normal day and remember to say all the little du'as for this and that, do dhikr, follow the Sunnah for the "little things", pray on time, control our temper, stop ourselves from cursing, even if no one else hears us. these are the things that I learned from those Muslim ladies many years ago. If more of us would live that way, many others might be attracted to Islam, inshaAllah. Anyway, I think I have said too much. InshaAllah I would really like to meet new people and learn more about Islam. Allah hafiz, Ma'asalaama, Reem |
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| timbuktu |
| 12/19/04 at 05:25:48 |
| [wlm] ahlan wa sahlan sister reem a reminder put very nicely. Thanks. May Allah (swt) increase our eemaan, amal, akhlaaq, and may He forgive us and admit us all to His Jannatul Firdaws. aameen |
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| freaksterrrrr |
| 12/19/04 at 05:31:20 |
| [slm] Actually reem, you can find many muslims exactly like the way these ladies are, though hard. Reem said, [quote]I want to learn more about how to be a good Muslim, inshaAllah, so that I can raise my future kids to be good ones, too. I think that many Muslims out there, myself included, need to learn or relearn what it means to be a Muslim. We need to learn how to treat each other, how to simply go through a normal day and remember to say all the little du'as for this and that, do dhikr, follow the Sunnah for the "little things", pray on time, control our temper, stop ourselves from cursing, even if no one else hears us. these are the things that I learned from those Muslim ladies many years ago. If more of us would live that way, many others might be attracted to Islam, inshaAllah.[/quote] Reem I think you can learn all these things from the sunnah of the prophet [saw] alone for he was the perfect example to mankind. Easy to say but also easy to practice e.g. the prophet [saw] always used to meet people with a smile or a brilliant face always, he [saw] always discouraged people from such acts as gossiping, he [saw] also said as reported in one hadith that, make your behaviour in such a way that if you ask, ask of Allah e.t.c. You can get all these and concerning all the above issues you've stated as well from reading hadith and the more hadith you read, the better. Such as Sahih Bukhari and if you find it too huge or big then the perfect book would be the Riyadh Us-Saleheen by Imam An-Nawawi. It contains all that you'll ever need including hadith about eating manners, dress, manners and all aspects of life. Also, it says in one hadith that the prophet [saw] lived the Qur'an itself. So the more you read and understand it,the better as well. Don't worry,May Allah guide you. Amiin. And the closer you move to Allah, as in strive towards what pleases him, the closer Allah moves towards you, as narrated in another saheeh Hadith. So Reem, hope this information helps you and don't worry, your striving to be like these ladies may make the Muslims around you love you and admire you till they strive to be like you hence improving their habits as well. Just like Allah guided you unto the straight path with the habits of those ladies. May Allah admit you into gardens under which rivers flow, increase your knowledge and increase your guidance. Amiin. |
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