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| Houston:"The Fiqh of Love": Feb 11-13/18-20 |
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| ibs81 |
| 01/21/05 at 03:02:42 |
| [font=book antiqua]"Of Love--may God exalt you!--the first part is jesting, and the last part is right earnestness. So majestic are its diverse aspects, they are too subtle to be described; their reality can only be apprehended by personal experience. Love is neither disapproved by Religion, nor prohibited by the Law; for every heart is in God's hands." - Ibn Hazm Tired of being the bachelor or bachelorette of your town? You wanna get married but you don’t know how to start it off in the proper Islamic way? Oh, so you’re already married, but you don’t know why you’re not enjoying it? I know, your husband doesn’t listen. I know, your wife doesn’t understand you. What, you both claim the same thing as your right and other ones’ responsibility? and it seems you’re both confused and shy about what is permissible and what is prohibited for you in your bedroom? So, what is the Islamic etiquette of marriage? OK then: you NEED to learn "The Fiqh of Love" "And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put Love and mercy between your (hearts) verily in that are signs for those who reflect." - ArRum 30:21 "Sometimes, it is true, Love comes as a result of a definite cause outside the soul, but then it passes away when the cause itself disappears: one who is fond of you because of a certain circumstance will turn his back on you when that motive no longer exists." - Ibn Hazm Who is this class for? * Young men and women who are in love or always worried about being in love in the wrong way. * People who are interested in learning how to practice the ‘Halal’ love. * Those who are scared of the idea of being ‘married’; how to get married? * Couples who never had the chance to learn their rights and obligations in marriage. * Mature people who are enjoying their family life and looking forward to enhance the quality of their family time. * Married people who are looking into understanding their spouses and managing their differences. * The husband and wife who feel their love is fading out, and would like to rejuvenate their passions. * Local Imams as they try to understand the different fiqh opinions in Family law. * Religious leaders who would like to learn the standard procedure of a legal and an official marriage contract. * Community leaders who are involved in marriage counseling and need to know how to approach marital problems. "Oh young men! Whoever is capable (to afford the expenses) of marriage, let him do so. (Marriage) helps one control his eyesight and chastise his private parts. But, he who can't afford the marriage expenses, let him observe fast as it would (act) as a protector for him." - Bukhari and Muslim What you will learn in this Class: By the end of this class you will be able to * Learn the Sunnah of Rasulullah salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam and his example as a husband and a family man. * Understand love and its rulings from an Islamic perspective. * Look for your mate without the fear of committing Haram. * Understand marriage and perform a marriage contract the Islamic legal way. * Know your rights and obligations as a Muslim husband and as a Muslim wife. * Love and understand your spouse and, by the will of Allah, maintain that love. * Recognize the dramatically different needs of a man and a woman in marital life. * Enjoy a romantic and intimate relationship with your spouse, knowing the permissible and the prohibited acts. * Enjoy being in love with the one whom you have already been with for a while: your spouse. [/font] |
| 01/21/05 at 03:04:06 |
| ibs81 |
| Re: Houston:"The Fiqh of Love": Feb 11-13/18-20 |
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| se7en |
| 01/26/05 at 21:36:29 |
as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullah, I'm sooo excited about this class :) I remember before I got married, I read a *ton* of books on marriage in Islam, and they seemed to comprise of the same basic stuff : responsiblities and duties. there was *no* discussion at all on what love really means and is about from the Islamic perspective, and how a person can work on developing that with one's spouse.. and the literature/resources out there about how to get married, and the right way of dealing with feelings that may arise for a person of the opposite sex are even more difficult to find. insha'Allah this should be an amazing class. I got to hear sh. yaser birjas at a recent conference and he seems soo grounded and super knowledgeable. for more info you can check out the almaghrib website: http://www.almaghrib.org |
| Re: Houston:"The Fiqh of Love": Feb 11-13/18-20 |
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| tahirah |
| 02/15/05 at 17:13:43 |
| [slm] please please please post some notes when you guys are done with the class :-) jazakum Allahu khair tahirah |
| Re: Houston:"The Fiqh of Love": Feb 11-13/18-20 |
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| ibs81 |
| 02/17/05 at 01:01:48 |
| [slm] InshAllah I will put up my some of my notes when I have time. Here is a book that the Sheikh is periodically using through out the class: http://www.muslimphilosophy.com/hazm/dove/default.htm. |
| Re: Houston:"The Fiqh of Love": Feb 11-13/18-20 |
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| se7en |
| 02/17/05 at 21:39:48 |
| as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullah, tahira, dude, you should totally come.. all these brothers from your community came up for the class last week.. I think they have marriage on the brain or something :P some cool things I learned in the class: -- many of our scholars wrote about love in a lot of detail.. like Ibn ul-Qayyim al Jawziyya wrote a book called "Rawdhatul Muhibeen" [the Garden of the Lovers] and there are many more examples.. they wrote about love in a noble way, but they still discussed it very thoroughly and openly. Love has never been something 'rejected' or downplayed in our deen; but we have to experience it, and shape our actions that might be influenced by it, in the right way. -- that Rasulullah [saw] was not ashamed of mentioning his love for his wife. He [saw] said about Khadijah, "Verily, I was filled with love for her." Sh. Yaser talked about how, in a lot of Muslim cultures today, especially "back home", it's almost a shameful thing to talk about love for your wife or for your husband, and from a religious perspective it's as if it's forbidden.. which is totally *not* the case.. He asked all the married men in the audience to raise their hands if they would admit that they love their wives.. I think all the wives there were like :o :o :o trying to see if their husbands were raising their hands :) hehehe -- that from an Islamic perspective love has two parts; one that can't be controlled, and a part that can be. Love entering your heart is not something you can control because "every heart is in Allah's hands".. you DO however, have control over protecting the means by which this can happen (lowering your gaze, not being in the company of certain people, etc) and you DO have control over what you do after this happens to you (seeking out marriage, etc). but this just gave me more sympathy and appreciation for how deep and intense that struggle is, to detach your heart from someone you care for, if things are not working out; or for the young brother or sister who really cares for someone and wants to get married. -- just personally it's soo amazing to see someone like Sh. Yaser Birjas (a very noble, scholarly type person) talking about something like love.. and it made me realize that, perhaps in my mind I associate romantic love with negative things [haram relationships, pain and heartbreak etc] when there is soooo much that is beautiful and good about love if it's enacted in a way sanctioned by our deen. -- also we are using a text by Ibn Hazm called "The Ring of the Dove".. a lesson learned from this is that even though a certain scholar may make some mistakes, or you may disagree with some of their opinions on certain things, you can still derive a lot of benefit from them and their teachings. NOTE: orientalists attribute *a lot* of seriously shady things to Ibn Hazm, in the area of romance, which I seriously doubt has any veracity whatsoever.. what I was referring to above were some of his fiqhi opinions (from the dhaahiri school). Allahu a'lam.. I can't wait to attend this weekend :) wasalaamu alaykum, 7 |
| 02/17/05 at 21:47:14 |
| se7en |
| Re: Houston:"The Fiqh of Love": Feb 11-13/18-20 |
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| ibs81 |
| 02/21/05 at 20:21:25 |
| Gem /jem/ n. 1 A precious thought/idea/ - esp. when polished. 2 A pearl, a marvel, a masterpiece Note: Write these precious thoughts/revelations/words of wisdom down and transfer them onto the gemboard [slm] Alhumdulillah that class was very beneficial and it really opened my eyes in respect of Islam and Love. Well here are just some of my gems from just the first 15 pages of notes or so: "I looked into the meaning of happiness, and the conclusion was that you have to attach yourself to the Aakhira to achieve that." "When in love you naturally submit to those feelings and passions, though its how you act on those feelings, where you will be judged." "The nature of love is the assimilation and similarity of characteristics." "Moral image is more important than physical image." "Love: A feeling of intense affection given freely without restriction." "What do you think of when thinking of Love? Romeo and Juliet...NO, that was fake love. The real Love was the Prophets -sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam's - Love to Aisha." "Our problems lies in the adherence to custom and tradition over the Sunnah." "The Prophet - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would always be in the service of his family." |
| Re: Houston:"The Fiqh of Love": Feb 11-13/18-20 |
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| tahirah |
| 03/04/05 at 21:01:51 |
| [slm] [quote author=se7en link=board=news;num=1106290963;start=0#4 date=02/17/05 at 21:39:48] tahira, dude, you should totally come.. [/quote] 7 im dissapointed that i had to miss it, but khair, insha Allah. Your notes look great...i would love to see those texts... [quote author=se7en link=board=news;num=1106290963;start=0#4 date=02/17/05 at 21:39:48] all these brothers from your community came up for the class last week.. I think they have marriage on the brain or something :P [/quote] LOL. i bet they do :P ...everybody here is getting "married off" - it must be something in the water, or the bebzi they serve in the masjid [] |
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