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| A sistar in need of some help!!! |
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| IslamLover |
| 01/05/05 at 16:42:41 |
| Hiya Sistars, Assalam Alikum 2 u all i have jus joined and this is my first message so here goes.... Recently i hav been havin some problems and i jus needed some advice well as almost always it is of course abt a guy. In June i started likin this guy and be4 u start finkin naughty girl the reason i like him is because he is religious well he wasnt until recently but lately i hav relised tat he is becoming religious. He has a beard,wen to umrah a few mnths ago. The fing is i really think tat he is the right one for me. And if ur wonderin how i knw him well he is a cousin not close related but some where in between. I jus wanted to ask u sisters wat i should do abt it because i knw tat he would want 2 marry someone religious and i like to fink tat i fit into tat category so i do feel tat we are right 4 each other . We dnt knw each other tat well but i jus wanna get to knw him better. The fing is i dnt really think tat he is ready to marry yet as i fink tat he is only 21/22 years old and i knw tat i certainly am not ready as i am 18 years old. But how do i let him knw tat i am interested and also let him knw tat i am religious? ??? |
| NS |
| Re: A sistar in need of some help!!! |
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| humble_muslim |
| 01/05/05 at 17:48:22 |
| AA Umm Sister, have you tried the easy way, thur ParentNet? i.e you mom and dad! Should be even easier that way if you're related! And just cos ur 18 does NOT necessarilly mean you're not ready for marriage. |
| NS |
| Re: A sistar in need of some help!!! |
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| dina |
| 01/06/05 at 03:13:30 |
| [slm] Have you ever spoken to him??? Does he have any inclination towards you??? Like the previous reply if you want to get to know him better, maybe you should approach your parents or an older sibling to help you. My personal opinion, your are both very young, you have said yourself you dont feel ready to get married, so i dont understand why you want to get to know this guy better, if you dont want to marry anyone yet. I know its hard but just curb the feeling, dont let your emotions cloud your judgement. Try to concentrate other things like studies or work to take your mind of this guy. Hope this helps! |
| Re: A sistar in need of some help!!! |
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| Kathy |
| 01/06/05 at 07:52:08 |
| [slm] :-[ Will someone translate her post for me?!! ;) |
| Re: A sistar in need of some help!!! |
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| gift |
| 01/06/05 at 08:12:40 |
| :D I think that's known as text speak Kathy, it's really hard to understand! |
| Re: A sistar in need of some help!!! |
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| IslamLover |
| 01/06/05 at 08:48:27 |
| Hiya Sistars, Its true that i am not ready to marry yet but i really do feel tat this guy is the right 1 for me so i jus want to let him know that i am interested in him before it is too late and he is engaged to someone else. Even though i am not ready to marry but it doesnt mean that i havent found the right person which i feel i have. I am the only sister so i cant really tell my brothers to help me now can i? But my sister-in-law knows abt it so maybe she will help me inshallah. Take Care IslamLover |
| Re: A sistar in need of some help!!! |
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| dina |
| 01/07/05 at 03:18:00 |
| [slm] sistar i really dont understand why you want to pursue in getting to know this man, when you dont plan on marrying him in the near future. Also when you have said yourself you dont know him well, how can you make a statement he`s the right man for you. It may be you have percieved him to have a particular personality but in reality he could be different because you dont know him. If you decide to talk to your sister in law for help, i suggest you first make salat Istikarah and ask Allah swt to guide you because only Allah swt knows what is right for us in this life. [wlm] |
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