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| ibs81 |
| 01/20/05 at 03:49:52 |
| [slm] [font=book antiqua]Bismillah. I wanted to start this thread so that all of us who are not married can benefit from the experiences of those who are married. I wanted to ask all those who are married, what were your expectations before the marraige and were those expectations met or not? Meaning did you enter in the marraige that was full of suprises or was it what you were expecting. As in what were those expectations, and what did actually happen, what are the realitys The reason I am posting this, InshAllah like most of us here, we need to get married, so to better prepare ourselves, by hearing what yall know, InshAllah I think it will help us out. Anything else you would like to add would be great. Do mention if you are a brother or a sister, just to keep things clear. JazaakumAllahu Khairun. (if this is not a poper place to have this do remove, and I appologize before hand).[/font] |
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| Kathy |
| 01/20/05 at 08:21:03 |
| [slm] I have found the secret is to offer much and expect little. When I offer much, then I am keeping myself straight with Allah swt. I feel if a wife goes into a marriage with the idea of pleasing Allah, then she will inevitably please her hubby. The idea of pleasing Allah swt will also get her through the rough times, when her hubby is , well lets say, not his best. For example, he is irritated and moody. She can be that way right back at him. However, if she pleases Allah swt and treats him well, there is a good chance his heart will soften. This advice is also for the Hubby. There are times I am in a mood and he could yell right back. However, if he remains calm, comes home with a fresh loaf of bread, my heart softens, and all is right with the world. Materialisticaly, I find that it is imperative to work out things like food clothing, shelter, wife working, children and budget before marrying. In my first marriage, I was caught off guard when I found out that i was expected to work. Second time around I made sure everything was clear. |
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| ibs81 |
| 01/21/05 at 02:47:21 |
| [font=book antiqua] JazaakAllah Khairun for the advise. I think what you said is great advise. "Offer much and expect little". Well it seems we have a lot of people viewing this thread but very few replying. Where are yall couples at? Oh and Abu_Hamza care to give advise to a fellow brother?[/font] |
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