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| Anonymous |
| 01/26/05 at 03:13:28 |
| Asalaamu Alaikum Warahamatulahi Wabarakatu I'm a fellow muslim, and I have come to this point in life where I am in BIG TROUBLE! Not neccesarily the punishment, but the fear of it. Well here goes my story: I have been in a relationship with a girl, and that I have been in depth with it. Not a scratch has been made on me, but a scar I believe. This relationship has taken it to the unexpected and as a muslim, I wasn't even supposed to have a girlfriend and I know. However, it has come to the point where we nearly came to seducing each other and having intimate moments with each other. Yes, I'm being honest.. however its true. The thing is, I have come to a point where I want to stop and be forgiven. But here comes the trouble-ish part: I don't want to break her heart... so I don't know how to break it up. She loves me a lot heh. But I want to be forgiven and go back on track, (the righteous way) and I have not a drop of knowledge what to do. Although, you may think this is easy.. here's another thing: She goes to my school! (But in 6 months I will be out of school and probably not living where I live now). So... my fellow brothers and sisters any advice on what to do? The main point is: I just don't want to break her heart, or try not to.. and I don't know what to do.. Walaykum Asalaam P.S. I did so much haram, that I don't even if Allah will ever forgive me. I'm in Big Trouble. |
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| jannah |
| 01/26/05 at 03:57:45 |
| wlm, Ok this is just my opinion but... You don't want to break her heart??? Ummm right... That's why you've been having some kind of temporary relationship with her with the intention of breaking it off when you move anyway eh? My advice... either try to get married the halal way or just completely end it.. that would the nicest thing for both you and her... As for asking Allah to forgive you, you'll have to go through the proper steps of Repentance... one of them being to end the haram |
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| Fozia |
| 01/26/05 at 09:17:13 |
| [quote author=Anonymous link=board=madrasa;num=1106723608;start=0#0 date=01/26/05 at 03:13:28] P.S. I did so much haram, that I don't even if Allah will ever forgive me. I'm in Big Trouble.[/quote] [slm] You can't say that. Break it off, or marry her, stringing her along is going to hurt her more... ...or make her want to hurt you.... Wassalaam |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 01/26/05 at 11:04:20 |
| [slm] you have already hurt her...too late for that. If you keep going like this it will just hurt her more. Break it to her slowly and explain to her why exactly you cant go on like this anymore. After slowly ending it send proposal to her parents if you wish to marry her, if not then try to avoid contact w/ her as much as possible. If you are sincere then inshAllah Allah (swt) will forgive you. http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=browse&QR=27259&dgn=4 Here is something that might help: http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=browse&QR=27259&dgn=4 Take care and take action your sis It helps to stay on the right path if you regulary visit/talk to good muslims.. Try reading posts here regulary (if you havent/dont already) Its fun and you learn alot:) |
| 01/26/05 at 11:12:58 |
| a_Silver_Rose |
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| theOriginal |
| 01/27/05 at 06:30:55 |
| [slm] Is she Muslim? Let me just say that it's a better idea to break it off honestly and directly rather than "maybe-ing" your way out of it. Don't do the whole Hollywood thing where you tell her it's just not the right time, it's not her it's you, in other circumstances maybe, you weren't thinking straight, i'm a guy see (probably the worst line ever)... That's just garbage. She'll get over it faster if you're honest. Man...just another reminder eh? Wasalaam. |
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| timbuktu |
| 01/27/05 at 15:37:57 |
| [slm] [quote]I don't even if Allah will ever forgive me[/quote] Allah (swt) says He will forgive any sin if His slaves come to Him with sincere repentence. So, repent, seek forgiveness of Allah, and rest assured that you will be forgiven if you have broken off the relationship. As for your partner, tell her the haram reationship is off. Breaking hearts is easier if you realise burning in Hell isn't bearable. As a test, light a candle, and hold your palm to the flame. Tell us how long you can stand it. |
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