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chocolate
02/14/05 at 19:33:23
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How do I explain to a pretty religious, sensitive, is always on the defensive,  intelligent, pracical, logically thinking , who will not do anything too immoral :how dating is not good? I know I 'm not being very specific. Please help me  :( I don't how to effectively tell her because  she is a close friend so she expects mostly sympathy and not what I want to tell her. This is what she said:
" It's bugging me a lot and giving me a lot of stress. I wish I could tell my mom about it. But we just had this huge arguement about how I should not have a boyfriend until college. Bu  I mean, come on, I have my beleifs and moral compass and values. I would never make out with him at the movies or something retarded like that. We barely even kiss.
Aah, help me."

:-/

She is al ittle sensitive so I don't want her to get mad or anything but still somehow get the message across. I don't think she really wants a bofriends anyway, so that's good, but she till has one. And the guys she is with is someone that I know because he sits next to me in class (we have assigned seats) and we always are assigned togather some project or something.  SO I can't be totally be like that to her because .. I don't know. I'm rambling. I just don't know what to do.
And she really is isnterested in Islam and stuff so I don't want to spoil her interest by telling er, but I think I should anyway. And also is it a sin iif a person is intersted in islam until you tell them something that makes them uninterested?
I don't hink I make  any sense whatsoever. I ramble too much. :sigh:
I really hp[e someon can help me

AAAHHH what do i do?
??? :o :-/
JAzak Allahu Khairun
Re: Dating etc
gift
02/15/05 at 05:46:22
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Perhaps you could explain to your friend, gently, the reasons why dating is not permitted in Islam?

At the end of the day as a real friend you need to tell it like it is, even if that means you have to be the harbinger of bad news that your friend doesn't want to hear :-/
Re: Dating etc
Kathy
02/15/05 at 08:18:43
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Why do you feel such a strong need in telling her that dating is not allowed in Islam?

Of the three million other topics there is, why don't you choose another one.

Issues like dating, polygany, ihijab, nheritance, etc... are best talked about, once someone has a firm understanding of Islam.  Think about how Prophet Muhammad  [saw] did his 'dawah.' He did not make all the women cover, restrict marriage and fix other social problems until well after Tawheed, Prayer and Fasting were established.

I worry sometimes that Islam appears to be a religion of 'Nos' to the average American. No alcohol, no bacon, no dating, no x-mas, no parties and dancing or clubbing, etc...

In my opinion, we should concentrate on the big three Tawheed, Prayer and Fasting. Any religious person, no matter the religion, will be attracted to our ways of performing these kind of worship.

...and bottom line, Now a revert (alHumdullillah) and knowing what the dating life is like ... a few kisses always leads to more...always.


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