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Caraj
02/18/05 at 16:39:23
It is with great embarrassment and a sad heart I humbly
come to all of you to ask forgiveness for a mistake I had made
unknowingly yet still a mistake.
It appears from a private message I recieved that
the sister in New York who was supposingly
ill, dying, pregnent and with a young child.

I am informed she disappeared and has never produced proof of
her illness. I am told she has not contacted people who
she said she would.

If anyone here sent anything please forgive me, I know
after the origional post my heart went out to her and
I was trying to seek assistance for her and her child.

Sister Kathy was correct in her hesitations and concerns.
Had I put 2 and 2 together and remembered Kathy's location
I would of actually contacted her first.
But her email with her addy was sent last June or July and it is not
the following year, I did not remember the location.

This has been a real lesson to me in regards to this board.
I had no idea, there was no posts allowed to solicet help
as I had not been involved prior to such an activity.
Since someone else did the post and it remained I had no reason to
think it was not allowed till Jannah posted it was not be she allowed
it this time. I imagine she did so for reasons of compassion.

A lesson to us all, I have been here years now and people
sometimes get upset at the mods for rules.
These rules they put to not only keep the peace but to
protect us here also.

One last thought, for someone to lie about such a situation
one must be very emotionally unstable and / or hurting
in some way we do not understand to make such lies about
such serious matters, children, illness, etc.
I know some who may have not had it to spare may of very well
sent things, May Allah bless you and reward you.
My mind set has always been to learn and move on.
But to someone who spared their food or other monthly
allowance to help may not be able to to see things that way.

Please forgive me, I was trying to help as I like helping.
I even made overseas calls to have people pray
for her in makkah.
Please pray for this woman anyway as she would have to be
quite disturbed to come up with such fish tales.
Please forgive me.
To Sister Kathy, forgive me for being so offended
I should of accepted your concerns as protecting all of us
on the board and not as a personal insult.
To Jannah and the mods, I think I need to go back
and re-read the rules and constitution.
Also maybe in this post we can all come together and
seek each others advice in recognising
a sincere need verses a faults need.
We can't just stop helping cause we may have made a mistake.

But how do we tell the difference?
This is why I went to www.Islamicfinder.com
to find a Muslim community in her area as I was to far away to
know and also after talking to the sister in California and also Tammy herself I thougt all was legitament.
Please forgive me.
Re: Apology to all with a sad heart, About the sis
jannah
02/18/05 at 16:52:15
wlm,

aww sis don't be sad... these things happen... (a few years ago there was this "muslim" brother who would call up mosques and say he was a local businessman that lost all his luggage.. then later he would say he has no money etc and needs help... he's known across multiple states for this fraud!!)

you know all through our life we will have so many people asking us for help for various things... i think perhaps this is why in wisdom Allah sets the Zakat... so money is collected from everyone for just this purpose...

i really believe in sending people to their local mosques or organizations... local mosques usually have people who deal with these things... they verify the persons problems and they give money to the most needy and they know all the people and resources available. we all want to help the best way we can, but sometimes we aren't the best one's to go about it, and nor can we actually give the person the help they actually need sometimes

so it's arrite ... have a [] and tgif

i know we have helped so many ppl with the board in various ways including money when we are able to verify things...so take heart :)


Re: Apology to all with a sad heart, About the sis
Caraj
02/18/05 at 19:52:30
Thank you Jannah

I should say to give benefit of the doubt.
We have neither been able to confirm or
actually deny this situation.
Lets just say I have notified she has disappeared and has
not provided the proof she herself offered and not
gotten back in contact with those she was due to contact.

Lets just say the red flags are going up.
02/18/05 at 20:42:02
Caraj


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