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| Kathy |
| 02/27/05 at 19:18:31 |
| [slm] Would you marry a handsome brother, early 30's, with 4 children under 15, a revert who seems to be an excellent Muslim, fun loving, adventerous, and very intelligent? |
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| Caraj |
| 02/27/05 at 19:53:53 |
| If he would marry an older 43 y/o who was funloving, active and adventuous. If he could tollerate a farm gal and critters. Would I? In a minute ;D (hehe trying to get in line before laila does) ;) Actually if you have a brother like that in need of a wife I know this wonderful sister who we really need to try to get her married off (AHEMMMMMJANNAHMMMMMMMM) ;D |
| 02/27/05 at 20:00:49 |
| Caraj |
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| Laila_Y_A |
| 02/27/05 at 20:45:53 |
| Azizah~ If she can make him 53 ::) in a heartbeat! :-) Laila |
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| bhaloo |
| 02/27/05 at 23:53:38 |
| [slm] Here's a story, Of a lovely lady, http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=bro;action=display;num=1109549698 Who was bringing up four very lovely girls. All of them wore hijab, Like their mother -- The youngest one wore green. Here's a story, Of a man named Musa, http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=sis;action=display;num=1109549911 Who was bringing up four boys of his own. They were four men, Living all together, Yet they were all, alone. Till the one day when the lady met this fellow, And they knew it was much more than a hunch, That this group might somehow form a family. That's the way they all became the Muslim Bunch! The Muslim Bunch... The Muslim Bunch... That's the way we became the Muslim Bunch |
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| jannah |
| 02/28/05 at 00:00:09 |
| bhalooo u are too much ROTFL.......!!! i don't think i could either... 4 children??? wow sheesh kabobs... but i'm sure there are some great sisters who might have children of their own who would love to... for some reason i feel like divorced guys end up marrying never married girls but never consider divorced women themselves!!! |
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| Mona |
| 02/28/05 at 08:55:15 |
| [slm] aha... a social experiment by Kathy. hmm... surveying the muslim landscape, aren't ya? bhaloo, that was priceless. just priceless. ;D |
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| timbuktu |
| 02/28/05 at 11:50:51 |
| [slm] bhaloo's poem reminded me of a true story. Once I was visiting a friend and his wife. They had sort of adopted me. On the weekends, my friend would come to the uni and take me to his home, where I would be fed fabulously, and even invited to stay overnight, and the next day he would bring me back to my hostel. At that time a family was also staying with him for their vacations - husband X, wife and 7 kids. I had the opportunity of a glance at the guests: husband and wife; more than that with the kids. Then when we were alone, my friend asked me if I had noticed anything about the family that was staying with them. I had. The husband was quite handsome, the wife bordered on ugliness, and the older children took after her, while the younger ones after the husband. The I was told the story. Mr. X had a friend Y. Both were working in Nigeria, when Mr Y died in an accident, leaving behind a widow and five kids. Mr X was unmarried. Mr Y or his widow did not have any money. After the Iddah, Mr X married the widow. He never differentiated between his own kids and his friend's. |
| 02/28/05 at 11:53:57 |
| timbuktu |
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| sal |
| 03/01/05 at 01:45:00 |
| NO But more details about him is needed to judge and decide |
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| jannah |
| 03/01/05 at 04:20:25 |
| [slm] Salem I am glad to hear you wouldn't marry HIM :P indeed its probably even better news for ur wife :o lol |
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| Caraj |
| 03/01/05 at 04:41:32 |
| [quote author=jannah link=board=sis;num=1109549911;start=0#8 date=03/01/05 at 04:20:25][slm] Salem I am glad to hear you wouldn't marry HIM :P indeed its probably even better news for ur wife :o lol [/quote] :D ;D :D ;D :D ;D :D ;D Jannah reading that made me laugh so hard :D |
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| Laila_Y_A |
| 03/01/05 at 15:43:31 |
| Br. bhaloo!!! :o That was sooooo bad! LOL!!! I sang the song as I was reading your story!! Heavens, am I OLD! :-) Laila |
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| sal |
| 03/02/05 at 01:35:09 |
| [quote author=jannah link=board=sis;num=1109549911;start=0#8 date=03/01/05 at 04:20:25][slm] Salem I am glad to hear you wouldn't marry HIM :P indeed its probably even better news for ur wife :o lol [/quote] Jannah Thank you very much :) and that made me laugh also Actually when I said no it was not a last decision but now I am shy to say yes after your good thoughts :-/ |
| 03/02/05 at 01:53:59 |
| sal |
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| Kathy |
| 03/02/05 at 09:02:16 |
| [slm] Bhaloo, the link just leads us back to this post. |
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| Aadhil |
| 03/02/05 at 10:05:44 |
| [slm] Ya it does lead back to the post. Done on purpose. When Br. bhaloo talks about the sister with four daughters he puts a like to the 'would you marry her' post. And when he talks about the brother with four sons, he puts the link to the 'would you marry him' post which is the one we are in right now. Any way its just part of the joke. p.s. I admit it took my quite a while to get the joke.... :P |
| 03/02/05 at 10:07:27 |
| Aadhil |
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| Caraj |
| 03/02/05 at 15:21:07 |
| Getting back to the main question, If this is a brother you are inquiring about I pray Allah will send him the right person who will fill him and his childrens heart with happiness. If it is a test question, I don't think having children would make a difference to any woman if all other things check out and blend. However if I woman is not maternal and I know of some who will admit flat out I don't want kids, then theres a pass on that. This brother may be inclined to bless a woman who for some reason cannot have children with a wonderful family.Thus they will be equally blessed, or a woman with children herself who has a hard time finding a future husband who wants a ready made family. |
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| Maryam |
| 03/02/05 at 19:28:27 |
| [slm] Salem, it's good to hear at least you're not discriminating because he's got 4 children... ;) "But more details about him is needed to judge and decide." That's too funny...! Ok, seriously, I agree with Azizah. I do know of a 42ish sister who has never ever been married but is still hopefull. And, eventhough she may not be able to have children of her own, she has had a big part in raising her brother's and sister's children. She is so loving and understanding of kids. I pray that she may find a good brother in Islam. [wlm] |
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| Kathy |
| 03/02/05 at 20:11:45 |
| [slm] Hmmm... I am disappointed there weren't many replies on the bro's side. What happened was I was at a class and it was a sister who made the comment that no bro would marry her. I was taken aback. Everything I wrote is true about her. In fact I did not believe her. I think because if the tables were turned, hence this post, i would marry a man with this description. So I wrote to a bro confident and he said it was true, she will most likely have a tough time remarrying. So indeed it was a social test, half being true. I feel so bad for her and any other woman with children looking for a hubby. Guess I will be nicer to my hubby...tee hee..... |
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