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How to treat wife during pms times?
Anonymous
03/08/05 at 11:50:38
salams, wanted to know how husband treat their wife during pms? if wife behaves very emotionally and cannot control her mood swings is it right just to ignore her.

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
jannah
03/08/05 at 11:54:57
wlm, i can't wait to hear what brothers will post in response  ;D feel free to post anonymously lol :P

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
pearl
03/08/05 at 19:47:27
[slm] This should help! http://www.msn.americangreetings.com/display.pd?bfrom=1&prodnum=3066708&path=46511 Pearl  ;D

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
Caraj
03/08/05 at 21:19:43
Salaam. Are you wanting to know from only brothers? Or would you like some sisters input, which may help you deal better with this? Ignore? Ignore as in totally ignore or ignore as in not taking anything said or done personally? Piece of unsolisited advise? It is hormonal It is not deliberate or intentional. Proceed with kindness, love and make believe you understand. Imagine if your abdoman area ached (No not aches, pain as with cramps imagine someone was jumping up and down on them with cleets) and hurt 3 to 6 days a month. And you got head and back aches. Would you not cry and be unreasonable too?
03/10/05 at 23:09:14
Caraj

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
Kathy
03/09/05 at 08:55:54
[slm] ...go visit the other wife....

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
Learner
03/09/05 at 13:28:43
[quote]..go visit the other wife.... [/quote] LOL!!!!  ;D

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
ummnajmah
03/09/05 at 17:00:12
[slm]Seriously though, just have patience with her, as we are told to make excuses for another muslim bro or sister.It's only for a week or less right?So wear her down with patience, kindness, do something extra that you know will make her smile(get her a card or flowers).If she gets too stressed out over doing something just take her hand and tell her common let's take a breather and leave the house , go to the park for a walk or do something she loves.That's my advise bro... ;DUmmnajmah PS: I would not advice you to ignore her.. :o..that will only make her >:(, it might send the message that you could care less.And am sure you do care or you wouldn't have bothered to ask for a solution. ;DGood luck!
03/09/05 at 17:03:36
ummnajmah

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
tree
03/09/05 at 18:42:39
[slm] If she can't control her mood swings, i think ignoring her is the worst thing you could do!  cos then she may become  :o most women who gets cramps, feel tired and get mood swings usually need a lot of rest, a hot water bottle and understanding.  Not easy to give when her mood can change at the drop of a hat.   most of the time it's not her fault she's like that during this time of month and probably hates taking it out on you.  But the best move would be to provide a lot of tlc.  Let her relax, make her tea or if you can, lunch/dinner, let her sleep late if she needs to, give her a back rub, take her for a walk in the fresh air if she's feeling up for it...basically she knows you won't understand what she's going through, but she'll probably appreciate that you're still trying to make her as comfortable as possible.   But enough of what we women think our husbands should do, where are all the brothers with wives?  lets hear from them.... ;D tree

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
MIT
03/11/05 at 18:06:02
assalaamu alaikum From one brother to another let me tell you the ideal: suggest she visits her parents for a few days :) Kathy's was a good suggestion. However, when i see brothers talking about taking second wives i do remind them that two wives mean 2 * PMT lol. But really, the answer is patience. Be patient, then be patient, and be patient until your patience becomes patient. Go for a walk. One of my colleagues told me that when his wife is going ballistic, he just turns round and walks out the door. Goes for a stroll. Speak to her about her mood swings outside of PMT time and ask her not to go OTT and that she should try to control herself. Now i know that sisters won't like the tone of that but its the truth. Control yourself sisters. PS This is no reflection on my marriage :)

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
Saffiya
03/11/05 at 18:25:44
[slm] I think it is fair to say that women need A LOT of attention during this time. And please whatever you do - do not ARGUE or DISAGREE - just do as you are told. These are the type of things that set the mood swings off. My advice - best keep quiet and get on with your routine. However, give your wife love and attention and just say that you understand that it is time of the month and ask if you can do anything. If she starts to get out of control, just see it as her weakness and try and understand that even she doesn't understand why she is behaving the way she is. I think sisters will agree that when we look back we think "I can't believe I was being soo difficult! and "why did i do that?".     Agree with brother MIT - Have patience. Visiting parents is not a bad idea. However, diagree that sisters get out of control! or do we?? [wlm] :-)

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
thezman
03/27/05 at 09:26:25
Pearl...That was funny, thanks... Kathy...visiting the other wife= pms x (2)... Anonymous...Beware of her going 'postal' have a lot of tranqulizers ready (it's for her protection and yours)...   Z...

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
Fozia
03/27/05 at 16:29:47
[slm] Buy her Starflower oil (or Barago honey) tell her to take it at onset and continue taking it once a day for two weeks, it will help alleviate physical pain and helps with hormonal imbalances (stop if she falls pregnant obviously)..... also chocolate, get her loads of the stuff, if her mouth is full she can't yell at you (I did read somewhere that chocolate releases the feel good endorphins(?) in the brain, can only be a good thing). Wassalaam
03/27/05 at 16:31:38
Fozia

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
adam_taufique
03/30/05 at 23:04:02
[slm] SubhanAllah I am suprised that brothers are not responding! We all make mistakes, right!? When its that time of the month (actually before it is when 'pms' happens), just remember these tips: 1. Take a deep breath... twice... 2. LISTEN! 3. If you do not think you can do number 3, repeat 1 4. DO NOT RESPOND, let things slide off.. you have to be extra understanding (emphasis on, extra) There may be more, Allahu alim. [wlm]

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
thezman
03/31/05 at 01:42:46
I haven't been sentenced yet, but this is from observing family, friends and co- workers, If you respond you'll get your head chopped off, if you let it in one ear and out the other, then you'll be accused of ignoring her. so, just take a monthly sabbatical somewhere ;)

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
jaihoon
03/31/05 at 02:16:11
[slm] Çä Çááå ãÚ ÇáÕÇÈÑíä! ::)

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
dina
03/31/05 at 02:39:34
[slm] this is an interesting topic.......i like the response from the brothers. i was just wondering is a woman regardless of being married, is she held accountable for actions during pms??? [wlm]

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
buL-buL
03/31/05 at 09:40:45
asalaam alaykum i don't understand why it's so hard for some to control their emotions....doesn't this all go back to patience?  the more you have of it the easier it is to be in control?

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
pearl
03/31/05 at 21:21:31
[slm] [quote] i don't understand why it's so hard for some to control their emotions....doesn't this all go back to patience?  the more you have of it the easier it is to be in control?[/quote] I'm not sure that we should treat moodiness some women suffer during PMS as a type of moral failure. Many women have hormones that go wildly out of control and the problem is really more physical than emotional.  You can see similar scary mood fluctuations due to hormones in some women during and after pregnancy, too.  Some of this can be alleviated by medication, changes in diet and getting enough exercise.  And an understanding hubby doesn't hurt, either!  :-) Pearl

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
thezman
03/31/05 at 22:21:25
Bismillah   Salam Alaikum,  I don't think it's mental weakness, or lack of patience on the womans part. I don't think anyone has the ability to be absolutely patient 24/7 under all circumstances. It's impossible to be totally aware or in control of every act that eminates from you.  This is a bilogical  process that automatically occurs every month for years like clockwork...Once a situation becomes routine to you, you just go through the motion's without thinking.   I also noticed that some Sisters weren't aware of their "transformation," I would be sitting there listening to them and out of no where "verbal Left Hooks" land on my person.     I sit there in shock, thinking that i literally hadn't said a word. And when I bring to their attention than they just launched a surprise attack on me, they turn it around and make me the "aggressor," and now i gotta deal with "punches below the belt." so, the patience has to come from the person on the receiving end. so men will have to be punshing bags every month, it's the least they can do for their mates.   Besides, I'm very sympathetic with all women who have to go through this. I have no tolerance for pain, I would not be a good trooper if i had to deal with monthly cramps or giving birth (just remeber to give me Cyanide, if that ever happens).  Fi Amanillah  Z...

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
Trustworthy
04/02/05 at 04:26:45
[slm].... :D this is hilarious.  It's kind of late so if I say something out of the ordinary then you now...my excuse is...*drum roll* pms.   That's just it Bros...the sisters are going to kill me, but here's a little secret...there's no such thing.  Geuss who invented it...yup....us.  We did.  We did it so that we could get some kind of attention from our men.  *Runs and hide* *Peeks* Uhm....I'm letting the cat out of the bag because this is silly.  I feel so sorry for these men that have to deal with women who pretend it's so painful.  If it's so painful, you should be at the ER and get some powerful pain killers.  I mean it's not like you're going to bleed to death.  Raise your hand if anyone knows any women of bleeding to death from her menses.  Anyone?  Yup.  Uh huh.  You guys can't always be blamed for everything especially not his. I know some women, they go beyond mood swings and terrifying emotions.  This all can be handled and controlled.  Ladies?  I've been through labor and there AIN'T nuthin like labor pains, but we'd keep having children. So no, we don't get forgiven for "pms" because it's nothing.  We do get forgiven for going through labor.  Seeeeee.......now does it make sense guys? But for your sake and mine....let's just keep this between us and the next time a woman pulls a "pms" on you, you tell them to talk to Allah (SWT) (since they can't pray) about it cause you've got a game to catch.   FYI...yes i do have massive painful cramps so I do know what you're going through, just take some deep breaths, lay down, and ice it or heat it off. Poor saps.....women are just silly some times. Allah (SWT) bless.... Ma-assalaamah......

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
thezman
04/02/05 at 13:35:41
I just heard through the grape-vine that the sister's here took out a "Contract" on you...the "Hitwoman" is Marie Barone (every body loves raymond)...Good luck! Z...

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
Trustworthy
04/02/05 at 22:31:15
[slm].... I thought that name sounded familiar.  I'll sleep with both eyes open like this  :o   :P Allah (SWT) bless... Ma-assalaamah.....

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
Kathy
04/04/05 at 09:09:18
[slm] Serious note: Trustworthy, Alhumdullillah you have not experianced PMS problems. Be grateful to Allah swt and so should those who live with you. For many women PMS is definately real. Sure there are times I have 'faked or taken advantage' of my menses. Like... "Honey i am not feeling well, can you bring home dinner?! ;) " To times when I could barely get to the phone to ask, due to cramps, headache and other related symptoms. Mood swings are real. Most of those who experiance it do not even realize it and it takes someone else pointing it out, for us to even be aware that we are being irrational or moody. Subhannah Allah, you do not experience these problems. Please do not dismiss the reality of those who do suffer during this time. The last thing a woman needs to hear from her hubby while she is in a sea of hormonal changes is "I know you are faking it, Trustworthy said so!"

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
jannah
04/04/05 at 09:48:35
wlm, yeah i'm sorry i've seen plenty of women experience problems pre-during-and post... i knew one poor sister who had that endemetrial thing and she would be crying lying on the bed in her dorm in pain during the most painful middle period with a heating pad and tons of midol.. she does have it alot worse than us, but regardless when a person is experiencing that much loss of blood, pain, cramps, bloating and hormone shifts she isn't always going to be the perfect person and grin and bear it being all miss nicety nice to everyone around her. its kind of natural. just like say a guy or anyone else who say had 4 hours of sleep the night before. and u know some women may feel  like they don't experience any difference or have no problems, but maybe she doesn't notice them but I'm sure the ppl around her do even if they don't know what to attribute it to!!

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
Fozia
04/04/05 at 11:12:12
[slm] Have to agree with Sr's Jannah and Kathy, I used to get the worst pms when younger, I'd be literally knocked out and cramps weren't the only thing. I also used to get the worst migranes and it seriously used to take me a week to recover. Happily I suffer less now, but the migranes and cramps returned with a vengance in the first trimester of both my pregnancy's. We're all different, but I certainly wasn't faking the throwing up and fainting for a week in every month....gosh no!!! :o Wassalaam
04/06/05 at 12:12:00
Fozia

Re: How to treat wife during pms times?
tree
04/06/05 at 08:00:09
[slm] yup, i'd just like to add to this one...it's one thing to have a laugh about pms and the way women can use it to get their husbands to do certain things  ;) but it's another to say seriously that it's made up to get men to do what women want!   I get really really bad cramps, but no mood swings, ie, I get really sore, I'll want to be left alone, will need tlc, and it'll will be nice when others do everything for me, but i don't go mad and get angry, etc, Alhmadulillah.  I don't need to go to the er, but i do have pretty strong painkillers in my cupboard  ;D But i have a friend whose pms is so bad she's been taken to hospital a couple of times for it, been given morphine which hasn't killed the pain and so been given some more liquid morphine within the space of an hour...needless to say she was quite chilled out after that  8)  But, i can't imagine how during the time when she was in pain that she would be "reasonable" and not shout and scream and get annoyed at *anyone* who didn't do what she wanted!   And her sister is also on medication for her mood swings, which she can't control completely...and she's not married so isn't using it as an excuse to get her husband to do things for her! Different women, different pms.  Just like different women, different labour.  I know women who have been into hospital and given birth within a couple of hours and have said the labour wasn't very difficult.  Now how would all the mothers out there like it if i said that based on this case labour pains are not all that bad or painful, and are made up to get sympathy for carrying a baby for nine months  :o

Oscar
Anonymous
04/14/05 at 18:22:57
So what if a woman behaves like Oscar the Grouch all the time—not just during PMS?  Quote from Oscar the Grouch “I love trash.  It makes me happy.  Being happy makes me miserable.”

Grouchy
Kathy
04/15/05 at 09:52:51
Perhaps she is depressed or frustrated or terribly unhappy. If it truely is all the time, she needs some therapy. My suggestion is, until, during and after she finds help, to teach her to do dhikr, as in the Qur'an we are told: [i]translated[/i]  'Verily with the rememberance of Allah, does the heart find rest.'

me love cookies (the complete version) Re:PMS
Anonymous
04/20/05 at 18:53:19
Me love cookies……. Though  not married ,  I have seen my mother go through mood swings (both during her reproductive as well as  peri menopausal stage) , never did understand what  was wrong     growing up .Thinking back  thankfully it was not me atleast some of the time :). Men/sons/brothers…. have a knack of getting into trouble especially during   PMS period (guess its cross hormonal signals) , and tend to pick up an argument/respond to a provocation  during this time which they would have let go in non PMS circumstances The best way would be (if I didn’t answer my mom would get furious) just nod your head and say you are right honey/or what ever mom ;) But jokes apart women tend to be edgy (blame it on the hormones and physical changes) during this time and this seems to be the norm ( I can make out my fiancé being real edgy/testy at least once a month of course on the telephone ….sorry peeps no scoops here) Guys.......... learn to let go :)

Even to the Best of Us.
Kathy
05/01/05 at 19:00:10
[slm] As a result of this post, I thought I would keep track of my moods. Generally I am an easy fun loving kinda gal. And my son, husband and friends like to hang out with me. Don't even try to tell me I was irrational: My hubby and I are out shopping. Asr time is almost out and Hubby has the nerve to want to go home and pray! I really wanted to go to the pet store! Why couldn't he just make tayymum and pray in the parking lot? I did not speak to him for the rest of the night! I come home and see that he hasn't fed my son, who is quite capable of getting food for himself.  I get so mad I lift the casserol dish over my head with all thoughts of smashing it on the floor. Did I mention, the casserole was filled with lunch he made, while i was at Quranic class? My son is playing with a ball in the back seat while I was driving. It skimmed the back of my scarf, as light as a bird feather. I scream- I have told him that if it ever happens again I would throw it out the window... and then I procede to do so in the middle of driving! I have to go to the bathroom. Hubby is in there. Why does he always have to go when I do????? and what is he doing?????? Is he polishing his jewels??????????? I have to go to the MSA dinner, speaker does not show, they ask me. What is wrong with them? "I know you think I am all that..but I am not!" the topic is Islam and Racism.... tell them if i speak- it will all be negative and i will tell it like it is! Meeting sis's for lunch... need to make dua for me, because i want to bite their heads off for not completing a project...and i want to take a chunk! Brother sees me going into the library at an unscheduled time. He wants me to stop everything I am doing to load up a bag of dawah material and Qurans to give out at the Banquet... You want them? Go get them yourself! and don't even consider asking me to sit at the table! It is my night out! Sad to say this has all happened in the last 48 hours.... Irrational???? I dare you to tell me so!

re
Fozia
05/02/05 at 13:02:28
[quote author=Kathy link=board=bro;num=1110300638;start=20#29 date=05/01/05 at 19:00:10] [slm] As a result of this post, I thought I would keep track of my moods. Generally I am an easy fun loving kinda gal. And my son, husband and friends like to hang out with me. Don't even try to tell me I was irrational: My hubby and I are out shopping. Asr time is almost out and Hubby has the nerve to want to go home and pray! I really wanted to go to the pet store! Why couldn't he just make tayymum and pray in the parking lot? I did not speak to him for the rest of the night! I come home and see that he hasn't fed my son, who is quite capable of getting food for himself.  I get so mad I lift the casserol dish over my head with all thoughts of smashing it on the floor. Did I mention, the casserole was filled with lunch he made, while i was at Quranic class? My son is playing with a ball in the back seat while I was driving. It skimmed the back of my scarf, as light as a bird feather. I scream- I have told him that if it ever happens again I would throw it out the window... and then I procede to do so in the middle of driving! I have to go to the bathroom. Hubby is in there. Why does he always have to go when I do????? and what is he doing?????? Is he polishing his jewels??????????? I have to go to the MSA dinner, speaker does not show, they ask me. What is wrong with them? "I know you think I am all that..but I am not!" the topic is Islam and Racism.... tell them if i speak- it will all be negative and i will tell it like it is! Meeting sis's for lunch... need to make dua for me, because i want to bite their heads off for not completing a project...and i want to take a chunk! Brother sees me going into the library at an unscheduled time. He wants me to stop everything I am doing to load up a bag of dawah material and Qurans to give out at the Banquet... You want them? Go get them yourself! and don't even consider asking me to sit at the table! It is my night out! Sad to say this has all happened in the last 48 hours.... Irrational???? I dare you to tell me so! [/quote] [slm] There we have it, now who said women become irrational, hormonal, monsters once a month......??? Good job you're laid back Sr, by the above discription you're obviously so laid back you're practically horizontal.... :D Wassalaam

Heeeeyyyyy aaayyyyeeee now wait a minute....
Trustworthy
05/05/05 at 03:32:22
[slm]..... I was not talking about the painful cramps because I do experience them.  I mentioned that I get them, I just don't use it to bite people's heads off.  I do that on a daily basis like Sis Kathy wants to.  When I get those pains, like I said, I try to relax by laying down and heat it off.  I don't even want to look at another person when this is going on just let me pass the pain stage and I'll be OK after where you can bother me all you want.  And like it was said earlier, if it's too painful....go to the ER.  I know some girls who cry all day but they don't go on chewing heads off.  The pain is manageable.  It's all I'm ssaying and the mood swings are controllable cause if you can't control it then you have something else other then pain.... I was merely speaking out on the MOOOOOD swings and emotional outbursts and lashing on the opposite gender, UNNECESSARY LADIES.....UN...NECESSARY.  I still stand by that.  PMS, hormone changes don't cause you to have a mental break down.  It's all in your head.  Split personalities.  Really scary thang.  *OH What was that that just flew by my head?*  "Who threw that?"  I'm kidding....it's not split personalities.  ;D  But it's not do to PMS either. Y'all just got to simmer down now. Bros...please don't use my name in your excuses cause you have no excuse for making your wives mad at you.  If she's mad at you, there must be a reason.  Really.  May be a past reason, but there is a reason to her anger or crying.  When this happens, take her hand and take about it.  Think back together about what wrong you might've done and then ask for her forgiveness. So am I good?  Am I good now? You guys are too sweeeeet.....strange that we are talking about menses in a Brothers forum. Allah (SWT) bless........ Ma-assalaamah....

You need a Reality Check
Kathy
05/05/05 at 09:45:52
[quote author=Trustworthy link=board=bro;num=1110300638;start=30#31 date=05/05/05 at 03:32:22]  I just don't use it to bite people's heads off.  I do that on a daily basis like Sis Kathy wants to.  [/quote] Trust me, I don't want to! It is a rage that boils up, and you are even aware of it. I mean really, what wife would not want to have her hubby pray. What wife would want to smash dinner, because her son did not eat. These are irrational thoughts. Which is why I posted them. Most people on this board know I am not a mean '..itchy' woman. They are crazy thoughts that seem to happen once a month. [quote] I was merely speaking out on the MOOOOOD swings and emotional outbursts and lashing on the opposite gender, UNNECESSARY LADIES.....UN...NECESSARY. [/quote] None of my remarks were neccessary. I am not sure what it is that causes the mental breakdowns, however, almost every report I have read said it is due to hormone flucuations. What are you basing your opinion on? I think almost all of us go through a teary phase, especially when those hallmark commercials comes on. Bring out the tissues!  As I near menopause, I listen to women speak about their experiances and their emotions. Many have mood swings. Be greatful to Allah swt that you don't go through this. By the way we are not talking about menses in this section. I think it is irresponsible for you to post in the manner you did. Please do not throw a blanket "trustworthy fatwa" on all of the Muslimah population. It is unfair to those who really do suffer the mood swings and you are misguiding the brothers who have wives like me. [quote]So am I good?  Am I good now? [/quote] No.. you are bad...very bad now....

UH....OH....
Trustworthy
05/05/05 at 12:58:13
[slm].... Ohhhhhh Sis Kathy…forgive me please.  This is not fatwa. This is all in good nature fun.  At least I thought it was. *confused look*  :( OK. OK.  You win this battle.  I surrender.  I surrender.  Have mercy.  *down on knees* Waves white flag.   :'( *rrrrrrreeeeeeeaaaaaarrrrrrrr*   During pregnancy and menopause, women go through extreme amounts of hormonal fluctuations experiencing hot/cold flashes, emotional outbursts of all sorts from crying hysterically to spending their life savings on pickles and ice cream, temporary amnesia, and forgivable MOOD SWINGS, etc.  Men should read more on this as to understand their wives and not take things so personally during these times.  So I’m not referring this post to these situations.  I mean you wouldn’t believe the MOOD SWINGS I had during my pregnancy.  I went from “Could you please have this report done and on my desk by this afternoon, Bob?” with a sincere tone and smile to “Why the HE** am I working with a bunch of  #@!* MEN?  WHY ARE YOU ALL MEN?” Screaming at my male colleagues at the top of my lungs just because I truly HATED them at that time.  No reason, just hated them for that moment in time.  They all literally went running out of the conference room.  True story.  They look back at those days now and laugh, but there are still the very few that won’t come even 2’ of me in fear.   You still need to learn self control during your “PMS” and menses.  These are very slight hormonal fluctuations that should not be an excuse to yell at your husband because he wants to go pray and you want to shop at the smelly pet store.  It is irrational behavior.  *runs to the hills now*  *yells from behind a far distant hill* Go to a spa if your stressed.  You can spend a whole day there, you’re not praying.  That helps.  But you're near menopause so may be..... But here’s a little fatwa for you all if that’s what you want…. Just because you are on your menses or have “PMS” does not mean that you forget Allah (SWT).  That’s why we are not automatically forgiven for our sins during this time.  Please refer to Bro Timbuktu’s thread on the Remembrance of Allah (SWT) for further reading. Hee hee hee hee….. :-/ Am I good now?   Allah (SWT) bless….. Ma-assalaamah…..

Female Cycle - Altered Brain Chemistry
pearl
05/16/05 at 21:53:50
[slm] Hmmmm... according to this article, it really IS all in our heads! http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,156703,00.html Pearl :'(

Innocent question
thezman
06/10/05 at 04:20:25
Bismillah Why not just pop a motrin/advil/aleve, and eliminate the pain in it's infancy? and if you resort to taking a tablet for your cramps, does that eliminate the rage factor also, since there is no more pain?

Don't get me started....
Kathy
06/10/05 at 10:28:44
The rage is not from the pain... you idiot! Did you not learn anything from the above posts! >:( The rage is the result of stupid men asking such stupid questions! >:( :'( :-/ >:( :D :'( :'( :o ;)[i](disclaimer... the above is an example of a hormonal wife)[/i]

ooops!
thezman
06/10/05 at 21:06:11
lol, men aren't complex creatures... you have to be very direct, We're not good at interpretation

hmm...
Aabidah
06/28/05 at 14:53:23
[slm] I dont want to burst anyones bubble but I wanted to point out something. I find it inappropriate to talk about a topic of this nature so freely among the brothers and sisters. Dont get me wrong, it's important for brothers to know and maybe for sisters as well, but the fact that we can be so open about it, explain things in detail seem inappropriate to me. I realize that a lot of people are going to disagree with me but it's a point to think about. "La haya'u fid deen" is something I know and remember during topics such as these but in this case, the discussion seems to be more open than it needs to be. wassalamu alaikum, Aabidah
06/28/05 at 14:54:27
Aabidah

la haya fi deen
jannah
06/28/05 at 15:15:25
[wlm] that's true aabidah, but as you can see from the first post, since this topic is kept so secretive and hidden as we are all growing up, many brothers are quite clueless and may inadvertently be insensitive and harsh with their wives because they are not educated on this.  that's why a sisters perspective and advice can be useful inshaAllah

How to treat wife during pms times?
Nadeem
07/04/05 at 22:14:29
[slm] I just read this thread... and umm... sorry but... LOL  :D Its been a lively discussion for sure.  The brothers have hardly said anything in here, and the ones who have had their heads bitten off.  :D I feel for the women who have to go through a difficult time of the month, and their family around them, especially the husband. I think I've been fortunate, that all of the women round me, seem to have more manageable periods - at the most a bit of pain, etc, but not psychopathic hormonal changes.  Or perhaps, I'm just a typical bloke and a bit slow. I think the best thing to do is give your missus or other female member a bit of leeway if she's suffering.  Be a little more understanding, make her a cup of tea or something, let her watch the TV for once instead of hogging it. And if she really gets too aggressive then go take a walk, and don't come back until much later... and maybe bring some chocolates or other gift on the wayback. On a more practical note, homeopathic and herbal remedies are often very good for these kinds of problems, and these should be looked into. [wlm]

Paging Dr. Ruth
thezman
07/06/05 at 06:14:25
I'll be a trooper and place my head on the chopping block once again: you should think about  starting  a 'hormonal hotline' for those whose episodes are in full bloom? You'll be saving a lot of mens necks.  ;)

lol
Kathy
07/06/05 at 13:00:05
[quote author=thezman link=board=bro;num=1110300638;start=40#41 date=07/06/05 at 06:14:25]  starting  a 'hormonal hotline' for those whose episodes are in full bloom? [/quote] ;) Ever hear of the proverbial 'catfights?"

oh yeah
thezman
07/06/05 at 16:26:12
indeed, very entertaining events  ;)
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