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| desentisizing oneself |
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| timbuktu |
| 03/25/05 at 11:08:34 |
| [slm] OK, here is a problem I genuinely face. How to desentisize oneself? Oh, I have managed to do so for many types of sensitivities. People call me whatever they like, and I seldom lose my cool. The physical ones are just there to live with if there is no innoculation for them, and innoculations do not work. But how does one desentisize oneself from feeling stupid, down and apprehensive after making blunders. And that too repeatedly. :( |
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| Mona |
| 03/27/05 at 08:14:27 |
| [slm] subhana Allah! If you really want to put a stop to a repeating behaviour, the last thing you want to do is to desensetize yourself. i'd think that you'd want to remember it so well so that a red flag comes up in your head when faced with a similar situation in the future. but i think i know what you might mean - how to deal with the frustration after experiencing this so many times before? well, you gotta stop being hard on yourself and remember that you had the best of intentions going into those situations. we are not responsible for the outcomes; we try our best and if Allah wills, we succeed. so, just cheer up and look at you other successes like raising good children and taking care of your household and community. focus on the positive and don't magnify the negative. and duas are always helpful. they are like magic, subhanna Allah. istighfar is also a very effective way to combat the blues. take care wassalam |
| 03/27/05 at 08:16:06 |
| Mona |
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| Fozia |
| 03/27/05 at 16:10:51 |
| [slm] Agree with Sr. Mona, you don't want to desensitise yourself from feeling upset about making blunders. We are all human and none of us averse to making mistakes, that you feel foolish about your shortcomings, helps because you will then go about trying to recify your error.... And there I thought grown-ups never make mistakes ;) Wassalaam |
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| timbuktu |
| 03/30/05 at 11:30:54 |
| [slm] thanks. It was quite good advice. :) |
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