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| To break or delay commitment of marriage? |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/14/05 at 18:21:29 |
| dear brothers and sisters i made a commitment of marriage to a sister but now feel i am not ready. it is not anything on the sisters part. it is me and i need more time maybe 2 or 3 years before i think i will be ready. how do i break this to her? i do not want to offend or hurt anyone. no firm plans or date was set. simply i not ready in many ways. |
| Re: To break or delay commitment of marriage? |
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| Fozia |
| 04/15/05 at 15:50:03 |
| [slm] An engagement is not a marriage, good job you decided now. Just tell her. On the other hand you might lose out on a good life partner.... Wassalaam |
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| se7en |
| 04/15/05 at 22:40:53 |
| as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullah, I hope all is well insha'Allah. I think the sooner you break it off with the sister the better, so that both of you can move on emotionally and spiritually. I would suggest just being gentle, and making duaa that she finds someone right for her and that will bring her happiness. After the engagment is broken, I don't think you two should communicate, nor should you give her promises of proposing in a few years. Insha'Allah, in this way, she will be able to consider other proposals without any lingering feelings or attachment. Islamically, you should not express your feelings or interest in someone until you are ready and capable of marriage. So, even if you are thinking about re-proposing in a few years, I don't think you should mention this until the time comes. may Allah guide you to the best decisions and course of action. wasalaamu alaykum |
| 04/15/05 at 22:45:22 |
| se7en |
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