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| Need advice on how to deal with sister? |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/20/05 at 18:51:28 |
| Need advice on how to deal with a selfish/ manipulative My sister always thinks of herself first not anyone else, the longest time I can remember she like to dominate and be little others, especially anyone she demes weak. She does not work and works on various business ideas, I work so I try my best to provide and fund her business. She is always borrowing money, now she even spends money I was holding for someone. She is very manipulative when she wants something and at times very mien. We are all aware of what she does but everyone kinds feels sorry for her, because at the age of 39 yrs old she is still at home and with nothing really. I just don't know what to do anyone. I would appreciate any advice, jazakaAllah. |
| yikes |
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| Kathy |
| 04/22/05 at 21:43:37 |
| [slm] At 39, she is pretty set in her ways. Curious in your letter, how does she manipulate you into giving her money? Dr. Phil says someone can not take advantage of you unless you let them. I would get her a good book on backbiting. |
| Do not encourage her by helping |
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| sal |
| 04/23/05 at 04:35:07 |
| It is hard to change a person to the way you like but easy to get used to the way she is However this should not mean to help the person go forward in the same wrong path. To do this If you do not give big concentration on her personal behavior that doesn’t reach you You won’t feel how terrible she is, This way you can get used to her If you stop giving her money and things that make you feel you are a victim of her strange manner you can this way also stop helping her go further in her same detested conduct.Therefore is easy to get used to her again |
| busy busy |
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| theOriginal |
| 04/23/05 at 07:46:32 |
| [slm] She needs a job. Like a creative but lucrative way to keep herself busy. She doesn't even have to leave her home to do this. What you can do: make polite suggestions. And good luck, inshaAllah...family rox. Wasalaam. |
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