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| theOriginal |
| 06/04/05 at 06:11:11 |
| [slm] How do you respond to bad news? What are the etiquettes for offering condolences for an illness? A death? How about when it's long distance? Email sucks for things like this, but I'm oh-so-bad at phone calls. What if it's someone who's very close? Someone who you don't know too well? What is the Islamic stance on this? JazakAllah Khair... Wasalaam. |
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| onemuslimgirl |
| 06/04/05 at 07:19:51 |
| asalam alakum, usually for death i say; inna lilAllah wa inna ilayhee rajee3ooun from Allah we come and to him we return i don't know if you can use this for other bad news also, but i think u can hope this helps |
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| anon |
| 06/05/05 at 13:28:52 |
| [slm] If I were you, I would write a real letter (snail mail thing), maybe with a verse of two from the Quran and tell the person that the deceased was in a better place inshAllah. Actual letters mean a whole lot more than email. Or maybe I am just too old fashioned. |
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| Trustworthy |
| 06/06/05 at 18:16:29 |
| [slm]... Forgive me Sis but I can't help you in this department. I'm bad at it as well. I try to avoid it as much as I can. It's so aukward (sp?) for me. Once I said something wrong trying to give my condolences and someone told me "that I was not helping". Since then, I am speechless when it comes to these things. The only right thing I know to say is "inna lillaahi wa inna ilayhi raaji'oon" which you already know. As for other kinds of bad news, you just have to get it over with and know that Allah (SWT) is with us and does things for a reason even though we might not understand it now or ever. Just keep PUSHing. (Pray Until Something Happens) Always offer your du'as to the one or family in need and visit those that are ill. Allah Most High says: “O Son of Adam! I was sick but you did not visit me.” He says: “O My Lord! How could I have visited You when You are the Lord of the worlds? Allah will say: “Did you know that My servant so and so was sick and you did not visit him. Did you know that if you had visited him you would have found Me there? O Son of Adam! I asked you for food but you did not give Me any.” “O My Lord! How could I have fed You when You are the Lord of the worlds? Allah will say: Did you not know that My servant so and so asked you for food but you did not give him any. Did you know that if you had fed him, you would have found (reward) with Me? “ O son of Adam! I asked you for water and you did not give me any. He says: “O My Lord! How could I have given You drink when You are the Lord of the worlds? Allah will say: Did you not know that My servant so and so asked you for a drink and you did not give him any? Did you not know that if you had given him something to drink you would have found (your reward) with Me? (Related by Muslim according to Abu Huraira) and this is one of the one's I like best: Allah Most High said, a servant who advances towards Me by a hand’s breadth, I advance towards him by an arm’s length. And if he advances towards Me by an arm’s length, I advance towards him by the span of outstretched arms. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him running. (Related by al-Bukhari according to Anas). All the best. Allah (SWT) bless.... Ma-assalaamah..... |
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| bhaloo |
| 06/08/05 at 09:11:26 |
| [slm] It was narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “To Allaah belongs that which He has taken and that which He gives, and with Him everything has an appointed end, so be patient and seek reward.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, al-Janaa’iz, 1204) Those people that live nearby, you should visit them and offer condolences, it means so much more when the person does this personally. Writing a letter just seems so cold and distant. If the person is someone you don't know too well and lives far away, then at least an email or letter would show that you are empathetic to the individual's plight. The idea of condolences is to bring them consolation, stem their grief and help them to be patient. |
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